deni9 Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 Im 23 years old. I am 5'7 and Im thin (130)...I have girls telling me how they wish to be as "skinny" as me. (which i dont think im that skinny) I use to weight 200lbs before i lost so much weight when i was a teenager. I notice that i received a lot of attention by guys. Nowadays, (never before) did i look at my body and felt like not good enough. I feel like i have to look like Kim K to feel accepted by girls, guys and even my own my boyfriend, i feel like he can do better since im too "thin". To describe my body, I am small chest. 34-36B. i am a size 4/6. and i have wide hips... i hate my look. i have long thin muscle legs, which i also feel insecure because i feel like i need to look thick. Does anyone else had experience with this? Im turning 24 soon, and i cant believe im barely feeling this way.. How can I overcome this... I always say im going to have surgeries done to my body and hire personal trainers to make my legs look thicker. I just cant deal with this anymore.. Every day i think about it...I want to scream and rip my thoughts away... Help me please.... Link to post Share on other sites
Aniela Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 (edited) I think you sound like you're at a healthy weight. I used to have people comment on my figure, as well, and also had body issues - I thought my legs were too long and didn't have enough shape to them, my chest was too big, waist too short, etc. I started working out with weights, when I was eighteen. Little ones, at home, and developed a bit more of a shape to my legs, as a result. You could probably join a gym, or ask someone for help in that way. It also sounds like people accept you as you are, but you don't see it (if they're saying that they want to look like you). You shouldn't have to alter your body in order to be accepted by anyone. Why do you hate how you look? I don't know anyone who wants to look like a Kardashian. Edited June 19, 2016 by Aniela 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author deni9 Posted June 19, 2016 Author Share Posted June 19, 2016 I suppose it all started when my friends or cousins will give me a compliment and then slap me with an insult afterwards. Ex. "You look amazing in any type of clothes, but you would look better if_____________" and then i would watch how other women check and criticize other women and then compare and contrast and saying the perfect body is a full chest, small waist, and perfect round butt, but not too tall. and i look at myself, and i want to ignore them because i know i am me, and one day ill get old and none of that will matter, but i cant help but let it eat me up. I've notice even girls that i never thought would critique themselves, and made me wonder "if they do it, then maybe theres something wrong with me" When i go out with my bf, i see so many beautiful women and i degrade myself. I just really need to stop, i know i sound ridiculous...but its became a really bad habit. People have compared me to Candice body shapefrom Victoria secret and tell me that i need to put more weight on to look more like "curvy" women. I cant help but have this body type, its not easy to gain weight (after i lost weight) and if i did gain weight i wouldnt look like the girls in hollywood... I feel trapped in a box, bombarded by people saying that i need more fat, the media, social media.... i dont watch tv anymore because of it.... P.s Thank you for your response. Does your past body issues, still creep up on you? if so, how do you deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 19, 2016 Share Posted June 19, 2016 You can make the most of yourself you know by something like weight training. Learning how to squat will give you a very nice bum. Mine is naturally small but focus on my glutes has given me a round bum and it looks so good in jeans. You will feel better if you build a stronger, curvier physique. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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