YourNotAlone Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 So my girlfriend cheated on me about 2 months ago I didn't intiate any type of contact with she didn't even message me once I messaged her saying. I really regret it now and I'm scared if she won't reply.. And she's seeing another guy now also Hi ******, It's been a long time since i messaged you last I hope you're doing well, I just had a few things in mind that I would like to share with you. Things went south for us and it didn't work out I acknowledged that long time ago. you're a great woman & we have shared good memories together. I'm guessing you have moved on since you haven't initiated any type of contact with me, for even an apology about what you have done to me, but the past is the past and we all move on sooner or later. I wish things didn't end up this way, but there's a reason behind everything. I was there for you always and you were for me also and I appreciate that. The reason why I messaged you was because I'm leaving Melbourne in couple of weeks and heading off to United States for future studies in the law firm I wish you the very best in life stay safe xx 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 snip So my girlfriend cheated on me about 2 months ago I didn't intiate any type of contact with she didn't even message me once I messaged her saying. I really regret it now and *I'm scared if she won't reply.. And she's seeing another guy now also *Why are you scared that she won't reply? The relationship is over and she's with somebody else, so what difference would it make? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 This great woman cheated on you bro...keep that in mind. She's not great, so take off the rose-colored glasses and move on. I know it sucks, but take it day by day. You'll be alright! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 23, 2016 Author Share Posted June 23, 2016 Yes you're correct. I have this mate of mine that constantly pressured through out NC to contact my ex he said you need vent out. I took his advice now I feel like a idiot 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 It reads like the desperate thoughts of a lovesick man. A desperate need for some kind of approval. *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
266696687 Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Don't feel like an idiot. There was really nothing wrong with what you said in fact I thought it was quite sincere and honest and pretty much a goodbye text which in fairness you were fully entitled to send. Go back to NC and don't worry if she doesn't respond. Put it behind you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Yes you're correct. I have this mate of mine that constantly pressured through out NC to contact my ex he said you need vent out. I took his advice now I feel like a idiot Any other reason for reaching out would have been fine but when someone cheats on you, you don't seek them out for validation. I'm not sure why your friend coaxed you into venting to her, rather than do the healthy thing by managing those feelings on your own or with your support circle. If someone cheats on you, don't look to them to mend your heart -- they didn't care about it in the first place when they betrayed it. She didn't even apologize -- so no, she's not that great. You're moving to another country and you're going to experience a whole new world. Put this behind you and don't look back. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 23, 2016 Author Share Posted June 23, 2016 Zahara - yes I know you're correct she cheated on me and I shouldn't even look back at her! I got peer pressured and messaged her which I do regret in many ways but since I'm moving countries there's a new chapter to begin. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 Zahara - yes I know you're correct she cheated on me and I shouldn't even look back at her! I got peer pressured and messaged her which I do regret in many ways but since I'm moving countries there's a new chapter to begin. Yes, put this behind you. On the scale of what's ahead of you in comparison to this one email, it's a little insignificant dot. You're going to move on to bigger and better and doors are going to open for you. Best to block her number so you're not sitting there looking back. Focus forward. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 23, 2016 Author Share Posted June 23, 2016 Thank you for your prompt reply and done blocked! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 25, 2016 Author Share Posted June 25, 2016 I've called my ex gf who cheated on me and she is apparently dating the guy she cheated on me with I kept it cool and I asked her how he is treating her? She added me on Facebook after I've deleted her.. She constantly started messaging me on Facebook and she said we should catch up tomorrow I declined it. She started crying because she thinks I've moved on I was acting like I don't care I tried to be as positive as possible but deep inside I'm burning. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 I thought you blocked her? The woman cheated on you. Find your dignity. There's nothing attractive about a person that lacks self-respect. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
juniorrocha Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 lol wtf, she cried because you're moving on? What does she want? For you to sit at home crying over her? So apparently she has feelings for you but entered a relationship with the guy she cheated on you with anyway. That girl is a mess, run away and never look back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Xidion Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 I've called my ex gf who cheated on me and she is apparently dating the guy she cheated on me with I kept it cool and I asked her how he is treating her? She added me on Facebook after I've deleted her.. She constantly started messaging me on Facebook and she said we should catch up tomorrow I declined it. She started crying because she thinks I've moved on I was acting like I don't care I tried to be as positive as possible but deep inside I'm burning. Bro, I've been cheated on by 3 different woman, all of whom I gave a second chance. Guess what happened again with all 3 woman.. they cheated again. Don't go there. It's one of those, I don't want you, but I don't want you to be with someone else sort of things. Protect yourself, protect your heart. Move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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brothers343 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Brother......I can guarantee you that she will have more respect for you when you leave her ass behind and continue with your life......without her. Woman don't like weak man. Even the ones that have dumped you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
whatnot Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 It doesn't matter who text what, to who, when. It doesn't even matter if you see her again before you leave. (Which...if I were a bettin' man, you will). Please, please, please do not change any travel or career plans on account of her. This is a promise.. This relationship is doomed. Anything you do that you think you might regret if it doesn't work out...DON'T DO IT. take care 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Densel Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 YouAreNotAlone, Did you meet her? What were you thinking when you allow her to be your friend on facebook?? You have to be stronger than this. If you reply to every msg, call her as when you like, you will not be respected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 Densel- no I didn't meet up with her She told me she was having sex with her new lover and told me she will talk to me later.. then later on confessed that she was only joking (trying to get me jealous) didn't end up working then she said when her new lover asked her out she felt bad and accepted she told me she misses me a lot and other rubbish. Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Is that a funny joke or even sensitive when someone is hurting and trying to heal while still being polite to you for her to even joke about her new sexual affairs shows ZERO class and respect. No way should you EVER have contact again. If you miss someone SINCERELY you care about their well being and feelings. Any breadcrumbs from her mean "keep paying attention to me, it feels awesome" Ya, you are better than that. Ewe. Dont look back.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tomatome Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Densel- no I didn't meet up with her She told me she was having sex with her new lover and told me she will talk to me later.. then later on confessed that she was only joking (trying to get me jealous) didn't end up working then she said when her new lover asked her out she felt bad and accepted she told me she misses me a lot and other rubbish. Seriously? No disrespect intended but your ex sounds mental. Do not accept such disrespectful behaviour. Shut down all contact and move on; your mental health and safety is on the line. Just imagine anyway, pretty soon you will be on a new continent meeting all kinds of new, exciting people. Link to post Share on other sites
Densel Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Densel- no I didn't meet up with her She told me she was having sex with her new lover and told me she will talk to me later.. then later on confessed that she was only joking (trying to get me jealous) didn't end up working then she said when her new lover asked her out she felt bad and accepted she told me she misses me a lot and other rubbish. She is extremely childish/immature/insensitive! She doesn't sound serious in anything she said or do. What makes you think her words can be trusted. Please tell us when will you stop talking to her? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Look why on earth are you putting in all this effort to be "friends" with her? SHE CHEATED ON YOU. If someone cheated on me, I would not call her a great woman, I would not wish her well, I would not write messages to her with kisses on the end. WTF man. Tell your mate you're not interested in talking to someone who cheated on you, and to mind his own business! Link to post Share on other sites
Author YourNotAlone Posted June 27, 2016 Author Share Posted June 27, 2016 Densel- I've been in NC for 2 days now. But she's telling everybody she still loves me and other bread crumb information which is not necessarily persuading me into believing that load of crap but sometimes I think to myself what we could've been if she wasn't a player and took my love seriously She also started crying on the phone because she's always carrying the purse I bought for her on Valentine's Day telling me she wants to see me and she wants to apologise to my face, I told her there is no need for that she responds saying " oh relax its not like we're going to have sex I'll bring my boyfriend if you want" like she's trying so hard to piss me off. I want to get revenge but then I wouldn't be any different from her ? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 I want to get revenge but then I wouldn't be any different from her ? Your sweetest revenge is a chorus of crickets for her. Link to post Share on other sites
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