Am I correct for getting upset at my cousin?

[Maliel]

My cousin has been dealing with an issue recently with her boyfriend, who has been in jail for the past 8 months. Something recently happened which led to him being put in solitary confinement and she was unable to talk to him or anyone else to find out what happened. I tried calling her a couple times today and she ended up calling me back fourty minutes later. I asked how she was doing and if she knew anything more. She said she was fine but she hasn't heard any updates, so we proceeded to talk as normal.

 

Soon she got another call, said something really quickly and clicked over to her other call and hanging up on ours very abruptly; I felt kind of weird about that. After she called back a few minutes later, I asked her who called during our last call/what happened? It turns out that the other call was someone connected to her boyfriend possibly calling to give her an update.

 

I said that it kinda felt rude that she clicked over so quickly without even really saying anything to me beforehand. I said that the issue is clearly important but I think that it's also important to be respectful of others who you're already in a call with. She then replied with the stance that I 'should be lucky she even said anything before clicking over.' At that point I was pretty appalled at the level of selfishness and disregard for other people. I understand she may be going through a tough time but that doesn't really give you the right to just treat people as if they don't matter?

 

Am I being too sensitive? Honestly, I could see if her house was on fire or something happened to her kid but really, what kinda person thinks it'd be okay to just randomly take another call without giving someone a head's up?

[mrs rubble]

She "said something really quickly" before clicking over to the other call, so she did give you a heads up. Yes I think you are being too picky.

[Maliel]

She "said something really quickly" before clicking over to the other call, so she did give you a heads up. Yes I think you are being too picky.

 

I would probably think the same thing if she didn't tell me that I should be lucky that she said anything, that comment was super selfish and really makes a person feel taken for granted and disrespected.

[MsJayne]

I think she's a drama queen and a rude one at that. Her partner's not in hospital dying, he's in jail because he's a tool, (he wouldn't be in jail if he wasn't a tool, the crime is irrelevant), and she behaved as if she's waiting for life-and-death information. Yes, she was rude, but what do you expect from someone who has such low expectations of life that she hooks up with a tool who ends up in jail? To say to you that you're lucky she said anything at all, well, I'd be moving on to find friends who have a grain of respect for you.

[mrs rubble]

I would probably think the same thing if she didn't tell me that I should be lucky that she said anything, that comment was super selfish and really makes a person feel taken for granted and disrespected.

I think that comment was an angry reaction to you questioning her taking the other call- you know there's stuff happening in her life that she wants to know about, your questioning why she took the call got her back up.

[Maliel]

your questioning why she took the call got her back up.

 

I remember saying 'I know that's important too but I would appreciate it if you could be a little more respectful toward a person who's taking time out of their day to talk to you.' Nobody was dying, it's just utter selfishness really.

[basil67]

You over reacted. Which then prompted her to say the bit about you being lucky she said anything.

 

Just let each other's snappiness cancel out the other one and forgive.

[anika99]

I would probably think the same thing if she didn't tell me that I should be lucky that she said anything, that comment was super selfish and really makes a person feel taken for granted and disrespected.

 

No you didn't think the same thing. You were pissed and lecturing her even before she made the comment about you should be lucky.

 

I question your friend's choice of boyfriend, he sounds like a bit of a lowlife and if she were my friend I'd be more concerned about that rather then an abruptly ended phone call but that's not what this thread is about. When somebody is waiting on important news (doesn't matter if it qualifies as important to you) then obviously they are not going to choose to miss that news so that they can have idle chit chat with you. I get that it felt a bit insulting in the moment but that's only because you let your ego get involved.