Should I call him again or is he just not interested?

[phyrespryte]

Hi!

 

I think that's cute that he sent you smileys! A lot of guys use smileys so it's not weird. And I don't know if I'm reading too much into it, but there's something sweet about him letting you know that he feel asleep right after he talked to you. It's like hey when I stopped talking to you I didn't go off with someone else or think of anything else. I just went to sleep with you as my last thought.

 

I think that maybe you should enjoy the friends thing and not worry so much about dating him? If you're hanging out with friends invite him along. Maybe one day the timing will work out and he'll come. I'm sure your friends know that you like him and they'll give you two some "alone" time. I don't know. I'm thinking of the whole watched pot never boils thing. Maybe that's what's happening. Maybe things are progressing really well and you don't need to rush the dating thing?

 

oooooooh! Last night I went to a party and my now ex-crush was there. What a jerk! He hugged me twice and I was all like trying to pull away. He kept asking "what's up with that"? What an idiot! Not once did he even apologize or even mention how rude he was. He squeezed my shoulder and sang my name trying to get my attention, but I didn't let him have any. He was like sorry I wasn't at the last party to protect you from Billy. (There was this one guy at the last party that was so wasted and was like hitting on me and smelling me. Yes smelling me. Billy was creepy.) When my crush said that I just shrugged and started talking to someone else. What a schmuck.

 

You're guy sounds very sweet. Enjoy the moments you have and go with the flow.

[justagirl1121]

Hey, I uploaded my picture. I don't know why. My friend had it on her phone of myself and emily from our vacation a couple months ago, so i was like hey send that to me, so i cropped it and added it...

 

yeah u might be right about the whole water doesn't boil if you watch it metophor. I just never felt like this about a guy and I see everyone else getting guys I just can't seem to grasp it.

 

I may call him later tonite and see if he's around and tell him about our F'd up weekend!!

 

My friend and her sister's dad got them a limo for the night as a late bday present. So myself, and 4 other friends were invited out. The limo was supposed to come to their house at 7. My friend gets a call at a quarter two, has a wierd "HUH?" expression on her face, then gives the phone to her dad and is like "that was the lady from the limo place. she said the limo broke down, do we want to reschedule?" we're like NO. we don't want to reschedule. would you want to reschudle your wedding?!?

 

anyways, limo came at 9:30. the limo driver, my friend and her dad knew from work at the country club. he drove a limo on the side. so their dad got like a deal. he was also like 60ish which wasnt what i'd anticipated. so he dropped us off ok at the first bar. he picked us up okay when we called later on, but some other dude got out from the drivers side our limo dude got in behind the wheel...we get in hte limo and are like 'we want to go to margarita mama's in station square.' and then we notice there's like a can of beer and another cup of something that wasn't ours, and we thought that was weird.

 

then he is like 'were are you going?' and we're like 'station square' and he's like 'oh ****'. and has to turn around or something....

 

so alls fine until we're ready to leave at 2am. we call and he's like 'im stuck at a restaurant, i'll be there in a few minutes.' like 10 minutes later, he comes and he shows up in some old red buick. gets out. we're kinda all thinking like 'ah...where's the limo?' he's like 'i couldn't find him (?) i lost the limo. you're all gonna half to pile in here."

 

7 of us in a small car? i think not!

 

mandy's purse was in the car, as she'd left it in the limo b/c he was 'guarding their stuff with his life'. adrianne is like 'where's my digital camera?' he's like 'oh crap. i'll have to go find hte limo. get in"

 

nikki's like 'i'm calling dad'

 

we're like 'we'll wait here, while u get the camera.'

 

so their dad comes like 30 min later and takes us home (we stayed overnight).

 

the limo dude brought the camera to work and gave it to her dad, but adrianne got it later and there were bad pictures on it! apparently he had to go back to the restaurant to get it, why was it in the restaurant!!!!

 

 

we've concluded until we find out otherwise that there really was no broken down limo but probably a couple different parties being sported around town.

 

it was so much fun, but it was so shady. so i guess their dad will be having a little chat with jesse the limo loon.

 

i've decided against calling scott. im tired. i'll call tomorrow. i dont feel like repeating this story again lol.

 

 

on the other hand, you're guy at least seems straight forward even if it's not how you want it. it's like when you're thru with them, THEN they're ready to play? geez.

[Gold Pile]

His voice mail isn't working yet.

 

He is a player.

 

Many nice guys are afraid to call. They think you like them as a friend/co-worker, but would reject them as more.

So they won't expose themself to rejection by making the call.

 

It's like Jr High, they need to KNOW you want to go out.

[justagirl1121]

im not sure who you are talking to?

 

 

serously tho, what's the problem? some secret agency devising a new method of population control? you can't procreate if you can't start a relationship! not that i'm ready to procreate, by any means!

[phyrespryte]

Originally posted by Gold Pile

His voice mail isn't working yet.

 

He is a player.

 

Many nice guys are afraid to call. They think you like them as a friend/co-worker, but would reject them as more.

So they won't expose themself to rejection by making the call.

 

It's like Jr High, they need to KNOW you want to go out.

 

 

I think that you're talking about the original post. I agree with reason number 2. His voice mail works perfectly fine. He even told me three days later that he didn't call back b/c he was "lost". Which meant he was drunk and high all weekend.

I wouldn't say he's exactly a nice guy either. He's a pleasant person to know as an acquaintance. But as a romantic interest and a friend he really sucks. I called him and I asked him out many times. He knew I liked him. I think on some level he liked me, but since he's so self absorbed he didn't care about my feelings. Plus his ex-girlfriend was still around so he still wasn't over her.

 

So yes he's a player. Not a very good one. Which kind of bothers me. Why didn't he follow up after not calling me? All he had to do was just call the day after and apologize. I didn't care that he was seeing his ex. Though I don't think he knew that. But still a player knows how to keep his women interested.

[phyrespryte]

Originally posted by justagirl1121

i've decided against calling scott. im tired. i'll call tomorrow. i dont feel like repeating this story again lol.

 

 

That's some crazy weekend you had!

 

Have you talked to Scott since then? How are things going? I'm dying to find out.

 

I'm starting to get over my ex-crush. I went to a club the other night and it was so much fun. It would've been even more fun if I knew how to dance! There were so many cute guys and for a moment I thought "why was I all hung up over this one guy"? I just love how everyone was checking each other out. I felt cute again!

 

Oh and I'm trying out the online dating thing. It's soooooo lame! I keep getting all these men emailing me that are 10-15 years older than me. Yesterday a woman sent me an email asking if I was "curious"! Oh well it's a good laugh. And I have a sort of pen pal now because of it.

 

Anyways, I hope everything is going well with you and your crush.

[justagirl1121]

hmmm well i can't remember the exactness of what's gone on since my wild weekend but i did talk to him. i think i' had called and left him a msg adn he called me back when i was busy so it took a few days. but he DID call me back in the end so i got to tell him.

 

i told him about my job interview and he seemed like genuinely excited for me and stuff so i was like hmmm okay.

 

i've talked to my friend who's talked with her bf about taking a break possibly so we both have issues. she tells me that he seems like a confusing person and she doesnt know how to read him either.

 

i text msged him today at work i was just like 'hey whats up, are you working too?" and he never got back to me...but after work he called me, which seems to be a trend. usually. and he was like "what's up with that txt msg?" and i was like what? i was bored. he was like 'you were bored at work' (like what that's an insane notion to be bored at work! ;p) but i was like 'why didn't you txt me back?!"

he was like 'bc i was at work' he said all of a sudden his phone starting beeping and the girl he works with was like you're pants alarm is going off. haha.

 

but i talked to him for like 20 minutes. i told him this crazy story about the dept we worked at and i was like YOU CANT TELL ANYONE!!!! and he was like i only talk to leo, amy, and you....... he didn't mention sara, who is like my worry. it seemed like he liked her. but she has a kid who's like 3 now and she's like 24 i think...so she worrys me, but i dont know if he DOESNT talk to her or if he just didn't TELL me that he talks to her....

 

but i want to go do something with him!!! i was going to see if he was off on fri like me and i was gonna be like 'you wanna go have lunch with me?' b/c i am going to a wedding and need to eat before i head off for the day....i so can do that, but then i forgot. i ALWAYS freaking forget!!!!

 

the contact seems good...maybe something could come along but it's been 2 1/2 months since i've seen him....it's seeming to start like too long of a timeframe you know.

 

things are so hectic i can't even really plan anything with him anyway. maybe in sept. i am still unsure what to do or how to even bring these questions up. the 20s are such a sucky age! they're not better than the teens! i FEEL like a teen!

[phyrespryte]

So I went to a wedding this past Saturday and of course my ex-crush was there. He went with his brother instead of his ex-gf.

 

It was a weird time. He was wasted before the he got there. He was all trying to talk to me too. Even asked me to save him a dance. Then later he tried to get me to dance with him but I passed. He was so out of it.

 

I really don't get why I liked him at all.

 

Anyways! How's life justagirl? Anything new and exciting?

[justagirl1121]

So, are you completely over this dude then? I think guys like a game but I don't like the game, it's like if you're interested don't screw around or I'll move on!!!

 

On Aug 20th, my friends and i went to a wedding. It was this girl I was roommates with sophmore year in college and then junior year 5 of us had a townhouse we shared adn we ended up not getting along at ALL. they ate our food, (my friend nikki and i but mostly my food since i bought more freezer stuff than she did) wrote F*** Me on all their food, etc) anyway, i wasnt invited to the wedding but jordan was invited by bob (groom) and i was jordan's date and nikki went b/c her bf mike was in the wedding. cora was NOT happy to see us, but haha....we got to crash it anyway! so let's see....it wasnt pretty. no decorations or anything. the colors were a green and ivory which are pretty but the dresses were UGLY. And instead of wedding cake, they had KRISPIE KREME DONUTS!!!!!! but they had open bar so....

 

Lots of new stuff here for me! I've been pretty busy. I just started a new job on the 29th. A real job! Real as in benefits haha, tho they're pretty sucky! Anyway, I'll be selling phones for Verizon Wireless. I like it. I am disappointed by the amt of people who come into the store, as I was expecting to make more, but I figure now that I will give it like a good year and then go to a corporate store because the benefits are AWESOME and the money is lots better. But I'm excited to have some future prospects!!!

 

As for Scott, I'd told him about the job and the night before i started working, he txt msged me "good luck tomorrow" and THEN he called me monday night to see how the first day went! I'm not sure if HE's playing a game or what. seriously tho, he's the one who calls ME, not the other way around u know. a bunch of us might go out on the 9th, but i'm not sure....so if so i'll invite him out, otherwise i'm gonna be like 'you dont want to do anything with me? b/c you're the one calling ME buddy, it's not like u live for away, you live FIVE miles away! It doesnt make since that you call me like once a week and yet we dont hang out....

 

so yeah, the confusion is still there.

 

oh well....so happy labor day!!

[Linda_411]

Give the guy some space. Maybe he didn't have his cellphone with him at the time. I think if he really wants to get to know you, he'll call you

 

Linda

[justagirl1121]

hey, linda, i'm not sure what/who u are referring about???

 

today has been crazy. i went to the mall to look for work clothes b/c i had coupons for NY & Co, etc....but i couldnt find anything. all the wrong sizes and stuff.

 

but i talked to scott A LOT today, so i once again and totally messed up and confused! He called earlier and left like a 3 minute voicemail bitching about the traffic on his way to work, etc........so i left a msg being like sucks to be u! call me after your done working"

 

and so he called me while iwas out...and i just missed it so i called right back,a nd i talked to him for a few min but a customer came into the store so he called me back like 20 min later and we talked for like an hour until i drove somewhere where the call got dropped so i called him back, and then he hung up on me like a min later and then my friend amy called and i talked to her for like 40 min until i had a call coming in which was him again so i was like i'll call u back and so i talked to him for like another 20 minutes until i got home and was like i gotta carry stuff in. after that i've been on the phone a few more times, its crazy like either no one calls or they all call at once!

 

i cant believe i talked to him that long tho! A few things he's said really confuses me. i mentioned how iwas down in the area a few weeks ago where he works and he was like and u didnt stop in? i think i was like 'hey i didnt want u to think i was stalking u!" and he was like 'yeah 'ill tell them you're my crazy ex girlfriend" WHAT'S THAT mean??

 

i had told him previously he needs to come hang out and that i was gonna make him and it'd be a weekend in sept, and so he brought it up like "so i thought there was a weekend in sept, yeah right, i see how it is" but he's pretty much gonna be busy each weekend either helping a friend move stuff to harrisburg or working and i'll be working som eweekends here u know....so the timing is just never right. grrrrrrrr

 

you all must be like what a loser, say something to him already or move on! it's just like if i can just get us a clear weekend that should make it clear u know but stupid jobs. they suck!

[phyrespryte]

Omg! Flipping crazy week. So I'm talking to Mr. ExCrush a couple of weeks ago. We'll call him Sean. He says somethings that I found offensive. Like that I'm sheltered and that I don't do anything. I just sit and wait for God to make things happen in my life.

 

So this past Friday I'm still mad I decide to confront him about it. He responds in his usual a**h*** manner. I guess he was a little offended. But it blows over. I also said something to him about being stood up. Then way later on he makes fun of me and I tell him I can't stand him. He got super pissed at me and raised a big fuss. Whatever. The next day I ignore him, he asks me for some help I give him a little atititude and he ends up throwing boxes at me. Well not at me directly, but I could tell he was trying to freak me out. Anyways things are a little tense. I guess I'll have to make nice with him eventually.

 

Blah. I don't feel like being the first to give in. I don't think I'm wrong in what I said. Anyways I don't know why I'm still mad at him. It's not like I want him anymore. In fact there's someone else I've sort of been talking to, that I'm crazy about.

 

Oh in regards to Scott. I think that he was joking a/b the crazy girlfriend comment. I think he likes you a whole lot. And that if you had stopped by to see him that would've made his day. Seriously.

I think that it really sucks having to make a move on him, b/c I bet you're real shy like me. At least when it comes to the whole guy you like thing.

Is he shy too?

Oh and who says it has to be a weekend? It could just be a lunch break or a Friday night or any night for that matter. I think you might have to get real creative with the timing and all that. Just meeting in person sounds like it would be a real good thing. For even just an hour.

[phyrespryte]

Give the guy some space. Maybe he didn't have his cellphone with him at the time. I think if he really wants to get to know you, he'll call you

 

Linda

 

If you're talking a/b the original post...

Well he knows me pretty well. We've worked at the same place for two years, I've worked with him closely for about a year. He never called back because he's a lazy bum who'd rather be off drinking and getting high than be with me. Because he thinks I'm some uptight religious person that either wouldn't give him any or judge him. I'm not sure exactly. But I'm positive it has something to do with the religion thing.

 

Whatever. I'm over it.

[justagirl1121]

Oh in regards to Scott. I think that he was joking a/b the crazy girlfriend comment. I think he likes you a whole lot. And that if you had stopped by to see him that would've made his day. Seriously.

I think that it really sucks having to make a move on him, b/c I bet you're real shy like me. At least when it comes to the whole guy you like thing.

Is he shy too?

 

 

 

I am not sure he's quite as shy. He's had several girlfriends, so...i dont think that's really a big issue. I am pretty shy, but not like I used to be. And like you said, when you like a guy, it's more awkward, but the thing is, i feel so totally at ease with him, i don't think i've ever really felt so easy going with someone else before. I'm not usually a very touchy person or anything like that, usually I have to think too hard about it and then the gesture seems awkward....but going back to the crazy girlfriend thing, i didnt mean it like why was he calling me crazy, but why was he like 'crazy ex girlfriend' i mean, the whole "girlfriend" thing he's brought up like 3 times now. Like I thought of better things to say LATER of course like 'what do you mean crazy ex girlfriend, if u dated me u wouldnt have let me go cause i'm awesome!" or something but of course i am usually like a retard at the present moment. i just want to know if he's trying to imply anything u know?

 

we were talking about this other girl we temped with and i mean she wasnt ugly but i guess she wasnt u know the perfect figure adn i dont think he's really that shallow, one of his now best friends he used to date and i think she's got a pretty face and a good personality but not the best figure just from hearing him bs, i know he does want a cute girl which i mean u know is just human nature. but he was 'what i first remember about starting training was it was you, heather, and sara, and heather was the only one who said anything to me and i was just like 'godd why is SHE talking to me and no one else?" i was like haha but personality wise she is kinda obnoxious.

 

So anyway, still stuck on it.

 

The whole guy thing, i dont know why it's so hard. i mean how do celebrities meet all these people? Granted, they get divorced and date a lot of different people but all the same, it's like if they have feelings they are very open about. Of course, I guess over all they have a lot of confidence being in the industry they're in.

 

Mr Ex Crush seems like a douche bag. What made u like him in the beginning?

I'm glad you're over him though b/c if it wasn't working out and you were still crushing on him that'd suck, b/c it's a great feeling when you like someone but at the same time it's total torture!!!

 

And so, who is this new person you like now? Where'd you meet him, do you work with him or did you meet him out elsewhere? Let me know if anything develops!

[justagirl1121]

I was reading over what I wrote and I have no idea why I kept saying "i mean, u know?" sheesh!

[phyrespryte]

Why was I interested in Mr. ExCrush...

 

Well he was always an a**h***, but he treated me special. He always made me laugh, he was real smart, he had a lot of confidence (that's real important). And he was real good looking. Dark hair and light eyes. I love that. And he really tried hard to make me laugh. He'd sing real loud and stupid or he'd do these silly dances. He'd always say "at least I can make you laugh". He was a lot of fun at work. Outside of work he just turned into this total loser.

 

He's such a brat too. I was ignoring him so now he's ignoring me

Whatever I'm still going to be nice to him.

 

The guy that I like now goes to my school. He's a little dorky looking, he has big ears. But I think that makes him extra cute. And he's so funny. He's the first person since I went to South Beach that made me really laugh. I get the feeling he likes me, but I'm not sure. He sort of invited me to a party. He's like, "me and my roommate are thinking about throwing a party... you can come if you want". He doesn't know when it will be, but I think that's a positive sign right? Plus he loaned me a book and when I tried to give it back he's like are you sure you don't want to hang on to it for a little longer?

 

I'm not going to think too hard about this b/c I really like how things are going. I hope I have a class with him next quarter. If not I'll probably have to get some courage and give him my number.

 

Anyways, so you're worried if he doesn't think you're cute? I think he must think so b/c he's spending an awful lot of time with on you. And the phone calls... Woo! I don't know any guys that like to talk that much on the phone. And I don't mean just the length of the conversation, I also mean the frequency of the calls.

 

I don't know if he's implying anything with the girlfriend comments. He could be. I'm not really sure. It might be overanalyzing to say yes or no.

 

Does he ever try to make plans with you? B/c if he does that has to mean he likes you. Or if he asks what you're doing this weekend or whenever.

 

Well my insomnia is wearing off.

 

I hope things are going good between you and Scott.

[justagirl1121]

Now I kind of feel like crap. Scott called me a little bit ago...good sign right....so like early this year he'd been talking about moving to harrisburg in august (just past) then it changed to july, then to december, then to like next year b/c he wanted to stay at this job new job and get experience...and now he's like im not sure im even going to wait till january. i may be out of here in the next month. i don't know how serious to take this. he said he already joined a gym out there. and his friend he used to date, she's from harrisburg and is moving back there b/c her mom is sick so i'm like.....hmmm with her out there it might be more likely he'll move you know....but i dont know....

 

so now i dont feel so great. he had to get off suddenly. he was like i'll have to call you back so i guess i'll just wait and see if he calls....on another note NCIS premeire!! I havent watched it very long but im not so sure about these new characters replacing kate....so hopefully NCIS will get my mind off my delimma.

 

Im trying to get ppl together for OCT 1. I think he might come out. maybe....but my friends are being party poopers. well the one i mentioned it to so far is being on. why can't they do anything when i try to make plans, its nto fair. they jump on the stuff when other ppl make plans but with me they're just like uh...i dont know....we'll see....

 

i guess im over all not in a very good mood today.

 

as for your new interest and guys in general i think a lot of the attraction is the personality. I mean im fairly picky. some of my big things to start my interest is dark hair, and like 6ft. im 5'6''/5'7''...so i like someone fairly tall. if u got those 2 things, you may have a chance. i think humor is a HUGE thing in my situation. i suppose a lot of people like humor but others want some one serious etc. i want someone who CAN be serous but who is over all a big joker/goofy, does stupid stuff you can laugh at them at.

 

i wasnt really into scott at all. like he was cool but i was never into him until some point when i guess it just happened. and he's not ugly but he's not someone i'd be all over at first glance but i am attracted to him phsyically i think....i havent seen him in a while hard to remember lol....but its the personaity so its like if someone comes a long and over time i like them personality wise, then i can't get them out of my head...but its like otherwise i dont want to give it a chance, which i guess isnt exactly the best way to go about it for getting a guy but i guess i realize that now and should start working on changing that a bit.

 

I have a friend who's pretty relentless. she's one of those one's who would say something. the boys i usually hang out with, our mutual friends, they dont know about scott. really i think just nikki. i'd almost like her to say something to him like 'why don't u ask her out' or something but at the same time if he ISNT interested, i dont want to feel awkward...

 

anyway thanks for listening to me complain. im forcing myself to stop.

[phyrespryte]

Wow, first thought was this doesn't sound so good. I'm not really sure how far harrisburg is from where you are. Would that mean that meeting him would be a problem? Oh and does he still talk to that friend that he used to date? Like are they still friends?

 

Ugh! Let me stop. Ok this is how I see it. I'm not an expert, nor do I have a lot of experience in this area. Perhaps we shouldn't think too hard about this? Maybe it's time to stop and analyze the way things are going in your life and if the timing of all this is right?

 

It seems that maybe there's a reason that you two have not gotten together yet. It could be that you're not ready to get into a relationship or maybe he still has unfinished business. But I'm only saying this from what I experienced with Mr.ExCrush.

 

See I think the reason I never said yes to all the things he invited me to, was because I was afraid that he'd hurt me. And I think that I was right. He's way too flirty of a person. It's just the way he is and I get way too jealous at work. Plus I think part of me was lying to myself when I said I wasn't looking to be serious with him. I liked him way too much. I couldn't just make out with him and pretend like it was just some fun.

 

I'm rambling. What I'm trying to say is that there's probably a reason that you two aren't together by now. I'm not saying that there isn't a possiblity for something in the future. You two seem to have a really good friendship. And I'm positive that there's an attraction there especially on his part.

 

Anyways, good luck with the whole Oct1 thing. Sucks that your friends are being downers. But if he said that he might come...does that mean he'd go even if your friends didn't show up? because...

 

ooh i feel bad. i don't want to be one of those annoying people who tells you all these ideas and then makes things backfire. That's what my friend did for me and mr. excrush. I'm not hating on her or anything. But if I didn't listen to her I think things would be a lot different right now. I mean the timing was just awful. If I had actually listened to everything she said things would be way more weirder than they are now.

 

Like he's talking to me now, but he doesn't tease me like he used to. That's good and bad for some reason. And sometimes it seems like he's mad at me, but then I catch him looking at me. Or he'll do these little real unnoticeable nice things for me. It's weird.

 

Anyways, I think it's weird how similar we are. Like on my license it say 5'7, but I'm really 5'6 point something. I just rather round up. And Oct1 my friend is throwing this big party. And I totally agree with you on the height thing. I dated a guy the same height as me and it was just not good. I like looking up at a guy. And you're absolutely right about the personality thing. I wasn't really attracted to Mr.ExCrush to begin with. Like I thought he was hot, but I didn't get really interested in him till I got to know him better.

 

Wow this is probably the longest post I've ever written.

Hey don't feel bad about complaining. Do what you got to do.

[justagirl1121]

Wow, first thought was this doesn't sound so good. I'm not really sure how far harrisburg is from where you are. Would that mean that meeting him would be a problem? Oh and does he still talk to that friend that he used to date? Like are they still friends?

 

Harrisburg is on the other side of the state like 5 hours away. He used to date jen but im not sure of the whole nature of what all went on but yeah, they're prob best friends. He'd been planning to move out there since like January 05. It eventually seemed like he was gonna stick around here till like next summer instead and get job experience with what he's doing now. She is from there adn is moving back cause her mom's sick is how i gather. Now he's saying he joined a gym out there is probably moving out there before the end of the year...I'm not even sure if he was talking about by like November. I don't like that...but...:::Shrugs::::

 

Ugh! Let me stop. Ok this is how I see it. I'm not an expert, nor do I have a lot of experience in this area. Perhaps we shouldn't think too hard about this? Maybe it's time to stop and analyze the way things are going in your life and if the timing of all this is right?

 

It seems that maybe there's a reason that you two have not gotten together yet. It could be that you're not ready to get into a relationship or maybe he still has unfinished business. But I'm only saying this from what I experienced with Mr.ExCrush.

 

Well, I'm not very secure or comfortable talking about boys and relationships with my parents. I'm not even sure they know I talk to boys. But I feel so strongly, that basically, I'd just have to sit down and come out with it. I think I a ready because I am about to be 23 and my three main things in life right now are 1. a job (which I've found) 2. a relationship and 3. move out

So I think I am ready and the timing is okay.

 

See I think the reason I never said yes to all the things he invited me to, was because I was afraid that he'd hurt me. And I think that I was right. He's way too flirty of a person. It's just the way he is and I get way too jealous at work. Plus I think part of me was lying to myself when I said I wasn't looking to be serious with him. I liked him way too much. I couldn't just make out with him and pretend like it was just some fun.

 

I've had points where...well the last kid I had a crush on...when I thought about dating him or say kissing him, I couldn't really picture myself doing any of that....so maybe all in all it was like I wanted the IDEA of dating him...and I liked him sure but I suppose not that way...so maybe you're whole thing is that you WANT the idea of your excrush and you like him but when it comes down to it, for some reason that maybe isn't clear to you, he's not the one you want to have that TYPE of relationship with....

 

I'm rambling. What I'm trying to say is that there's probably a reason that you two aren't together by now. I'm not saying that there isn't a possiblity for something in the future. You two seem to have a really good friendship. And I'm positive that there's an attraction there especially on his part.

 

I think that thru all the little things he's done and said, that sometimes he's said things that I didn't quite catch and when i was like huh? he kind of sought to say something less revealing and was like "i was saying htat all of you guys who i worked with you're one of my good friends" but I felt like whatever he said before, I missed something but it felt like there was something there. I don't know. I guess I have issues with the little person inside my head always giving me self doubt. I start thinking he likes me then I'm like why would he like me? No one's ever liked me, but yeah he's flirted and been more of a guy friend then ever before, but yeah so what, no one else has been like that so why would HE? but Then I look at people who instant message me adn call me and other little things and i'm like well this guy or this person must think I'm cool so maybe HE does too....you know, all those things that make me the biggest retard in the world...

 

Anyways, good luck with the whole Oct1 thing. Sucks that your friends are being downers. But if he said that he might come...does that mean he'd go even if your friends didn't show up? because...

 

Yeah I need the luck because I only talk to some of them when I see them and I got there screen names on AOL but they're never on! So it's going to be tough I think. But what I figure is, he's made comments about the "i thought you were suppsoed to invite me out" so i hope he doesnt have to go visit harrisburg that weekend adn will come out. and I doubt I could make a move but I think I can...you know make him aware that if he's interested, tonites the night for it to happen...u know what I mean? Just be flirty and touch his arm and stuff....I guess if I make an ass of myself I don't have to see him again!

 

ooh i feel bad. i don't want to be one of those annoying people who tells you all these ideas and then makes things backfire. That's what my friend did for me and mr. excrush. I'm not hating on her or anything. But if I didn't listen to her I think things would be a lot different right now. I mean the timing was just awful. If I had actually listened to everything she said things would be way more weirder than they are now.

 

Like he's talking to me now, but he doesn't tease me like he used to. That's good and bad for some reason. And sometimes it seems like he's mad at me, but then I catch him looking at me. Or he'll do these little real unnoticeable nice things for me. It's weird.

 

I tell my friend Nikki everything about myself and his conversations to try to figure him out. I'm not so sure how reliable that psychology stuff is. Him not teasing you might be since you had that whole weird thing at the party adn the throwing boxes thing. Maybe he'll come around or maybe things will change and you can be good friends. Maybe he likes you but he is a jerk and that's just who he is and you didnt like that side of him, but you were a jerk so the feelings for him probably havent changed, whatever they might be....but don't take my word for it!!

 

Anyways, I think it's weird how similar we are. Like on my license it say 5'7, but I'm really 5'6 point something. I just rather round up. And Oct1 my friend is throwing this big party. And I totally agree with you on the height thing. I dated a guy the same height as me and it was just not good. I like looking up at a guy. And you're absolutely right about the personality thing. I wasn't really attracted to Mr.ExCrush to begin with. Like I thought he was hot, but I didn't get really interested in him till I got to know him better.

 

Wow this is probably the longest post I've ever written.

Hey don't feel bad about complaining. Do what you got to do.

 

I like that I can just put out all my thoughts and if someone reads them then they read them, if not, i will either keep typing to an empty room or people will respond. I like this forum though. CIAO!!!

[justagirl1121]

hey havent seen u around lately!!!

 

i dont know if its just better to give up. i dont want to but i dont know what i should do.

 

he couldnt come this weekend b/c he had to help his friend move her stuff out to harriburg. i was like you have to hang out if you're going to be moving out there yourself. (i dont know how much of it is talk and how serious he is). he was like yeah. but i am busy for the next several weekends nad i dont really feel like asking again. it is just too hectic.

 

oh well

 

how have u been???

[im_confused_05]

Well i am kind of in the same shoes as all of you. Everything was going well between us. we went out and had fun. i mean he was calling me like 5 times a day. he called me one day and asked me to come down on a saturday night and watch movies with him and i agreed to do so. well that next day he told me when he got off the phone with me the night before he had to go into work. then he had to work till 6 that next morning. well needless to say i called him around 6am after he told me he had to work till 6am. well the bad thing is i dont remember calling him at all. he aint the only person i called that morning and dont remember. i called my mom, my brother and my neighbor. So i dont know if he thinks i was checking up on him or what. but i havent called him for awhile. and i didnt go down there that saturday night cause he never called me. so i went ahead and worked that night. i dont know what to do. i mean hes working 330 in the afternoon till 6am. i know he is tired and everything but why cant he call. does he not know what he wants. did he get mad over that phone call. or does he just not want to be with me. i mean i seen him once after he quit calling and he waved like nothing was wrong. im confused help

[phyrespryte]

hey havent seen u around lately!!!

 

i dont know if its just better to give up. i dont want to but i dont know what i should do.

 

he couldnt come this weekend b/c he had to help his friend move her stuff out to harriburg. i was like you have to hang out if you're going to be moving out there yourself. (i dont know how much of it is talk and how serious he is). he was like yeah. but i am busy for the next several weekends nad i dont really feel like asking again. it is just too hectic.

 

oh well

 

how have u been???

 

I'm good...Actually no I'm not. There's been way too much drama at work and I don't know what to do anymore. Oh and ExCrush is still mad at me. But whatever. I've been nice and I don't care anymore. I feel worse about the other stuff going on. But that's way too long and confusing to write about.

 

Ok it's like almost 5 in the morning right now. I just got home from work. Crazy long night. So my opinion might be totally off...

 

Don't ask him out anymore. Don't call him as often. And when he calls don't talk for as long. Seriously. You gave him plenty of opportunities to spend time with you. Plus you have a life and you could be spending your time with another guy or doing stuff that you like.

 

I mean how many times do you have to keep planning things?

 

But then I'm a little cranky.

[phyrespryte]

hi,

 

couple of questions. why would you call at 6am? I know he was working until then, but still that's just an odd time for you to be up in the morning. Why not call like an hour before he goes to work? also he used to call you five times a day? like every day? why? that seems a bit much. and how long has it been since you last talked to him?

 

But i guess it really doesn't matter how long it's been since you talked to him b/c you're used to him calling you frequently. That does seem odd. But I doubt it had anything to do with your phone call.

Why don't you call him again? Just be like hey what's up haven't heard from you in awhile. Is everything ok? Then just see what happens.

[justagirl1121]

yeah i havent talked to him since he told me he couldnt go. im not mad at him b/c i know he had those plans but yeah at the same time, i'm trying to give up but its hard. ive been busy though. this is homecoming weekend for where i went to college and i'm going up tomorrow and staying over in a hotel with others, OMG i am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo excited. the hard part is coming back home and leaving the place that was my own home for four years. i love going back, i can't wait till tomorrow!!!

[justagirl1121]

Homecoming was AWESOME. We kicked Grove City's ass, we won for once!!!! 30 to NOTHING! hhehe!

 

the boys we were with are such babies though sometimes. my friend nikki and i feel like they're parents. we went to the mall and to the movies to see Waiting. we went to the Outlet stores before we went back home on sunday. 2 girls and 2 boys and who bought all the clothes? THE METRO SEXUAL BOYS. i never realized they were metro, imagine that. but they are

 

this kid from country georgia, his names' giorgi but everyone calls him george. he told me over instant messanger that he was a marketing asst in new york but really he's managing a Wendy's in the Pittsburgh area. So when we were at the Hilltop (bar) i was like so how's new york dude....must be GREAAAT being a marketing asst!....he did buy nikki and i a drink but then he was being an ass. which is typical. he was all like "so where are you staying." and we told him, in a hotel with mandy, nick, and marlissa." and he's like "i come stay with you girls. we party" and we're like "mandy would KILL us" he's like "then we get our own room and we party." we were like we are not taking you to a hotel to "party". We ended up going outside where it was cooler and he i think seriously thought we were going to do that and when he realized we weren't he was like "F*** this," and went back into the bar! we were like screw you! and we started to leave (after watching an almost bar fight where hte bouncers had to come out).

 

george is such a douche bag. then he messaged me the other day and was like "what up" and i kind of told him off. and he was like "i'm sorry i was drunk. i dont remember any of it." "so that makes it all better! you act like an ass when you werent drunk!!!!" so he keeps im'ing me pick up lines. "i cannot go thru metal detectors......becuz i am da bomb" "can i take my picture with you.......i want to show santa what i want for christmas" "there is a storm raging outside but all the sunshine i need is right here." i was like "dude, maybe you should get off those sites on how to NOT pick up women and go manage your wendy's!!!"

 

i've been having a text messaging problem. with Verizon Wireless there's these messaging packages. for 5 bucks you get unlimited messaging to otehr verizon customers and 50 extra for non verizon. I keep getting all these huge overage charges. so i called cust service and she was like "they are legitimate. you're texting someone who doesnt have verizon. blah blah" oh i was so pissed! i'm like i used to work in Coos and i am a sales agent, i know how this works! they give credits out the wazoo for people but for me they wouldnt do anything. I was like my message allowance started over on saturday. i rec'd and sent one to my non verizon friend. the only non verizon i text message. u cant tell me i have used all htese messages for real! oh very pissed am i.

 

 

so i took your advice, and i didnt call scott at all. in fact i didnt even really want to talk to him just b/c its like what's the point im tired. i was like maybe he'll call me...so i waited it out and who called me last night? Scott! i was on another call so i didnt answer. Maybe i'll call tonite b/c it'll be convenient for me or maybe i'll wait till like saturday. if he IS interested which it still seems like he is and he's a retard, i dont want to give him the impression that *I* am not...but i want to make him suffer, if he actually wants to talk to me.

 

what i dont get is i am seeing other people act a certain way and i cant understand why i can't find a guy. like timmy instnat mess me ALLLLLLLLLL the time. he's def not the kind of kid to make any sort of whatever, and dave talks to me. these are people i went to college with. after i saw him at homecoming at the bar for like 2 min, the next night i messaged him and was like did u have fun? and he was like yep. and he was like you looked good. and i was like thanks! u looked very pretty too! and just all these other things i get some guy friends. like jon and jordan told nikki and she told me that they were like 'that is the tightest shirt i ever saw her wear!" and i was like WHAT? it wasnt a tight shirt it was something i'd worn to work. and i was like why were they looking at my shirt? nikki was like i dont know but they were!

 

then i sorta started talking to jordan and jon online and i guess they told nikki i flirt with them a lot on there but not in person and they didnt understnad it...and i didnt realize i was flirting but...ok....

 

and my manager, that's a whole nother story! its weirding me out a little. he's 26a nd he's not bad looking and i like him but i mean for one thing he's my manager and secondly im not interested in him that way at all but he calls me all the time! my phone rings and its him and im like christ what does he want now! its about work stuff but still.....it's weird...he's not exactly my equal u know....

 

i get all these little vibes and yet with scott i sure get hte vibes but nothing out of it. i could see if i werent trying myself but i've not gone running and hiding from him u know?

 

it never ends