Ilovegage801 Posted June 14, 2016 Share Posted June 14, 2016 around then one day she wanted to be my gf. We moved in together and were inseperable. We had good chemistry, great sex and common goals. Im not gonna go to far into details but basically I got fired, got depressed and turned needy for the last month and it pushed her away. We broke up, and this time it was different as usually within a couple days of a fight she would call and we would make it work. Im not a needy person normally and shes use to guys that always call her and chase her and i just never did that and I think that is why she fell for me. So for a couple weeks I tried getting her back but when i reread the texts holy crap I was just a big puss. I read those texts and I snapped out of my depression, started hitting the gym again and didnt talk to her for a week, and then she text me and wanted me to go see her. She called and told me she loved me and wanted to be together. This was last saturday, then last monday i went and seen her, and she was a wreck, wouldnt let me look at her face etc and told me how good i looked now ( i was out of shape but a couple weeks in the gym and i am back to the old me), and how she was just gonna bring me down. She knew I had been dating, but I told her i would give them all up to be with her. She called me that monday and we talked about us and I was suppose to call her back but I was kinda busy. I didnt speak to her nor did she try to text until thursday night she sent a text saying :"good to hear from you" I replied saying "youre suppose to love me" and she said " i do" I said I cant tell then nothing after that. Do I go nc for a while> I dont want to lose her but obviously she doesnt miss me enough to call me to want to hang out. She told me monday she wanted to start dating. She says one thing then acts completely different. I have been dating other girls but it just makes it worse, it makes me miss her, but I have been trying to patch things with her for a month and im not going to be the only one trying anymore. So do I just go NC? I am good at giving advice to others but when it comes to my own relationships I suck. so does her texting me saying good to hear from you mean she still cares? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 14, 2016 Share Posted June 14, 2016 around then one day she wanted to be my gf. We moved in together and were inseperable. We had good chemistry, great sex and common goals. Im not gonna go to far into details but basically I got fired, got depressed and turned needy for the last month and it pushed her away. We broke up, and this time it was different as usually within a couple days of a fight she would call and we would make it work. Im not a needy person normally and shes use to guys that always call her and chase her and i just never did that and I think that is why she fell for me. So for a couple weeks I tried getting her back but when i reread the texts holy crap I was just a big puss. I read those texts and I snapped out of my depression, started hitting the gym again and didnt talk to her for a week, and then she text me and wanted me to go see her. She called and told me she loved me and wanted to be together. This was last saturday, then last monday i went and seen her, and she was a wreck, wouldnt let me look at her face etc and told me how good i looked now ( i was out of shape but a couple weeks in the gym and i am back to the old me), and how she was just gonna bring me down. She knew I had been dating, but I told her i would give them all up to be with her. She called me that monday and we talked about us and I was suppose to call her back but I was kinda busy. I didnt speak to her nor did she try to text until thursday night she sent a text saying :"good to hear from you" I replied saying "youre suppose to love me" and she said " i do" I said I cant tell then nothing after that. Do I go nc for a while> I dont want to lose her but obviously she doesnt miss me enough to call me to want to hang out. She told me monday she wanted to start dating. She says one thing then acts completely different. I have been dating other girls but it just makes it worse, it makes me miss her, but I have been trying to patch things with her for a month and im not going to be the only one trying anymore. So do I just go NC? I am good at giving advice to others but when it comes to my own relationships I suck. so does her texting me saying good to hear from you mean she still cares? You're not making sense. You were supposed to call her, and didn't. Correct? And you are wondering why she didn't call? I don't follow this logic. This sounds like you're playing games and trying to "test" her and it backfired. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovegage801 Posted June 14, 2016 Author Share Posted June 14, 2016 Sorry i didnt clarify. I text her that night telling her goodnight and to let me know when she wants to date. Shes on the brink of getting fired and stresses about it but i told her to quit and id pay her rent and i gave her 100 bucks last monday. Im trying to give her space but still miss the hell out of her. I just wanna know she cares Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 14, 2016 Share Posted June 14, 2016 Sorry i didnt clarify. I text her that night telling her goodnight and to let me know when she wants to date. Shes on the brink of getting fired and stresses about it but i told her to quit and id pay her rent and i gave her 100 bucks last monday. Im trying to give her space but still miss the hell out of her. I just wanna know she cares Stop bankrolling her. I realize you care and are acting on good intentions, but you need to be careful not to be taken advantage of either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovegage801 Posted June 14, 2016 Author Share Posted June 14, 2016 I hear you. She didnt ask i offered it to her. I just want to know if she cares and if nc isvright to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovegage801 Posted June 18, 2016 Author Share Posted June 18, 2016 She text me last night which is exactly a week from when she text me last Weve never not talked for longer than a week she just said she didnt forget about me and shell pay me next friday. I told her to keep it but she sais she wants to pay it cause she knows ill twist it up and tell people she needed dope money . Im just confused on if i go nc or give her space and just talk when she texts me. Only a week ago she was saying she loved me and wantedvto be together. She is kosing her job and i have offered as much support as i can so what do i do Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 18, 2016 Share Posted June 18, 2016 She text me last night which is exactly a week from when she text me last Weve never not talked for longer than a week she just said she didnt forget about me and shell pay me next friday. I told her to keep it but she sais she wants to pay it cause she knows ill twist it up and tell people she needed dope money . Im just confused on if i go nc or give her space and just talk when she texts me. Only a week ago she was saying she loved me and wantedvto be together. She is kosing her job and i have offered as much support as i can so what do i do You stop trying to rescue her and be the good guy. She is an adult; she needs to get her crap together and find a new job. Accept the money back from her in the form of a bank transfer. Does she have a drug issue? Why would she assume you'd tell people she borrowed money for dope? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovegage801 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Share Posted June 20, 2016 she texted me on fathers day, not to say happy fathers day but to ask if i knew what happened to her phone she lost like 4 months ago? wtf. I dont know if she is grasping at straws here to communicate which i hope or if she really wanted to know and just dont care no more. So again NC or no? I really hate to do that as we dont talk much as it is right now, and I dont want her to just stop caring. All our communication has been initiated by her but its not like she is asking me to hang out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ilovegage801 Posted June 24, 2016 Author Share Posted June 24, 2016 update- she text me this morning out of the blue asking why i was so fake. I was like wtf. then she said it was cause a while ago i supposedly loved her and now i never try to contact her etc. I just told her that i wasnt interested in pursuing someone who wasnt going to put effort into the relationship. Long story short we are atleast talking now. I still got some work to do and so does she. Im glad I didnt go full NC cause I would feel bad but I just didnt initiate contact from my end for about a month but always replied to her texts and never starting diving back into feeling talks etc i miss you i love you... I am happy that i know she still cares but we still got much work to do to begin patching things up. I was gonna ask her out but I think I will wait till she mentions it as I dont want to rush back into me being a total db, and letting her know she has me. I will still keep everyone updated on the situation, hopefully its good news. Link to post Share on other sites
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