Bigredcasey Posted June 13, 2016 Share Posted June 13, 2016 Hello All, I was with my ex for 7.5 years. We were each others first real relationship. We use to talk about marriage and kids all the time. I was going to ask her to marry me but we were not financially stable at the time. She left me because she said i ignored her and didnt care enough to get her a ring ect ect. The first month i did everything you are not suppose to do. Call/text all the time, beg for her to come back, promising it will be different. She blocked me from facebook and changed her number. I started the no contact and after the month i messaged her on instagram stating i had some of her stuff. We started talking and she said that we should be friends. I told her i still wanted to be with her so i do not think its a good idea to be friends. I said if we are never getting back together again then we can be friends. She stated "Not saying we are or we're not but friends would be a good starting point if we do get back together...not saying that we will". We talked all day that night. The next day she called me crying stating her doctor was really mean to her. I calmed her down and helped her out with the issue. She brought up the relationship and i told her deep down i know she wants to be with me and she still loves me but is too hurt. I told her i understand she will need time. She seems confused. She wants me to go out dating to see what else is out there and to get my mind off her. She is going out on dates as well. I think she has the Grass is Greener Syndrome. I am talking to another girl and she understands everything we are taking it really slow. I still want my ex back more than anything. Im confused because she deleted me from everything and now she wants to be friends and we may or may not get back together. I feel like she is keeping me on the back burner but wants me to date. Im confused any advice. Link to post Share on other sites
jmc2ct Posted June 14, 2016 Share Posted June 14, 2016 You seem like a very nice and respectful, you deserve better doll-face. Moving on and getting over someone takes time. . A sht ton of time. Go out and do what you want... move on & if she is ment to be with you.. then it will be. But, explore the sea!!! Link to post Share on other sites
tndawg Posted June 16, 2016 Share Posted June 16, 2016 Dating sounds good. Ending a relationship only to have that person re-enter your life is hard. A "slow re-entry" is always a smart choice. Take it slow. Friendships are important and especially so with someone you want to spend your life with. Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted June 17, 2016 Share Posted June 17, 2016 Move on. She's not 100% sure she wants you as her only partner. You don't mess with less certainty because she'll always doubt her feelings which builds resentment then ends 3 years further down the road in much more painful fashion. Let her go find herself and what she wants while you do the same and if it's meant to be you'll find each other again. In the meantime, be generous with your space and don't rush this friendship. No post-dating friendship works well if either ex tells the other about their new dating. So just stay out of that subject if you do become friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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