Should I call him again or is he just not interested?

[justagirl1121]

thanks confused geek

 

man that foreign guy is just dragging it out. you have guts for working on it. sometimes i think it'd just be best if someone could just come out and be like "will you go out on a date with me?" but everyone's so afraid of rejection. I think usually its very one sided attraction. i dont know.

 

here's what's new on my end.

 

my friend found out that apparently douche bag has been txting this girl il mentioned earlier. which he never used to do with us. and he's still in the area, so he didnt move. so i dont understand what happened. he's tlaking to someone else too a lot. this lady used to work for the company but got fired. i know he wouldnt be attracted to her b/c she is bigger and kinda icky. but he must think of her as one of the guys. anyway, so why's he talking to these people and not me? i sorta start to do ok and then i just get like this tight feeling in my chest. i mean, i could handle not dating him if we could just be FRIENDS. I know i realllly like him, but i can deal with just being friends. really. just hanging out and talking would be fine. i mean, what did i do? he still continued to call me after we went out and then just stopped cold turkey so what the hell. sorry i am rambling on. i need to get a freaking life.

 

so im guessing his tuesday meant tonite....let me know if u did meet up! im not sure if he's interested in you. from what my friend says from her experience and what her guy friends have told her is if a guy is not interested he's not going to bother. so maybe he's not sure but he isnt totally NOT interested in you...maybe you just need to be like one more time. "do you want to go out on such and such." if he's somewhat intrested i would think he would be there. if not then maybe move on before you get too hurt.

[phyrespryte]

So it's my day off and I'm just wasting time b/c I don't feel like doing anything. I'm so blah right now. Tuesday night nothing happened. Big surprise right? I hung out with match.com guy and watched the flava of love and listened to how fabulous match.com's current g/f is.

 

Woo.

 

Some things I've learned... I had lunch with a school friend the other day and he tells me that there's a possibilty that foreign guy is a pothead or druggie type. One of foreign guy's roommates is for sure.

 

Great.

 

I mean that with as much sarcasm as possible. Excrush is a pothead and we all saw how great that went. So I've come to the conclusion that he isn't that into me. At least he's not as interested in me as I am him.

 

I'm not going to try to make things happen anymore. I don't care. I'm sick of this.

 

I was reading your other threads justagirl...good stuff. Like there's so much advice on there that I think makes sense and I think relates to this too. Like I need to just back off and move on with my life. I deserve a guy who thinks I'm worth contacting. I don't give a s*** if he's foreign or not.

 

But I still feel pretty blah.

 

Award night is Thursday...I've been told to drag a goodlooking guy friend along. But I think foreign guy might be too boozed up to even notice.

 

Anyways, enough of this butthole.

 

Let's talk douche bag.

 

 

I'm extremely disappointed in him. And I don't know why he's not talking to you. It doesn't make any sense. Guys are so freaking stupid. You should drunk text him. Well no that wouldn't be right. But I wish you could be like what the f***? What's your problem douche bag? Huh?

 

Sorry. I'm moving from blah to bitter.

 

I had a dream about foreign guy...I dreamt that I told him he was full of s***, and that I wanted to know what his deal was. And then things were all wonderful. We kissed and it was good.

 

Crazy dream. We all know that wouldn't work in real life anyways.

 

Anyways I don't think you did anything wrong. He's an idiot. Because you guys could've still been friends. Guys are dumb like that. I think girls are more capable of doing the friend thing than guys realize. Like sometimes I'm jealous of match.com guy's relationship, but I love being his friend. And I'm actually happy that he's met such a great girl. It's hard hearing about it though b/c I'm still single. But I wouldn't want to have things any other way.

 

anyways. i'm going to go now b/c I'm writing way too much and none of it is really coherent.

[justagirl1121]

Nah, you were all coherant. It is sooooooooooo hard but sometimes we just need to move on. We all go through it. I guess the whole not being able to find someone to take our minds off the douchebags is what is making it difficult. I think I used to be suppppper picky but also didnt even know what I wanted in a guy, like looks wise....and now i have an idea, but im also not being as picky with looks. Because I kinda like this bobby guy. I think he's hot...i like his personality too...at least....what i've gotten to know of him so far. I am thinking this greg kid isn't bad either....um....oh and hte trainers i had were pretty hot. bobby (other bobby) is pretty hot but a bit too short. chris is hot too but kind of...i dont know. dry humor. kinda a prick maybe? good trainer. nice enough in courtesy if you pass by at work, etc...but other than that....

 

im trying to get over scott and i kinda am...its just when i hear these things like the sara thing i am like wtf? i wish i could drunk txt him!

 

I keep seeing people at work i saw when i was a temp but haevnt seen in a year and they're soooo cool i am sooo happy i am at this job. i have made a couple girlfriends (we're the 3 musketeers and we went to applebees again then to target and we have fun being goofy) but these people i havent seen are all alike oh how is....(and they try to think of hte name) and im like 'scott?' cause i know that's who they're thinking of. its like geeeez. i dont think he runs into people but sometimes i wonder if anyone ever asks him how *I* am. cause it is CRAZY how they ask me about him.

 

anyway i would like to be friends with him but i gotta just put him out of existence i guess.

 

that guy shonna liked, craig, who didnt want a relationship after he persued her like he wanted one, started calling her a bit, but then she called him back he didnt respond for SEVERAL days, then he called her again. she's like wtf? he's out of the running as far a dating material but she'd like to be friends. but why's he calling her? we just cant' make sense of it.

 

anyway, it seems like us girls are always the ones looking for some guy and we just can't find one. where's the nice decent guy (not one with hair plugs, and not one necessarily the hottest guy alive) but just normal and funny and decent who tries to persue us for once? DAMN.

 

If matthew mccougheny asked me out i wouldnt say no

goign to see failure to launch on fri. im a new matty fan. im in a phase lol. everything matthew right now haha.

 

oh well. good luck on thur!

[phyrespryte]

Hey justagirl! I hope that movie is good. I love Matthew mchaondfyeh...whatever his last name is. He's so cute.

 

I'm glad that your new job is working out great and that there are cute guys to work with.

 

Lot of Bobbys though. What is up with that? It's so weird how you'll never meet anyone with a name and then you go somewhere and there's like 3 other people with that name.

 

 

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So right now I'm freaking out. I'm seriously freaked out. I can't find a single person to go with me to the thing thursday night. I'm so scared that I'll go there and have to sit alone. Ahhh!

[phyrespryte]

So I didn't get an award.

 

And I'm mad not sad, because something was seriously messed up. Like the judging seemed off. Usually there'll be a gold and a silver award for each class. Sometimes even a gold and silver for each project within that class. But some classes didn't even get an award. And a couple of classes only had one person get an award. It was so messed up.

 

Whatever. I've got some great portfolio pieces.

 

Oh and foreign guy was not there at all. I think he might've went back to his country for the break. I don't know. Shaggy wasn't there either. But their one friend was there and the three of them are usually together. Oh and their other roommate was there too so I'm assuming they had to have gone back home.

 

Blah.

 

Whatever. I survived the stinking ceremony alone. I swear sometimes this school thing is worse than highschool. Like I didn't know anyone there and I'm sitting by myself just staring at the walls. It's like come on people! Talk to me! Anyone!

 

But yeah I know it's my responsibilty to reach out to people. Blah. It's such hardwork.

[justagirl1121]

That's okay....people don't really approach me either, and I'm sure if I were in your shoes, I'd be goin by myself as well.

 

You are soooo right about the whole name thing!!! I'm trying to tell my friend Nikki work stories and I'm naming Bobby's, Scott's, Nicoles...and it's like well Bobby....TRAINER bobby...not in my hire class bobby....said THIS....and....

it makes the story so much longer lol

 

The movie was short, but cute. Yeah, I have no idea how to spell his last name either. But there's some definite shirtlessness going on in the movie

 

I just want some guys to hang out with and talk to on the phone, even if I can't date one. I can't even get THAT. I'm not feeling toooooo bad right at the moment though. I like the friends im making at work. and im glad im seeing hte other people that i used to talk to. my friend amy came to visit her brother this weekend. she went home today. i was kinda depressed after she left. she's so funny. oh well she lives 2 hrs away right now. soon i'll be able to take days off to visit and vice versa.

 

how is your weekend? this sun is technically my sat. so im all outta whack!

[justagirl1121]

HAHA.i found out some interesting stuff that kinda made my day.

 

i went up to see shonna on my break today (since we now work together again yay:) ) because she had txt msged me "wow do i have some good info about scott!"

 

so she goes to me, sh'es like well bonnie was saying that she hadnt talked to scott since the fall and she's been getting some calls at work that are hanging up. (he's a sales agt and we're customer service type stuff) like when she hears her name he'll hang up and a couple other people were getting that too. even shonna. and like right after that would happen, someone else would get scott, someone i guess scott wasnt worried about talkin to them for whatever reason, so i guess after a while they put 2 and 2 together and believe its him. which means he def didnt move. another thing weird is a 28 yr old with a cell ph in his moms name. granted, under certain situations, i see noooo problem with that. however in his i would have figured he'd have his own line since he has his own place and is all independent and whatnot. anyway, i guess he had hung out w/ sara and stuff and varsie asked her why she didnt go back to his place (assuming a guy would. i wondered why he didnt ask me u know? ) and sara was like /because he lives with his mom. so sara knows that. i was like oh wow. haha. thats great. it doesnt really surprise me. all the stuff that really didnt make sense. so bonnie at one time had been talkin to jen (his ex gf whos like his best friend now...unless he stopped talkin to her too) said that i dont know if he has like problems or something but it like a liar and verbally abusive. which i cant picture the verbally abusive part...but anyway, i guess that's why they broke it off. so things are makin more sense now. weird. makes me feel better tho.

 

oh i have to work at 6am starting tuesday

[Guest]

if he wants to talk to you. he will call. he knows your interested. DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN.

[justagirl1121]

What r u talking about? i haven't called him again. I don't even care about it any more. Did you even read any of the posts before you commented?

[phyrespryte]

LOL Scott's a mamma's boy! Hahahaha and he lives at home with his mom...

Wait I live with my parents too!

 

But at least I've got my own phone. But seriously that's some good stuff. I think you're way better off without him. He's really doesn't have his act together. Sorry to hear about your new 6am schedule. That sucks. But hey at least you get to go home earlier. That's what I keep telling myself when I have to work morning shifts.

 

So I've been gone for awhile because I've been trying to chill out and let things just happen. Since I hadn't heard from foreign guy during break I assumed that he wasn't interested and it was time for me to move on. And I was kind of moving on. I had finally forgiven Mr. Excrush and we're actually on friendly terms again. Well he was always friendly, but now I'm better at controlling my anger. And I started looking at other guys and was feeling very positive about moving on. Then classes started back up again...

 

Guess who I have a class with? Yup foreign guy. So now I'm a mess again. I'm so confused. And Shaggy is in the class too. OH! And even better...my nemesis is in this class too. She's this old chick who is obsessed with pink and always seems to screw things up for me.

 

Damn this is going to be a long post because there is so much I've been trying not to think about and now I have to think about.

 

1st class with foreign guy...

The whole flipping time he was talking to Shaggy, when the class had a 15 minute break he spent the whole break talking to Shaggy. I was like damn it! Talk to me! End of class I swear I hear Shaggy say, "talk to her". Then foreign guy starts talking to me. He tells me how he was with his family all break and how he got really sick. Blah blah blah. Then my nemesis interupts the conversation and asks him if he's feeling better. So after she ruined the moment he says bye and that was that.

 

Chance meeting...

A week later I run into him. We talk some more about his break and he asks me about mine. I was a little rude. He's like, "you didn't go out at all'? And I said, "do I look like I go out"? Oops. But he said he liked my necklace and that made me happy. Then later on I see him again. He was in the middle of stuffing his face with this huge sandwich and he tried to say hi. It was too cute.

 

2nd class...

While waiting for class to start nemesis comes in and decides to sit on my left side which is bad because that's where I was hoping foreign guy would sit. Well she decides she'd rather sit on my right side and starts moving her stuff. Except she leaves her soda and sunglasses behind. Guess who then shows up? Foreign guy. And he sits 1 chair away from my left. I was so pissed. After he sat down she finally took her stuff back. Then Shaggy shows up so I'm stuck sitting between Shaggy and my nemesis. It was so f*cking uncomfortable. Shaggy is a cool guy and all, but he's not exactly who I wanted next to me. And I can't stand my nemesis.

 

Anyways foreign guy talked to me a little more than he did 1st class. I was going to ask him during the break, if he wanted to go out, but by then I was so messed up because nemesis screwed things up. I lost my courage and just wanted to get out of there. And he was all busy talking to Shaggy again.

 

Grr. And nemesis was all flirting with him. Like she kept touching him and it was really pissing me off. Now I know he's not too fond of her, but I still didn't like seeing her all touching him. She even asked him for his screenname!!!! He told her no.

 

Oh and he asked me what my domain name was (it's a web design class) and he said that he was going to check out my page. Then nemesis starts laughing and saying why would you look when there's nothing up yet. Har dee har har. She's so annoying. I thought it was cute that he said that. I didn't know how to react, I just kind of shrugged and smiled at him.

 

Oh and he asked me if I still had his book and if I still used it. I asked him if he wanted it back and he's like if you're using it you can hold on to it and I'll call you in two years for it back. huh?

 

Anyways at the end of class he just leaves. Well he said by to Shaggy and that was that. Damn it.

 

I'm so confused. What was up with the book question? Did he want it back? Like I kind of feel like an ass holding onto it if he wants it back. And why the f*** doesn't he do anything?

[justagirl1121]

man, boys are so lame! my advice would be to just forget about foreign boy and move on but i know how that's much easier said than done, so i wouldnt take my advice too seriously. im sure u already know that anyway.

 

u know what i so absolutely hate when i try to get things to work like you were trying with the whole desk thing and then something goes to f it all over for you. like bitchy girl or karma or the whole world thats just saying you suck. grrrrr

 

i guess we'll just never find boys

 

anotehr one bites the dust for me. greg from work, he uped and quit yesterday. cant say i was real into him but he was kinda cute and i would have tried to find more to talk to him but never really got there. so oh well to that dude.

 

now there's bobby. i may have mentioned him? he's cute. he got his hair cut this week. he didnt want to take care of it since we had to get up at like 4am for work. he said im not going to lie and say that wasnt part of hte reason. harhar. the short hair is growing on me, tho i did like how he had it before. longer but not too long. he wore a hat today. have to say....prettttty cute. damn.

 

he's got that amy girl who he has been seen talkin to like in his car and stuff at work. prob talk on the phone. dont know exactly whats goin on there.

 

dont really know what i can do? im kinda happy with my new seat at work. he's not very far away. i mean if we're in the break room at the same time, he'll talk. he'll be like what's goin on. ask me if i have plans, etc. he'll come sit at the table and we'll chat...that's about it tho.

 

its so aggravating.

 

day 6 starts tomorrow of my working, tho now inestead of being done at 2:30pm i go in at 2:30! but i get salary differential so i make a bit more...i guess that's how the cookie crumbles ;p

[phyrespryte]

I think I'm reaching the climatic point in the movie and soon everything will come to a resolve. Now will this be one of those happy movies or sad ones? I don't know.

 

So recently I've adopted this new philosophy for life. That life is what you make of it and if you want stuff to happen you need to make it happen yourself. So my first day of living this philosophy (Monday) I see foreign guy.

 

I went up to him and said hi. He kissed me on the cheek.

I asked him if he wanted to go get something to eat? He couldn't, but asked if Tuesday was good. Anyways we ended up agreeing on Thursday. Of course dumb me I didn't get a time or a place.

 

Tuesday I had class with him. For the entire class he didn't say hi or even look at me. Then when the class ended he stayed behind and was working on something. Since my next class was in that same room I stayed there. Well Shaggy's girlfriend comes along and sits next to me. Foreign guy started to leave, but stopped to talk to her. And it was so f***ing awkward. There he was in between me and her. Didn't look at me once.

 

When he left I was MAD. I was over it. I was like screw Thursday I don't care anymore. I was writing all kinds of angry instant messages to my friend on this thing called ichat. When all of a sudden I get an instant message from foreign guy. Which scared the crap out of me because I never gave him my screen name. Turns out ichat has this weird thing called bonjour that allows people in the same area to talk to each other? Anyways he wanted to reschedule our "meeting" to Friday. I said fine. Now I've got a time and a location.

 

Yay... WTF? I don't get him at all. Oh well. We'll find out Friday right? I've decided to keep my expectations extremely low because I have this feeling that I'm going to get blown off again.

 

Anyways, Bobby sounds real nice. Geez louise is he part of the orignal Bobby's you mentioned earlier? There's so many. And I don't like the sound of Amy. Especially since she's been seen in his car. Eck. That just sounds so shady.

 

But congrats on the differential pay increase thing! And well at least you get to sleep in. Geez I swear working sucks no matter what. They need more normal hours. Like 10-5. I wouldn't mind cutting my lunch break short for hours like that. It's perfect cause you can sleep in a little and you leave early enough to go home and eat...take a little nap and then go party.

[phyrespryte]

Just wanted to share this with everyone. It's around 10:30pm. I skipped class today because I didn't finish my project in time. I had tried to pull an all-nighter but that sucker wore me out and I ended up sleeping the rest of the day. I've been up for quite some time and I still haven't finished the project.

 

But that isn't the best part. I guess not sleeping for the past 3 nights and drinking 4-5 cups of coffee/tea a day have caught up with me. So now I have this massive pimple on my forehead. And it wouldn't be so bad except unfortunately it's not the regular run-of-the-mill pimple it's one of those "blind" pimples. The ones you can't pop. So it's big, red, and sore. Fabulous!

 

Then I get a message from my school saying there's a meeting tomorrow for people who want to do the study abroad thing. So I'm meeting foreign guy at 2...the meeting is at 6. CRAP. And it's not like after seeing him I can go back home and chill because it's about an hour and a half long drive. By the time I get home I'll have to drive back. And what if he's going to that meeting too? I can't imagine spending 4 hours with him! Well I mean I guess I could, but then what if things go horribly wrong? Or better yet what if he stands me up? How awkward to see him at the 6pm meeting. How public...like a frog.

 

So to summarize things...I'm sitting here with toothpaste on my forehead and my project still isn't finished.

 

I'm not sure why I just shared all this, but I hoped someone enjoyed it.

[phyrespryte]

So Friday I had lunch with foreign guy. It was nice. We went to this little food place, then we went to this really cool store that I didn't know existed. But then I don't really know what's in that area.

 

So some highlights of the event:

 

- I made a joke and he didn't get it. In fact he seemed kind of confused and bothered by what I had said.

- When we were walking back to the school, Shaggy called him. And foreign guy said,"Yeah it went well, she said some weird things though, I'll tell you later". I hope he wasn't talking about me, because that would've been real stupid of him.

- At the school entrance he tried to go give me a kiss on the cheek, but I was walking away and he kissed my hair. (I would've stayed, but there were all these other students around and it felt weird)

 

Anyways, the best part of the whole thing was lunch when we kept smiling at each other while we were eating. And overall I had a good time. I don't know if something will happen again. I guess I'll have to ask him again. But if I do, I think I need to have something more specific planned out.

[justagirl1121]

hey i read these!!!! cool thing u had lunch with foreign guy. sounds good he tried to give u kiss, too bad u turned away. im lucky if i get a friendly punch in the arm from a guy as a goodbye! it's kinda funny but kinda not...

 

he needs to start makin a move. ask u to do something. did you guys talk much? seems shy like he doesnt really talk. and that'd be stupid if he were talking to shaggy in front of you about you. let me know what u find out on that.

 

u need to describe this foreign guy better. i got this image in my head but i may have it all wrong. everytime i read shaggy i think of scooby doo.

 

anyway, not much new on my end. i came down with a sore throat last monday and by wed (off wed thur from work) it hurt pretty bad and i ws losing my voice. thru was much worse, so fri when i ws supposed to go back to work i had made dr. appt for first time with my new benefits. he said nothing was wrong. but its 8 days later and my throat still hurts. well i am out of training and transition now at work so i thought all my benefits were available for me now so i took a sick day and i ended up with a frickin written warning! apparently most of us in the new class thought we had the days but we dont until like april 30. but im not sure if 4/30 is the last day we dont have it or the first day we do....

 

so to be safe may 1st it is......

 

so back when i was a temp there was this guy tim who works here. he's..okay....he's nice enough...but he's got red/blonde hair, pale skin and it just doesnt do anything for me. i guess he likes me. shonna has told me and scott had made all kinds of remarks abt it. well now im back and of course he's now been moved to the 2nd fl from the 4th, so we're on the same floor. its almost like its a frickin sign. grrrr. i dont really see him around much tho. someitmes i go into the break roo and hteres there and i kinda ignore him when i go to get my tea or hot choc or something, if i can avoid it w/o appearing as if i did see him. u know what i mean? but today i go in and sit downa nd say hi adn talk to him during my break. so then i get an email that he's going out with friends after work adn invited me. i was like grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. i never get guys attnetion but then by ppl im just sooooooo not interested in, i seem to get it. im not lookin for a hot guy, im just lookin for a cute (not pretty boy cute, just pleasant) dude. someone who has nice eyes and cute smile or something whos funny and nice and whos going to do some askin out and what not. they must not know i exist tho.

 

supposed to go out wiht shonna tomorrow night. not sure where we're goin, so i may have an update after that...on the on going craig drama. he's now talkin to her a bit and inviting her out to see him DJ at one of the places. another confusing douche.

 

how sad it is the joy in my life is my refound obsession with dr. quinn, medicine woman. i found a tape i'd recorded on years ago and was like addicted so i bought season 1 on dvd off amazon and only have 2 episodes left. i watch like 2-3 eps at night when i come home and like 4 or 5 yesterday! im like god this is so bad! but i really want season 2-6 next, i plan on doing overtime for it.

 

tell me, it IS sad isnt it? pathetic even. <sigh>

[phyrespryte]

Foreign guy:

bald, crooked teeth, skinny, and tall. Smiles like a kid who just got some kool-aid. Very cute. I'll have to send you a link to a picture.

Personality: he's loud, always cracking jokes, very opinonated and has a tendency to offend people but they're still drawn to him, he seems to know a lot of people, likes to party, and is a bit self-deprecating.

 

phew! I hope that helps. Basically he doesn't seem shy at all. When we went out the conversation kept going and going. Oh and shaggy...well some people say he looks like he-man? He's tall with long blonde hair and kind of built. He's also very funny.

 

I'm so sick of foreign guy. I had class with him yesterday and nothing happened. NOTHING. During the 15min break, I got all excited because Shaggy had left and it looked like an opportunity. I went up and talked to him for a couple of seconds, figured he would come with me for whatever. But instead he went and talked to the teacher.

 

I'm not asking him out anymore. I'm not going to get all prettied up for him anymore either. Shaggy is his roommate. There is no reason for him to have to spend every waking second with him. There is plenty of time for him to talk to the teacher AFTER class so there's no reason for him to always be stalking him. PLUS the teacher already talked to him about his site. What more is there to say?

 

Is he gay? Geez louise. I don't get him at all.

 

Anyways,

I hope you're feeling better. I can't belive your benefits didn't kick in yet! That's awful. I swear it's so annoying how companies forget to tell people these things. Like at my store...oh you get an extra discount on Saturday. Then on Saturday I find out the discount is only on 1 item.

 

Sorry to hear about Tim. Why is it that the guys you're not interested in...they're the ones that have all the courage and the brains? I have to give him kudos because he was pretty smooth when he asked you out. Too bad you're not attracted to him. I swear I hate guys. They're all stupid.

 

Well I hope that you have fun with Shonna. That Craig guy...I don't think I remember him. Was he the one that stopped calling? Or is he a new guy?

 

Oh and Dr. Quinn rocks! And I don't think that's pathetic that you watch the show every night. It's better than going home stressing about a stupid guy who can't do anything right.

[justagirl1121]

I swear I had posted back.....but maybe not....

 

Anyway......on one hand it seems you're getting somewhere with Foreign Guy, but on the other hand it doesn't seem like it's amounting to much. He needs to be more talkative. TO YOU. Why isn't he a typical guy who's interested who's going up to the girl going "hey, baby, we hookin' up tonite?" You know, something along those lines...

 

I guess we may never know...

 

nothin' new on my end much. Had wed and thur off like norm....took fri, sat, and sun off. verynice, went waaaaay too quickly. Worked today, tomorrow (going in for overtime no less) and off wed thur again.....workd fri-tue....off wed-sun....work mon-tues, off wed, thur...then its back to the normal 5 and 2 routine....spent sooooooooo much money on my car, on my eyes for contacts and glasses. spent abt 410.00 on that. And then bought some new shirts, underwear, bras, a purse....a toothbrush, and food for work. Got some cute clothes after spending a lot of time trying to find soemthing that fits right. bought some care bears undies lol.....and some shirts that are cool. wore one of them today. makes you feel better. i wanted some sort of short sleeved since its getting warmer, and the price i pay is i freeze at work cause its soooo dang cold in there!!!

 

Anyway, was txting with Nikki, who i haven't seen in like 2 mo. she said she went to visit her boy in baltimore and he has a friend she wants to hook me up with. im like great. tried to explain to her why it would never work and she doesnt seem to get it. but oh well. so apparently, im suppsoed to at least try to plan a trip out there with her and she's going to pressure me into hooking up with him or something, which will make it worse b/c i dont feel comfortable aroudn that thing very much with her.

 

oh well. ON TO PLAYING SIMS! I'm such a big loser.

[phyrespryte]

Why isn't he a typical guy who's interested who's going up to the girl going "hey, baby, we hookin' up tonite?"

 

:lmao:

 

Normally if a guy ever said that to me I'd be so offended. But if he said it I think I'd be relieved. Like finally he grew some balls!

Well still nothing has happened. He talked to me yesterday. Showed me what he did on his website and told me some other stuff. Made eye contact a bunch. He cracked a joke in class and we had a little "moment".

 

Honestly. I don't care anymore. I think perhaps the last couple of weeks were estrogen induced craziness. I still like him, but I'm fine with the friend thing. If he ever decides to move forward I'm game. I'm not going to get all aggressive anymore, it's just not worth getting worked up over. . But hey next month I might be pms-ing again and think differently.

 

Anyways I'm so jealous that you got to go shopping. I want some new unmentionables!! And I want a sundress. I don't know why, but I have to have one. It's nice that you get to have over time. I miss doing that. Well sort of.

 

Ok and what is up with her trying to hook you up with a guy in Baltimore? I mean that's nice that she's setting you up and all, but isn't that kind of far? And it doesn't really sound like it's got any kind of long term potential either. But hey it could be a fun trip. And you could just be mean to him if he's gross.

 

And I LOVE the sims. I made a neighborhood with all the guys that I've had drama with and me! And surprise surprise my sim is still single. I swear those sims crack me up. My sim is a crazy little character that likes to spy on the neighbors and hug people inappropriately.

[phyrespryte]

Well this quarter is almost over. 4 more weeks to go. And this week I'll find out if I passed the review and can go study abroad.

 

I swear this thread is no longer about the original question, but it still sort of relates. I'm always wondering if some guy is interested and if I should try to reach out to him. And what I've learned so far is that the good common sense advice (mostly the stuff on the first page) is usually right.

 

I was told that if he was interested he would call me. That nothing would stop him from trying to be with me. They were right.

 

Except they kind of left out some things. Little details that kind of make the advice a little easier to accept. Like I learned that it's all about timing. Sometimes you meet someone and there's attraction on all levels, but they're not ready for you or anyone else. It's got nothing to do with you. Or that being direct with people solves so many problems. That there's times where you have to get over that pride/fear thing and ask what you need to know regardless of the answer.

 

And the newest thing I learned is to ask myself the question...am I interested?

 

Which is where I'm at now. And I wonder if all this attention I direct at my current crush is because he's all that I've got right now. That if I had "options" or more of a "life" that I wouldn't concern myself with such lame behavior.

 

Once again I'm thinking of asking foreign guy out. And I'm not sure if it's because I like him or I just feel like having someone to hang out with. Kind of like what happened with match.com guy.

 

Oh well. I guess I'll see what happens.

[justagirl1121]

hey

 

i agree with ya. when i was first going on about "does he like me" and all, people said, "go date other people and he'll be jealous and come around" but i didnt HAVE anyone else to date, but because i was interested in him, i didn't want to FIND someone else....so i can see how you can be in that spot.

 

Sometimes, though, you do need to give up and just cut it out completely. I'm not a very emotional person. I care and I get upset. I keep alot of it in though. But in away I detach myself from it. I don't get very close to people. So I wonder why I got over douche bag kinda. Sometimes I get kinda sad about it, but he's been such an ass, it's like, that helps.

 

Apparently, he never moved to harrisburg and he's no longer working at the place he was. Apparently, he's working in the other building with the same company as a temp again!!!!! I worked over there for a short time too. I'm like what the deal?!? Pulled up his name in Outlook and sure enough.....crazy...

 

Anyway, I think a lot of it is timing and both people in the right place for a relationship as a whole. And one of them not to be chicken. I honestly look at people and wonder HELL the hell did they get together? I can't figure out what's missing that I can't get to that spot. I got that one weird guy i met last year who keeps IMing me. Like "hey beautiful" i dont get it! I'm not interestd and i havent led him on. i swear i even blocked him. but why's he still making a fool of himself? I give up easily. Because I guess sometimes I care too much of what people think.

 

I dont know....im on vacation again until monday. going to OH with my friend to an amusement park and whatnot....im so excited.

 

anyhoo, good luck on the rest of the quarter!!! this page is rather theropeutic. If i spelled that right...

 

Oh, if you want something to lift your spirits...i spent like 25 minutes on the phone with this guy who calle dinto customer service who had no idea what he was calling infor, he was calling in because he was told to and something like 64.25. BUt it was all automated and he's like 'it kept asking me for my number, but i don't call myself so i dont know waht it is." so yeah. he had no idea what he was calling in for and im asking himprobing questions. it is pretty sad when i knwo what is going on and the customer doesnt and i dont even have the account up. anyway, it took like 25 minutes to get his number out of his phone becaue he was THAT unknowledgable. I'm like, okay, press the left little button above teh send key that has a little blue dot in it. do you see it?" ok after you press it what comes on the screen? "open wave" okay that's mobile web....ok you need to...and i start all over again. so i used to have his model phone so im trying to take him thru the menus to find his number blindly. i could have looked it up on th ecomputer whcih i sorta did. i had him take the battery out to chk the phone model. i had to describe how to put the battery back in. okay, you see the black part of the battery? That's the bottom. it does down wards. do you see the silver metallicy sticker? that should be facing up. "oh facing up, i have to turn it around then." ok you need to put the black part of hte battery intot eh bottom part of hte phone first where you see the little tabs....okay then snap the top part in.." i had to freakin describe how to put the backdoor of the phone together to inclose the battery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i wa slike god you gotta be joking. finally i got to take his payment. goodness...people like that shouldnt HAVE a cell!!!!!!

[elijahBailey]

heeey, I was just passing by LS town.... haven't been up here in a while.

 

i agree with ya. when i was first going on about "does he like me" and all,

people said, "go date other people and he'll be jealous and come around" but i didnt HAVE anyone else to date, but because i was interested in him, i didn't want to FIND someone else....so i can see how you can be in that spot.

 

same guy?

 

ahh, don't worry too much about it. You'll eventually find someone more mature. But with boys like that (I'm one ) you can't get too fixated on them. It doesn't work. Really. Immature dudes like me run the other direction when the girl comes on too hard. whatever, it's a character flaw and I ain't proud of it.

 

Sometimes, though, you do need to give up and just cut it out completely. I'm not a very emotional person. I care and I get upset. I keep alot of it in though. But in away I detach myself from it. I don't get very close to people. So I wonder why I got over douche bag kinda. Sometimes I get kinda sad about it, but he's been such an ass, it's like, that helps.

 

I like what yer sayin' here. Isn't that a principle in life? Sometimes the best way out of a sticky situation is to let it go. And, occasionally, things that you let go of do come back to you.

 

But, really, only nice guys deserve decent girls like yourself. I like that yer honest with yer feelings. That's rare these days. Just don't compromise yourself for someone undeserving of you. Like I said before, it's his loss.

[phyrespryte]

Hey Justagirl! That Scott guy is a total mess. I think. Like he doesn't have his act together and that's why he's all over the place. And I totally agree with you...how do people get together? I mean why was it easy for them?

 

And a hello to Elijah also! Question...why do you run from girls that come on too hard? And what exactly is coming on too hard?

 

 

Anyways, last week I was helping a friend out with a project. She was running late and I was early. I couldn't wait in the studio, so I went and sat right next to foreign guy. He took his headphones off and started talking to me. I figured he was going to go back to his work, but instead we ended up talking to each other for about an hour. He was really concerned when he found out I didn't have health insurance. And he said...so that's why you never come out with us. Cause we're crazy drinkers and you think something bad will happen. (I've never thought that, but ok) And when I told him where I wanted to study he told me that maybe we'd end up in the same location one quarter. :love:

 

So I had a nice time talking to him. The only thing that sort of put a damper on things was....foreign GIRL! Seriously who would've thought there'd be a girl from the exact same country at my school? She was in the classroom next door and when she saw me she was all staring at me. Then during her break she came and sat next to foreign guy and GLARED at me. When I left him she was still there with him and that bothered me a bit. He barely talked to her, but her dirty looks made me uneasy.

 

Oh well. Match.com guy says I need to make a bold move. What that bold move is, I don't know. I guess asking him out again.

But I wonder if I should even bother anymore since the quarter is almost over and he's going away during the break.

 

My head hurts.

 

And there's this other cute guy that goes to my school. For some reason I noticed him looking at me a lot. And when he's talking to other girls those same girls will be looking at me while he's looking at me. What the heck is up with that?

[phyrespryte]

What the heck is up with that number? How is it possible there are that many views, yet only 171 posts? And most of them are from the same 2 people.

 

If you're reading this feel free to post something. Good, bad, positive, negative, whatever. Similar situation? I'd like to hear about it.

 

Thanks,

 

The OP

[justagirl1121]

Hey, Elijah! Welcome back! Long time no see! Thought you had deserted us. We are kinda pathetic, but at least we're pathetic together I guess. You're right.....only that many posts but so many viewers....why is no one posting to help us or share their patheticness to show that we're not the only two in the world!!!!

 

That's too nuts that there's a foreign girl. It's like the plot twist in the evil conspiracy movie.

 

Next on the scott news. apparently he's been hanging out with that sara girl. She was up till 6am the one morning and she told someone at work it was because she was hanging out with him and he told shonna who told me. So, yeah. It kind of hurts my feelings because it's like what is wrong with me? But oh well.

 

I get the evil glare too! There's this girl amy at work who is on my team now. She has crazy hair. It's short and sticks out and it multi colored. She has a thing for Bobby and I dont think they talk anymore, but everytime you walk by bobby or say anything to him you see her head snap towards us. I guess I kinda feel bad for her since I can see where she could be feeling jealous or unsure or something about what's going on.

 

I kinda like bobby but i dont really know him. he's just a funny kid. cracks me up sometimes. Not going to even bother though since I know where I will end up. I hardly talk to him so what's the point?

 

That is a good question....I guess guys run because certain guys just like the chase and as long as you play not interested they'll attack you, but the moment you say hi to htem, the mystery has ended and you never talk to them again. I think the answer to "what is coming on too hard" is that we merely exist. We breath in the same air they do and their brains explode everywhere from the share volume of our coming on too hard......which I thought was only something they could do anyway.....

[Walk]

I just wanted to say, I like being older and not playing those games any more. Not that I was any good at them to begin with. I found if the "Do you wanna get a drink after work/class/whatever?" didn't come back with a yes, or a 'not now, but I'm available X day.' Then buh-bye.

 

Even people with good hearts will sometimes dangle the hint of an option in front of you if it boosts their ego some. Human nature I guess.

 

Actually, just glad I'm not in the dating scene anymore. But I always found that the more people you date, the more people that want to date you. Like if you aren't dating anyone it seems as if you can't get a date to save your life. But when there's a couple guys who want to go out, then someone else will ask too. I don't discount many guys, even if there isn't an initial attraction. As long as I'm not disgusted by them. But I've really found some incredible people that way, and had some good times too. Actually, the guy I'm with now was one of those guys. No initial attraction really. Just fun to hang out with and talk to. Guess I connect more with people I learn to like for their personality first, rather then their body.

 

This wasn't really pertinent to your conversation. You said reply so I did.