Should I call him again or is he just not interested?

[Parmalat]

Sorry girls,

 

Just to be clear on what you asked.

 

On Saturday evening I called him just to say hi and what not. So the phone rang a bit, then someone picked up, so I said hello like 3 times but no response and then the phone hung up.

 

I was so shocked that I didn't call again, I figured he was probably sleeping and thought it may have been the alarm or something.

 

I'm not sure, I'm under the impression if that is not what happened that it was rude, but I'm not going there.

 

He then called on Monday morning to say where he's been and why he didn't drop by again on his way back.

 

ALSO FALLS INTO THE WEIRD CATEGORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

As for your bb, don't know, I find it really odd that he can return other peoples text messages and phone calls but not yours.

 

Probably time to move on to the next target.

 

Anything else happen in the mean time?

 

 

 

 

HOW are things with Steve-o?

[phyrespryte]

On Saturday evening I called him just to say hi and what not. So the phone rang a bit, then someone picked up, so I said hello like 3 times but no response and then the phone hung up.

 

That is really weird. So many possibilities as to what could've happened! Phone died, little kid playing with the phone, dropped his phone in the toilet, another woman using his phone, call waiting mix-up....

 

I'm not sure, I'm under the impression if that is not what happened that it was rude, but I'm not going there.

 

Oh how I wish you called back! But I guess not stressing about it, is the best thing to do for now. Just trying to figure it out is making me uneasy.

 

He then called on Monday morning to say where he's been and why he didn't drop by again on his way back.

 

Ok that's weird too. I'm getting a fishy vibe from that. I mean it's not like you were expecting him to stop by. Why the need to explain himself? I wonder if he felt guilty about hanging up? Oh well. He can be weird on his own. You've got your own plans...

Which I'm really excited about. When's the blind date? Can't wait to hear all about it, so I can live vicariously through your stories.

[phyrespryte]

it's funny, when my head was elsewhere, like with pirate boy, i know this bb kid liked me, i knew it! i was so sure! i just being dense i guess. now theres things i regret. now i've put myself in a new situation, my judgement is clouded and i think for sure he isnt interested...it's like...HOW CAN THAT BE?

 

He probably did like you, but I guess the timing was all wrong. Maybe he's been in one of those long-distance relationships and it ended badly for him? Who knows? Honestly....DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. I think with this situation it's all him. You reached out and he didn't. I wouldn't stress about it. I'm sure if he wasn't so far away things would've probably been very different. And I think pirate boy was just cuckoo.

 

as far as the whole liking thing goes, i think it's like an underlying thing, but we're just like casual friends and there shouldn't be any awkwardness at calling. he just moved. it's a pretty valid reason to call and say hey what's up, hows the new job, hows the new place. shouldnt he call back?

 

Yeah he should call back.

Oh well. I'd let it go. Sometimes with my friends I don't call them back right away (read couple of days) and they do the same back. I can't really take it too personally. Making small talk requires some time and when you don't know someone that well...it makes it even harder. At least you tried.

 

Please don't feel bad about this situation. I truly think there were just too many factors that were out of your control, messing stuff up. Plus BB never got a chance to get to know you. You did the best with what you had. I mean if pirate boy hadn't wasted your time and BB hadn't moved...who knows?

[phyrespryte]

Now I'm a little bit schetcy on who Jeff is, if you can just clue me in again, but the idea I get from his reaction was that he's noticed you and the whole touching thing is never bad when comming from guys.

 

Whoops! Ignore the Jeff part. I meant to write Steve. After I had walked past Steve, he got up, squeezed my arm, and said, "see you around". Sorry no other guy in the picture. Actually...

I think another guy in my class is starting to get a crush on me, but unfortunately I don't feel it back.

 

So yeah, so far this week, I haven't seen Steve around. I'm not sure what to do next. I kind of want to call him up and ask him to coffee or something. But I think that might be too unnatural. Or at least too obvious. I guess I'll just focus on school for now.

[justagirl1121]

Parmalot:

 

Thanks for clarifying. Sounds to me like he was sleeping and picked up the phone as a natural response but was like awake but alseep. Ever kind of go to sleep and have a conversation with someone and then the next morning, kind of remember but really not remember that you were having a conversation? Maybe....if not then yes, EXTREMELY RUDE!!

Yes, let us know about the blind date! Maybe he's meant to be!

 

Phyrespryte:

 

Ok, that makes much more sense. So there was touching...interesting. I wouldn't recommend asking him for anything. Even if he hints, I wouldn't ask him. Make him suffer. Make him make some plans. Act like you're real busy, but at the same time, you do have some free time. That way, instead of making yourself too available to do whatever he may plan, but at the same time not saying no when he does ask and fear he doesn't ask you again, somehow subtly let him know when you have a small window of opportunity so that when he asks he know's when to plan it for. Even if you have tons of free time, of course, don't let him know that. Keep him in suspense, make him think you got all these awesome things you're doing!

 

Don't take my word for it alone. Parmalot, what do you think?

 

ME:

 

Ok, background store on the dweeb thing. The other day this guy at work, Jeremy or Jerimiah or soemthing like that called me a dweeb. We just occassionally talk for a min here and there when we're in the breakroom. He can be kind of mean. Like kind of a jagoff. Kind of has this hard attitude...not sure what to call it..called me a dweeb. I didn't think anything of it. I call my friends dorks or nerds sometimes, but we don't take offense. So since the word was on my mind, when I was sitting thru 3 lights to get across the intersection, I txted BB with the what's up dweeb? b/c the word was in my head and i just wanted an excuse right? so the next day (mon) the dude at work called me a dweeb again so i was like, yeah ok DORK. and he was like HARHAR yeah dork is not as bad as a DWEEB. then he left. so i was like ooooh k. it was just kind of a mean comeback and was weird but whatever. so i looked up the def today and i was like i hope he didnt take offense, actually i dont like the word dweeb. im never using it again.

 

i asked amy and shonna and amy said the only reason he should take offense is if he was teased as a kid and he probably wasn't, and if he is offended, then he's overly sensitive (which i get the feeling he's not but who's to say i can trust my feelings?) and most ppl get over it in a few days. don't bring it up to him unless he says something.

 

shonna said i need to chill and he's not ignoring me.

 

i txted him today and asked how he was but never got a response again.

 

i cant help it. i guess i do need to chill and stop fidgeting. so 2 unreturned callsa nd 3 unanswered txt is more than enough. so i'm gonna call it quits. i just dont know how to like...get over it. except to meet another guy, but i dont feel like going thru this again!!!

 

OMG! I just checked my bank statement and my balance is 666.66!!!!!!! how creepy is that?

 

tmr i am taking flex time, i work an extra two hours so i am not done till 9:30 but fri i get done 2 hrs early... but they didnt take my break away fri, so when i should be done at 5:30, im not done till 5:45 and i emailed resource mgmt and they ignored me. im like this is retarded...but if they take it away i loose 15 minutes of pay.....

 

ok well u girlies have a good night and good luck with the jerks-i mean men

[Parmalat]

Whoops! Ignore the Jeff part. I meant to write Steve. After I had walked past Steve, he got up, squeezed my arm, and said, "see you around".

 

Now it almost makes too much sense. He was hurt that you have been ignoring him. He insisted that you knew he was there, you had to respond to him touching you. This guy was seriously trying his best to get your attention. WOW

 

If I didn't know better I'd say he had a crush and was going to call you, but considering I don't think you'll be hearing from him soon, I think next time you see him, conversation is in order.

 

Just keep it light, like Justagirl said don't give him opportunities, be hard to get, make him work for it.

 

Now the balance would be in making him work for it but guiding him to get it. (If you get what I'm trying to say) men are slow ladies sometimes they need assistance.

 

So perhaps next time you see him, ask him how his week has been, that he said he's be seeing you around but he's been nowhere to be seen. Then smile and leave saying perhaps coffee would be a good idea next time. Smiling with a hint of teeth.

 

Sort of a gentle guidance to asking me to coffee or something like that would be ok and I'm not mad at you and I don't hate you, just taking the friendship slowley.

 

Be a lady, act smooth and subtle but moove gratiously. It's come to my attention that men tend to develop a lot of interest and respect for "Ladies". Women who know who they are, don't need an entertainment director, but if you give them the time of day, they might end up rocking your foundations.

 

So I think next time is conversation time, and please do try and work a gentle touching into the equation. Stroke his arm as you leave or something like that gentle light and in a flowing movement so that he almost didn't think it happened but it dit.

 

Leave him wanting more and being confused that he ever missed this side of you, he already knows your great but this, how did he miss this?

 

 

As for me I haven't heard anything about the "blind" date yet, knowing my brother it will come I just have to be patient, you know he is a man and they do have the tendency to take their royal time.

 

But the moment I know something ladies I'll let you know. But the usual is going on in my head, I'm already starting to imagine how, where the date will be, what to wear, what to say, you know it's starting to build up.

 

I was just thinking this morning, after going through a couple of months with Mr. F and gaining nothing and getting nowhere, I'm not sure I could do all this over again.

 

But then again, one should always be optimistic, and thinking this way, he could be "it" and this could be the last time you'll experience all these things for the first time.

 

So everytime you meet someone new you should do it with all of your heart and to your full ability and enjoy it all, as it could be the last time you do it.

 

OK girls, thats it for me for today, I'm going home and to bed. See ya, and I hope tomorrow will bring all the wishes we had today!

[phyrespryte]

Thanks for the advice Justagirl and Parmalat. I don't know if he's crushing on me or whatever. I kind of think he's just not sure how to act because he dumped me.

 

I saw Steve-o today. Being the smooth operator that I am, I did NOT talk to him.

 

I was going to though. I was walking towards him. I smiled, gave him a dorky wave, and he said hey what's up. And then all of a sudden this girl calls out my name. Then this other guy I know, shouts out my name...It was weird. I started talking to the girl. The guy started talking on his phone. I don't know what Steve was doing.

 

Oh well after that I couldn't talk to him. I finished talking to the girl. Turned around and smiled, no teeth (instant reaction couldn't help it) at him again. He smiled back (no teeth) and I left.

 

I know this is such a boring story.

[Parmalat]

Oh well after that I couldn't talk to him. I finished talking to the girl. Turned around and smiled, no teeth (instant reaction couldn't help it) at him again. He smiled back (no teeth) and I left.

 

I know this is such a boring story.

 

Not boring at all, its like watching a movie in clips. LOL

 

I wouldn't worry about it, I think he's just feeling bad at the moment, don't know how to act and don't want to hurt you, so he's trying to be a gentleman.

 

I'd relax, I don't think he's going to try and get back with you, I just think he might want you to be friends. If he wanted to start something up again, I think he'd be more persistent.

 

Cut the guy some slack you could gain a really great friend. I have one of those, together we were terrible, but as friends we're great. We've talked about it and neither of us can figure out why we work as friends but nothing else, just isn't ment to be.

 

So make a friend and move on.

 

Hope that helps, have a great day ladies.

[phyrespryte]

I'd relax, I don't think he's going to try and get back with you, I just think he might want you to be friends. If he wanted to start something up again, I think he'd be more persistent.

 

I was hoping you wouldn't say that. But I think that if I was in his shoes...that's how I would be acting. Just trying to be friendly.

Cut the guy some slack you could gain a really great friend. I have one of those, together we were terrible, but as friends we're great. We've talked about it and neither of us can figure out why we work as friends but nothing else, just isn't ment to be.

 

Actually I have one of those kind of friends too. I don't see that kind of friendship ever happening with Steve. And I don't want it to either. It'll only be misery for me.

 

Maybe that's why I haven't said anything to him yet. In the back of my mind I don't want to be friends with him.

 

hmm...

[justagirl1121]

Hey, girlies!

 

I don't have any friends like that. They disappeared and disappeared for good so far....I really scare them off I guess!

 

It's hard to be in the moment and wonder what is going to happen down the road. And sometimes it is just agony to wait for the time to come to find out. Because anything can happen along the way!

 

Parmalot could be right, but I guess I wouldn't necessarily put him into a category. I would still try to find talk time with him. Sounds like you were on a good roll at first. Funny how things always seem to get F'd up though!

 

I heard from BB yesterday in a text. he was like Justagirl!!! When do you get out of work?

 

So i answered him with something like "if they cooperate...730. IF not, i'm hitting release ;)"

 

and he came back with "haha i miss that sarcasm of yours."

 

i figured on him calling with that type of txt but he didnt

 

but he did call today...while i was working and couldnt answer

 

he said he was but he got caught up. and maybe he'll give me a call when he gets off work. so hopefully I told him he should call me laterbecause i am going thru BB withdrawal.

 

so we'll see. he can call me from the house phone for all i care since he doesnt have cell srv. its very ironic to not have cell service at your house when you work for the company haha.

 

its just too funny, he is such a small guy and yet he has such a deep voice. it's wierd how these things creep up on you.

 

i'mreally becoming a sap i think. i like john mayer a ton. i think b/c he's such a mayer fan and stuff. but he has good lyrics!

 

anyway, on NCIS tony surprised his girl with dinner in the parking lot b/c she couldnt leave work. he pulled out 2 chairs, a table, a table cloth, wine glass, rose....i was like omg tony can do that for me and i'd marry him! (id marry him anyway b/c he is hoottttt) lol but idea original or not, i liked it!

 

ok, time to go be a loser on a friday night burning cds to my ipod!

 

have a good weekend!

 

keep me updated on steve-o. keep me updated on the blind date!

[justagirl1121]

ah...sigh....yay i feel happy now i called BB and left a msg. he had been working. so he called back just a bit ago and i talked to him while he was driving home and we had to get off cause he loses service when he goes down the driveway. that really bites. but it was nice to talk to him.

 

i guess its hard for him to really hang out and stuff b/c everyone is still far away since hes in the mid of nowhere. he said he was coming back on thur prob...to see some friends. maybe he'll give me a call who knows. we did pretty much end that when he comes back down he'll give me a call and isaid when i come up there i'll give him a call and let him know and we'll have to meet up and it sounded positive. so we'll start there.

 

its funny how you find these people who can just do that to you.

 

today was so freaking boring. i just watched macgyver and these two movies called Le Divorce and A Cinderella Story. The latter was cuter.

 

Hope you had a good weekend!

[Parmalat]

I was hoping you wouldn't say that. But I think that if I was in his shoes...that's how I would be acting. Just trying to be friendly.

 

I think we never really want to say it but sometimes down the line we have to start admitting it if he's not calling and not making that date. Any dates yet? Otherwise, just a guy trying not to be an a**h***.

 

Sorry to say but as I've once again learned the hard way, if he's not calling out of his own free mind, then he won't be calling anytime soon, you can try all the tricks in the book, it's not going to get him calling you any more.

 

Still haven't heard a word from Mr. F he's been silent since the "sincere" appology over 2 weeks ago now. NICE!!!!

 

So instead of thinking about it I'm doing other stuff that would be more fun, (still trying to figure out something that will bring as much agony but not there yet)

 

Actually I have one of those kind of friends too. I don't see that kind of friendship ever happening with Steve. And I don't want it to either. It'll only be misery for me.

 

Well I think one of those friends are more than enough, you really just have room for one. So I guess he's just going to be an ex that you ocationally simle at with no teeth.

 

Well you need one of those too. Don't worry you'll meet someone that will have the same effect on you and this time he might not let you go and you'll do the whole getting engaged and married thing.

 

This is just an uncomfortable period it too will pass like everything else.

 

You never know what tomorrow might bring?

[Parmalat]

ah...sigh....yay i feel happy now i called BB and left a msg. he had been working. so he called back just a bit ago and i talked to him while he was driving home and we had to get off cause he loses service when he goes down the driveway. that really bites. but it was nice to talk to him.

 

WOW, I'm so glad for you, that is wonderful. So he can call he has the ability to dial, nice!!!

 

I'm just so glad that you got to talk and there is a possiblity of you guys seeing each other, wonderful.

 

Funny how that makes us so happy something so small like a phone call.

 

WOW I'm so happy for you I hope you feel this great the whole week.

 

 

i guess its hard for him to really hang out and stuff b/c everyone is still far away since hes in the mid of nowhere. he said he was coming back on thur prob...to see some friends. maybe he'll give me a call who knows. we did pretty much end that when he comes back down he'll give me a call and isaid when i come up there i'll give him a call and let him know and we'll have to meet up and it sounded positive. so we'll start there.

 

WOW, so great. I'm holding thumbs for you that you get to see him this week, that will be super exciting!!!.

 

 

 

As for me girls, still no news on the blind date, perhaps he called it off and no one has the heart to tell me. WOW I don't think it can get any worse, I'm now being rejected even before I set up a date.

 

I think I've hit a new all time low. Perhaps as a kick to the side I should call Mr. F, he always has the way of messing with my head.

 

LOL don't worry I won't do that, just a moment of weakness. I'll just pull out a book an study, that seems to be a safe retreat the last couple of days.

 

OK girls have a really good week, talk to you later!

[phyrespryte]

Hi Justagirl!

 

Glad to hear that BB finally called you back. That's some pretty awesome news. Though I must say, watching Cinderella Story is pretty awesome too. I swear that guy in that movie... I hate watching him in One Tree Hill, but in that movie...too cute.

 

and Hi Parmalat!

 

Sorry to hear about the blind date thing. But it's not like you're getting rejected. I mean he has no clue who you are.

Anyways, I hope that your project is coming along well.

And good job not calling Mr. F, that guy is way too confusing.

[justagirl1121]

hey!

 

I guess none of us has had any really good stories for a while huh? Been pretty boring around here this weekend. Nothing from BB. just 1 txt. oh well.

 

i had a friend in school who was kind of weird and we kind of lost touch thru college, but i just got this notice that she's getting married in may! invitation to follow....like holy crap. makes me feel really behind to not have any prospects even. or any solid foundation. guess im a late bloomer. who knows...dont know if i will go tho as i don't have anyone to take. plenty of girls to take, but that might give someone the wrong idea eh?

[Parmalat]

Hey Girls,

 

Have to say it's been less than exciting on this side. Went shopping with my mom on Saturday, really had a good time, haven't done that in a while.

 

Other than that just the usual, having a tough time at work at the moment, my boss is very demanding and wants so many things to be done before I officialy go on study leave that I'm not sure I'm ever going to reach study leave.

 

That's not the worst thing, I've heard that during my study leave I have to go for manditory training for 2 days and guess where it is?

 

Come on I'll give you one more guess.........???

 

You've got it, it's in the town Mr. F lives in, so now I'm sitting with a bit of a moral delemma. Do I call him and tell him I'm coming, or do I ignore my need to see him again.

 

I mean it's going to be 10 days before my exam, and I don't think I should let him mess with my head, so I guess I'm leaning towards not letting him know I'm coming and just laying low.

 

But he did say I should let him know and if I don't he may be upset and then I've blown all chances I had with him.

 

What do you girls think, call him to let him know I'll be there and set up a date? or don't call and just ignore him.

 

Tricky tricky, the hart wants one thing but the head is saying do you know what your getting yourself into?

 

Ok so I guess something happend and I'm needing some advice.

 

Thanks girls.

 

PS Justagirl1121, sorry that you've only had one txt from BB, but at least it's a test and not nothing, so things to look somewhat bright.

[phyrespryte]

Well something did happen to me...

I dreamt about loveshack last night.

 

Anyways, I wouldn't call him Parmalat. If it's going to get your mind all messed up and distracted, then I'd avoid it. If your exam is really important it's probably best to focus on that.

[Parmalat]

Thanks for the advice, I don't think I'm going to call him, but you won't guess what happened yesterday. He called me out of the blue to hear how it's going.

 

But I can't say that I was very impressed with the call, he was a bit rude, short and then said he had to go and he'd call back, the usual routine, and then he never called back.

 

So I'm a bit tired of being treated with no respect. I think I'll not be calling him about my trip. I'll take a book with to study.

 

But that's not all that happened to me yesterday. My brother had his birthday party last night and low and behold there my blind date shows up. Sometimes my brother can do strange things, to organise these things on one evening. Not a bad guy but we didn't really get time to chat or anything, weren't even properly introduced. But at least I saw him and he looks ok. So now we'll have to wait and see if anything will come of this.

 

Ok girls, I'm out of news, have a good day, chat to you ladies later.

[justagirl1121]

Hey Parmalot, I agree. I wouldn't contact him. Let his rudeness, shortness and lack of returned phone call fuel the anger and ignore him. See, it's one thing if there's not really that whole dating thing in the air like me and bb. we're just friends and there's never been any discussion about dating. i dont know that he wants to date me and he doesnt know i might want to date him. so him not calling and chatting blah blah doesnt relaly come into play.

 

but when there's been some dates and other stuff, then that's where it gets tricky i think. maybe you should ask your brother more about blind date guy!

 

and Phyrespryte, sucks there's nothing new. maybe that's a good thing. sometimes its nice for it to be slow going adn nothing happening. can be boring tho i guess.

 

nothing much on my end either. short txt convo with bb. thats about it. i was talking to our mutual friend and she was like 'hes talking to you?' so apparently he is just not being very communicative whatsoever! who knows. some guys just aren't txters and stuff anyway.

 

well im off to turbotax.com to see if i can find enough intelligence to try to do my taxes!

[phyrespryte]

But I can't say that I was very impressed with the call, he was a bit rude, short and then said he had to go and he'd call back, the usual routine, and then he never called back.

I hate when they do that. I hate when anyone does that. Don't dress me up and not take me to town!!!! How hard is it to just say I've got to go? I'd rather hear that at least it doesn't leave any of that false hope garbage.

Anyways, glad to hear that the blind date guy is attractive. Hopefully he's got a matching personality. Have you heard from him since? Or has your brother said anything about him?

 

nothing much on my end either. short txt convo with bb. thats about it. i was talking to our mutual friend and she was like 'hes talking to you?' so apparently he is just not being very communicative whatsoever! who knows. some guys just aren't txters and stuff anyway.

 

I think guys who text are lame, so be glad that he's not a texter. Actually I'm going through a "I hate texting phase". I hate trying to have a conversation through one of those things. It's impossible! And I hate hearing my phone go off every 5 seconds because I got a message. It's like, if you've got enough time to text me, then freaking call me!!! It's just plain easier. Voices are nice too. I like hearing emotions.

[phyrespryte]

and Phyrespryte, sucks there's nothing new. maybe that's a good thing. sometimes its nice for it to be slow going adn nothing happening. can be boring tho i guess.

 

Well something did happen, but I didn't feel like typing.

 

Some guy in one of my classes asked me out. I said, no. I did it in a joking kind of manner, so I'm worried that he didn't get the clue that I wasn't interested. But maybe he did, since he's been friendly, but distant. But then I also blocked him on aim because I suck at confrontation.

 

One of my classes is taught by a really young and hot guy. Who the other day seemed to be paying a little too much attention to me. He complimented my shoes in the middle of class. Made lots of eye contact with me. Kept making little comments to me, like you saw my workshop right? Which I did see last semester, actually got a tour since I was the first one from class there. It was a little weird. I mean I think he's hot and it's not something forbidden at my school. But I don't know.

 

I haven't seen Steve in awhile though. The last time I saw him, I waved and gave him a real smile. He looked surprised and I just kept on walking. After class he was sitting with a group of people and I could see him trying to get a look at me. I didn't make eye contact with him and left as quickly as I could.

 

I think I had decided that I was giving up on him? That I don't really want him? I remember at the time I was feeling better about life. I don't know. All I know is that things suck right now and I can't stop thinking about him lately. I had a dream about him too.

 

Dreamt that we were hanging out at my house, laughing and joking about nothing important. It was actually really nice. I'm not sure what that means though. I kind of think that with this guy I'm going to have to say something to him first (he always sucked at reading me), but I don't know if that's something I want to do. I don't feel nervous anymore, but I kind of wonder if talking to him will bring back bad feelings. But then...who knows. Something good could happen.

 

I'm also really pissed off at my "friends" right now. Extremely pissed. I love that I have a penpal all the way on the opposite side of the country and he'll always respond to me in a timely manner. He actually worries when I don't respond after a long period of time. While my friends suck at returning my calls, keep blowing me off and only call when they need someone to listen to their problems. It's such bull crap.

 

Plus right now I have this huge photography project involving heavy objects that need to be transported all over the place and I can't find anyone to help. Thankfully some people at school have been kind enough to offer to help. But I'm just amazed that my "friends" are nowhere to be found. Of course when things go wrong for them...I'm always available for them.

 

So once again, I'm cutting people out of my life. Which is stupid. I hate doing this. But it's not like I have a choice. I feel like such a loser always calling these people and putting all this effort into making things work. It shouldn't be like that. And how many of them even remembered my birthday? I know it passed months ago, but at least I remember theirs. Yeah. This isn't working out. I hate being alone, but I'd rather live a miserable lonely hermit life than put up with this shoddy behavior.

 

Well maybe that's extreme. But being alone is pretty much what I'm doing right now. At least I can have my pride back by ignoring them. Stupid pride.

 

Ok. That felt good to get out.

[justagirl1121]

Hey, phyrespryte!

 

I see why you may not have wanted to write that out before. Why did you turn that guy down? I don't mean that in a 'what the heck was your problem with turning him down' kind of way...just what was it that you didn't want to go out with him?

 

I may be feeling about the same way about BB that you feel about Steve. The feeling changes like every freaking hour. Very annoying.

 

I would stay away from the professor thing though....at least while you're there....Or at least while you're in his class......I don't know...how big a school is it? If it's a huge campus, I'd give it more thought. Small campus...I'd not give it much thought. IMHO anyway.

 

In a way I guess it's good BB might not be a big texter...but he's not a caller either. I thought it was like 3 weeks or so that I hadn't talked to him, but appears to be only 2 lol. So I didn't call him. Maybe next weekend. Wish I could get a little something from him, as I was feeling the vibes before he left and now....I don't know....maybe it's the whole moving thing.

 

I do have drama though. Sooo embarrassing! Here goes....

 

Ok, like 6 mo ago, when i worked till 1am i sat with BB and I's mutual friend and this other guy. I may have mentioned him before but I don't remember. Months ago he made a few comments/compliments. He'd asked the mutual friend if she thought it was a good idea if he asked for my number but she told him maybe not because i don't date people i work with...or something a long those lines.

 

well he has since gotten my number. he's made a few light comments about if im bored, give him a call we can see a movie, but i made light of it and ignored it.

 

trying to think of what we can call him....we'll just call him Mr. S. I just woke up from a nap so my creativity is non existant....

 

so, mr. s the other night came to talk while i was on a work phone call. when i finally got around to remarking this person's acct, i saw they had called back in and had gotten him, so i txt msg him that i saw. over the course of like 3 hours, i'd gotten something like 18 txts from him!!!!

 

they went something like this:

 

S: i want to go home

Me: i said something about giving him permission.

S: i wld be so in love with you if you could make that happen!

Me thinking: oh god

S: he said soemthing about getting a call i deserved

Me: gee thanks

S: started saying something like you know i luv ya nad im just teasing!

Me thinking: oh god pls stop

i wasnt really responding too much to these but he kept txting me.

we kind of got onto topic of tv, which i was watching. he said sopranos were on, i said i didnt have cable..he said something like

S: i'll have to give you a key to my place so you can come over any time and watch my hdtv.

Me thinking: ****

 

so next day i get a txt with him asking if i had any plans for next saturday.

i said its my brothers bday weekend.

so he asks if he cld talk me into not making plans for the sat after that...

 

i ignored it for like 24 hrs cause i didnt know how to respond. finally i said something like sorry i didnt respond sooner. i'll have to get back to you on that.

and he replies with something like you'll let me take you out to see a movie and then maybe some dinner after.

 

aghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

he's ok.....i mean he's not ugly but im not finding myself attracted to him physically or emtionally or anything. he's 30 with a little kid. idolizes michael myers. and no...not austin powers. the psycho killer who never dies. plus the whole we work together thing isnt making me too comfortable with the idea.

 

i've never been one to attract guys EVER. have never ever been asked out in the traditional sense i guess you could say. never been on a real date. its always been a casual hang out thats turned into more and then never anything else again.

 

but hey, apparently lately ive been pretty attractable, so why wouldnt i have a chance with BB? of coures tmr i will probably feel like the stupidest, ugliest, fattest person ever and will think i shld give up....it's like im on some weird 24/7 pms kick. it's like wtf?

 

i think my response if he makes reference to it will just be like...look i dont know about this...i don't usually get too involved with ppl outside of work unless its a group thing.

 

how's that sound? cause its not exactly lying...i do hang out with ppl but they're all girls.

 

all this stuff is such a huge pain in the ass.

[phyrespryte]

Well I turned him down because I'm not attracted to him. He's a good looking guy and easy to talk to, but something isn't there. Ah who am I kidding. He just isn't my type. I like 'em taller than me, pasty, and skinny. He's my height, muscular and tan. Yes, I am shallow.

 

Anyway, this new guy Mr. S, is really into you. I think you should be honest with him and tell him that you're not interested. That way he doesn't have any hope and will cut all that texting crap out.

[phyrespryte]

So I was thinking about calling Steve. I'll probably do it sometime this week if I don't see him around school. I think I should ask him out or something. Not really sure. I feel like I should, since calling for no reason would be pointless.

 

Anyway, I was curious as to what you guys think. Is this a bad idea? I've been going through a phase where I think that a guy will call if he's interested. But I'm questioning that again. Am I compromising myself by calling him? Am I making myself less valuable in his eyes? Does this apply to every single guy? Isn't this something I should just do, to get it out of my system?

 

I try to look at past experiences, but they're are all mixed up. I've been rejected many times, but then I've always been difficult to get to know. Even if I liked a guy, I'd run away from him or do something to mess things up. So sometimes I think the rejection was because I never showed enough interest back.

 

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what the **** am i trying to say?

 

Is it wrong to call him? I don't want to get hurt, but this confusion is bothering me. The staring, the awkward smiles. I hate it. I just want to know what it all means.

[justagirl1121]

I am soooooo there with you!!! I know what you mean. I think I can be hard to get to know too. I guess I'm afraid of not being liked. I have this great relationship with this guy at work who sits next to me. He's only 2 yrs older and he's married, but he's got qualities I want someone to have. He is married, but he's a gentleman. He holds the door open when we're done in the break room. He'll give up his chair if we're in a meeting or something and there is only one etc. He's funny. He seems to know me better than anyone. Everyone else can say im shy or why do i look scared, but he'll be like 'hey why are you starting that attitude with me? those things. we even talk about guy stuff! he's like, you have to be smooth. its not hard to impress a girl. but he said sounds like my dudes arent smooth at all. he's very easy to get a long with. why cant a single guy be like that?!?! grrrrrr

 

i was just thinking....it seems like it is easier to really like a guy when there is no pressure. like if there is a single guy you could potentially date, you try to hard to figure out if you like them. but when you know they're taken you find yourself interested in them. im not interested in this guy THAT way....but he's just cool to have as my work neighbor...but since i know there's no persuing, its just more natural to get to know each other. im not sure i know how to explain...but maybe you get the idea....

 

well anyway, i run away from the guy too i think if i think they may like me back. but i know what you mean by the confusion i had that first guy that started all this like over a year ago (can u believe its been that long?) that said i analyze too much, but every girl i talk to says that it is just like that, its a girl thing. and that's the way it is. i just want to know the truth.

 

in a way i like that they become such an ******* because then getting over them is sooooo much easier.

 

im not sure if you should call or not. can you give us some more insight on whats been going on lately?

 

i txt msg bb the other night asking when he got off work b/c i wanted to call him to ask a ? (abt what is in the area so i can get my friend a gift card and make sure when i get it for her that store is in the area since they live so close to each other)

 

he responded back today with sorry he was out late.

 

i responded back with quite a long msg abt applying for promotion stuff at work. been there a whole year can u belive it? anyway, i left it with "i miss going downstairs to visit :(" and i think i've sent like 2 txt fwds of stupid fwd crap to him but i havent gotten a reply. i dont know what to do about him.

 

i feel like i can't really call too often like that. hes not being very responsive. i have no backup to this but im kind of feeling for some reason he's just trying to not talk to any of us now that he's moved. but there is no reason not to visit and be friends. its only 2 hrs away!

 

so i didnt want to call him and play phone tag, but im still no where with the calling. guess i'll just wait till lilke next week and give him a call first.

 

anyway, if you do call before responding, good luck. i think gutsy can be a good thing. youll be proud of yourself for having the courage. if he says yes, great. if no, then well...it's not you. he just isnt interested for whatever reason. he doesnt want to get to know you. but at least you'll know and you can really move on.