Should I call him again or is he just not interested?

[phyrespryte]

Wow there's been over 1,200 views of this thread. I don't know if that means 1,200 people have viewed this or we've viewed it 1,200 times.

 

Justagirl... damn. Things sound pretty good on your side. Wow.

I'm in a smiley kind of mood tonight. Your manager is an interesting character. If he is into you he really needs to back off. He's a manager! At least he's young though. It would be so gross if he was as old as that manager in that movie "waiting". Oh and that's so funny about the making Scott suffer. LOL. Have you talked to him since?

I'm not sure what to say about the tight shirt thing. Guys are so weird. But hey they thought you looked cute right? So a compliment is always a good thing even though it's a little weird.

But yeah damn. Sounds like you've got a lot of guys into you.

 

I on the other hand am not so fortunate. There was this one guy I had met online and he's just sending me all these mixed signals. We went out to see a movie this past Saturday, this was like our second date (i'm not really sure you can call it that) and he hugged me and then gave me a kiss on the cheek. Which shocked me because there seriously was no flirting going on between us so I didn't expect that. Then I guess he got all embarassed and mumbled something and left. I don't know. Then on Monday everytime I signed on to AIM he would sign off a couple minutes later w/o even saying hi. I talked to him tonight though and he was all neutral. But I swear he's so confusing.

 

Then the one guy that I really like. The one I go to schoool with. Well I haven't seen him in like a week. And today I passed by him and instead of stopping and saying hi...I kept walking. I'm such an idiot. And I know that he had to have seen me pass by him. I really hope I didn't screw things up. I don't get why I have stupid moments like that. I need to learn how to seize these little opportunities. Like a week before that he was throwing a party and I didn't go b/c I was tired. I'm so kicking myself now. But then it is an hour drive to get there and I don't think I should be driving that far for a guy I'm not even sure is that into me.

 

But on a slightly happy but vague and distant note. A couple weeks back, when the quarter started...I saw him and I stopped and talked to him. And when he had to leave he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Then two days later he said hi to me and rubbed my arm.

 

Shoot. I really hope I didn't screw things up with him by not saying hi today. Oh well. I should be more worried about school.

 

Anyways

[justagirl1121]

Hey, there!

 

It sure doesn't seem like I have guys into me.

I did talk to Scott. He called me and I waited like 4 days, then left him a message then he called me back like 2 days later. I was at work; we talked for almost an hour. Seems like a long time to talk to someone, i don't tlak to many other people for that long. We had discussions on the dating stuff and men and women. He says if a guy likes a girl he pretends he doesnt. And women like to control guys. Things of that nature and i was just like you are sooooooooo full of bull crap!!! i dont know what it is about scott. im not overly attracted to him physically. i am kinda but i think mostly b/c i like him emotionally, if that makes since. not that he's not good looking. he's got characteristics i like. tall, dark hair, sense of humor, easy going. i think that's what it is plus the fact i got to know him before i was like oh i like him. but i dont think anything will ever happen. we can't seem to get it to gether to just simply go hang out and i would never get the words out to say something to him b/c im just tooooo chicken.

 

 

You know what, i screw things up ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL the time!!!!! Everytime i have a conversation with someone, i end up not saying things i think of that i could say until waaaaaaaaay later. and im like DAMN IT!

 

Nothing seems to be going right this month. Especially jobwise. I've never had any problems at work before, like scrwing things up or making myself look stupid, but in 1 week i have manged to screw up THREE times.

 

First time was back when i first started i took a check for a prepaid phone card and you're not allowed. I guess i didnt know that at the time, obviously because we were allowed to take checks for cell phones and accessories, but not for deposits. So this week, i guess the check comes back because it bounced, and it just so happens that this shady guy back before i even started got equipment and had a deposit and the check bounced. so they had to go to the magistrate and all kinds of stuff, but he prob wont show up *its not till end of oct*. Well the owners and whatnot must think i knew i wasnt supposed to take a check, but i really dont remember the occassion whatsoever. Nor did i k now this guy was the guy who bounced a check before. Do they think i did it on PURPOSE? So what do they do? Take it out of my paycheck. Then the second thing that happened was Jeff (manager) sold phones to a couple and didnt ring them out right away because rebates ended on oct 10 and new ones came out on oct 11. and forwhatever reason, jeff didnt actually ring the sale out until hte 11 and so the cust had to come back to get their rebates and stuff. actually maybe our point of sales system was down and that's why he didnt ring them out, which makes better sence. but they came back a few days later and i was there so i checked to see which set of rebates they needed and gave them to them and receipts. well apparently, 1 phone had a verizon rebate the other had a different vendor rebate, but i gave the customer 2 verizon rebates. The reason i did that was because before oct 10, the shipment of one particular kind of phone were ones with verizon rebates. but of course, it doesnt appear that way from their end. Jeff is like "didnt you remember i told you the rebates were in the back room to give them?" NO. I don't remember that at all. this guy came in, he said i didnt get my rebates. i asked what kind of phones, i looked up his folder, and i gave him the rebates. end of story. so there goes more money out of my paycheck.

 

then ralph calls (one of the owners)(by the way i really dont know any of these people yet.) and he goes "i was calling because you took a check for a customer with a deposit" and i was like "NO, i took CASH for that" and he's like yes, you took cash for the deposit but you took a check for the phones." and i am thinking Christ almighty. they told me you could take checks for equipment and accessories. HOWEVER, not if they have a deposit. im like grrrrr. but i can't explian myself because NO ONE EVER LETS ME GET A WORD IN. I try to say stuff and htey just keeeeeeeep on talkin'.

 

so jeff calls me today on my day off about the deposit. apparently i didnt take it right. apparently they dont know where the 250.00 is. i was like OH I MOST CERTAINLY PUT THAT IN THE ENVELOPE. oooooh yeah. i did.

 

and jeff was like 'you knew how to take a deposit payment' and i was like yeah. sort of. the first day i was there in "training". he showed me theoritically how u would take payment but since ther was no one to actually TAKE a deposit from, teh best he could do was sorta show me. well u know what, whoopie. im supposed to remember all that? i mean they all tell me to call them if i have questions, and i do, and i dont want to bother them, but at the same time when i call them they never answer! i cant wait for 4 hrs with customers to get the answer! So i have to do the best i can with what i know. I know my verizon stuff, the policies and whatnot, i've been doing it for a good year. the store stuff and point of sales stuff i've been donig for like 5 weeks. i feel that it isnt really allll my fault. they all assume i know all this but i dont. and it's like u tell me something that is true 90% of the time but u dont tell me about the other 10% adn its important stuff.

 

but of course i'll never be able to tell them that b/c they never let me get a word out and im a little bashful so its hard for me to be real bold and go "listen here people!" but i gotta try cause they must think im a real ditz.

 

anyway, one a better note i had this friend from like 7th to 12th grade, and we kind of drifted a part when we went to college. only ran into each other a couple of times. i was at a store today and she was there. so i talked to her and got her number and stuff. after work they might to to a coffee shop so she might give me a call and i'll go meet her. how's that for cool?

[phyrespryte]

OMG! I just got my power back! It's been 7 quiet days without electricity. And for some strange reason my phone lines are back up at the exact same time! After Wilma hit the power was gone on Monday, but our phones still worked. Then on Tuesday it was gone. My cell phone didn't get a signal till Thursday.

 

Wow.

 

I have a new appreciation for the little things. Like hot coffee and hot showers. And the knowledge that the water you're using is safe to brush your teeth with.

 

I'm so happy right now I'm not sure what to do with myself.

 

Only one crappy thing. The schools in my county are closed until Tuesday, but the school I go to is open today. I don't know if want to make the hour drive to there and waste all that gas. Plus even though some areas have electricity, Wilma blew away all the traffic lights. And my county still has a curfew.

 

But who knows what will happen in the next couple of hours? For now I shall bask in the glow of my monitor

[justagirl1121]

Oh boy.......that sucks!!! Glad everythings going back to normal.....there's been soooooo many hurricanes, its rediculous! I live in PA, but hearing about them all is enough to make us up here insane, and we dont even have to go thru the crap.

 

I know what u mean about hot showers and safe water though. We had problems at my college alllll the time b/c the city water lines were just so old i guess, they kept breaking in different spots.

 

i will never move anywhere where im threatened by hurricanes, earthquakes, tornadoes, or volcanoes....which leaves me with pretty much staying put!!

Don't much like the frigid weather either, or hot desert....lol...i guess pittsburgh is the only safe place ;p

 

ugh, gotta leave for work in 20 minutes

[justagirl1121]

Hey, where is everyone at?

 

I had a crazy weekend! I picked my friend Shonna up (she works where I first temped) after she was done working and we went up to visit one of my friends from college near where we went to college, to see Saw 2.

 

After the movie, April and I took her back to one of our college bars (the Hilltop) to check out the Grogans (locals). There were so many more Grogans there than I'd ever seen before! Granted, I don't know too many people from college anymore since it's been a couple years, but I expected more. Strangely enough, I did see more people from my class than I thought!

 

I had told Shonna about several people with interesting stories, and one of them included George, a foreign kid who kind of looks like Luka from ER. So how WEIRD was it that all of a sudden i see George come through the door?? I must have made what April and Shonna called the "most classic face ever". I was like OMG, holy ****!!! What is he doing here? So Shonna made me go introduce her, so I did. I told April, "I bet you 100 bucks the first words out of his mouth are going to be "where is Demski?" (She was my roommate and is how I met George. They never "dated" though, he just spent a lot of time in our apartment.

 

So, I go up and i'm like "well well well...look who it is" and he goes "where's your friend? Demski?" I was like Well! When I know someone, I KNOW them!

He shook hands with shonna, said "i'm george" and then just....WALKED AWAY. I was rather pissed about that, how rude!!!!!!!!! But it was quite ironic that he showed up on the same weekend I did? OH BOY OH BOY.

 

So. HARRY POTTER in SEVEN DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Like 8 of us are going to see it in IMAX, I am more than EXCITED!!!

 

 

On another note, work is just making me so bitter and depressed. I LIKE what I'm doing, I just wish I could do more of it. The pay sucks because I sell phones and I work mostly off commission, yet I might get four customers come in on my whole shift and I might get one to buy an accessory!

 

What REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY pissed me off on Thursday was when I had some guy thinking of adding a line and he said he wasn't thinking about until after Thanksgiving, but he ended up coming back a couple hours later to go and do it. Typically when I work say 9am-2pm those are my hours to get commission and from 2pm-9pm is Jeff's time, but I usually stay until about 4pm so there's some overlap. WELL. The customer came back and I figured that I would get the deal since I'd previously been talking to him and Jeff started to do the whole deal and I was like "I can do it" and he's like "that's okay." and I was like "well, who's going to get the commission?" And he was like "you didn't have an application number" And I was like "I need an application number?" and he's like "I told you that's how it worked, blah blah" I was sooo pissed!!!!!!!!! Never once did he tell me you have to get the application started to get the credit. He insists I knew but I didn't!!!! I mean, if I did run it, and the customer came back in three days while i wasn't there, Jeff wouldn't know I ran credit or even think to check! So it doesn't make any sense to me!

 

He told me like 3 times this other story about how teh other kid brad bfore me took Jeffs deal. Jeff had a guy thinking about 4 lines. The guy came back during Brad's shift and brad took the deal. So jeff transferred Brad's commission into his own name since it was his partial deal to start. THIS time however, he tells me the same story only he's like "i didn't run credit, so I lost out on that deal" it was an outright change of story!!!!!!

 

oh im so fing pissed about this job. I should be making like 18 bucks an hour and u know what i'm making? LIke 8! If i'm lucky!!!!! augh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I'd quit if i had somewhere else to go. it's such a bunch of BS.

[phyrespryte]

Hey, sorry about your job. That place just sounds awful. I hope things start to get better. They really shouldn't be treating you like that. Can't you complain to someone?

 

Well nothing new is happening on my side. Just trying to keep up with my classes and not really doing such a good job of it.

 

I went over to the this guy's place to watch movies a couple of nights ago. Nothing happened. No kiss, no hug, nothing. So I guess either I have to make the first move or just stay in the friend zone. I'm not sure.

 

I haven't seen the guy I really like in about month now. And I think I should stop worrying about him and move on. But I can't. I keep hoping that I'll see him and get to talk to him for a bit. Pathetic I know.

 

The other day I ran into Mr.Excrush at the movie theaters. He was there with his ex. That put me in a real bad mood for a week. He tried to avoid saying hi to me and my friends, but his ex ran up and started talking to my one friend. So there was this weird awkwardness. What I don't understand is why he's trying to hide that he's back with her.

 

Ooh. This is a little creepy. This guy I had been talking to online.... Well I had told him I wasn't interested at all, so he sent me some angry emails and that was that. Except I have to get my pictures developed at this special lab today and it turns out he works there. REAL SMALL WORLD. I didn't recognize him, but when he asked what my name was and he spelled it correctly w/o me saying anything I knew it was him. No one ever spells my name right. Crap. I really hope my photos don't get screwed with.

 

Then the house next door had a fire and all these firemen came. I still have no idea what exactly happened. I think the dryer caught on fire? No one was hurt thankfully.

 

I think today just shows how full moons mess with the balance of things.

[justagirl1121]

hey there,

 

wow first off, the internet dude does sound creepy. I mean, after the emails has he been contacting you or anything other than that? Hope not!

 

I SOOOOOOO totally get u on the "That put me in a real bad mood for a week." i've had situations like that, when the guy that's on your mind doesnt work out or some plans or whatever it is doesnt work out right. the guy i liked in college, if he woudl end up not coming to what we were doing it would put me in a sour mood the rest of the night!

 

Any news on the house fire? There was stuff on the news a couple days ago about this neighborhood that had several fires, all to vacant houses, but they started investigating, and i guess the city's trying to actually demolish the vacant houses to prevent more fires b/c i guess they're being started by say kids or whatnot....

 

 

sooooooooooooo!!!!! i have news for YOU!

 

yesterday i was with my friends and we went to this "high tea" thing and we decided it was fun, and relaxing and grown up that we are going to do it every month!!! I have had a cold and stuff so yesterday of course, I partially lost my voice (today i have to whisper). I wish my parents would stop talking to me and stuff they're getting on my nerves! Anyway, big scott news!!!

 

On monday, i had been talking to shonna on the phone when he called me. I was going to call him and i debated on asking him to come out with us to the bar for saturday night b/c i feel like a retard when he says no....but he called me and so shonna was like tell him i said hi. so i told him and i think he misunderstood and was like 'oh you're hanging out with shonna?" and i said no, on the phone and he goes "oh, i was going to say, you better not be with shonna without inviting me!" and then i brought up saturday night and he made this thing about his poker game.....and i was like you can come out AFTER the poker game.....and then he said he'd see and suddenly when the poker games usually ended at 4am he's like now 'well it probably wont last very long......i'll call you later in the week...' so he called me at like noon on saturday and said he was probably coming. and he did!

 

only one problem. i couldn't really talk right...? gah...also at some point i got realllllllly sick. i had like heart burn or something but it was in my chest and my stomach it was like this painful something. i felt like i couldnt breath and stuff. then it went away.......then it came back...i thought i was goign to die i was seriously getting worried!!!

 

nikki nad i used the bathroom and she's like 'do you want to make a move or something on scott do you want me to give you some tips?' lol....she's like i'm pretty sure he likes you li think maybe he's just not sure if you are interested...she's like dont worry i'll help you. so she was like we'll all sit down and i'll call scott over......but when she did, shonna sat down next to me! so i didnt really get to talk to him or anything all that much. but near the end nikki mentioned doing something in like 2 weeks and told scott he needed to come, and shonna and i think he said okay for a friday. (so now i have to deal with a f-ed up work situation which is a whole other story)

 

so anyway i get home and i send scott and shonna a text msg just checking to see if they got home ok and he sends one back "yeah im in wexford. do you want to get something to eat after work this week?"

 

i was like HOLY COW!!!!!!! so what does that mean?!?!?!?!

 

thats the last of the up date. i replied back sure but after i get my voice back. could be tough this week with like thanksgiving and me working late mon and wed nights but maybe tues or friday.....anywhoo i'll keep you posted!!!

[phyrespryte]

so did you get to have lunch with him? did you have a good time? that sounds real positive that he asked you out like that.

how exciting!

 

oh and the fire next door...it wasn't a big deal. the house wasn't vacant. the whole family was in the house, but thankfully they didn't get hurt.

 

not much going on in my life. i'm totally sucking at school. for some reason i'm just not happy with the stuff i'm creating.

 

oh and i recently took nude pictures of mr. excrush. i swear i was about to die. but he was the only one i could find to do them. he was so good about it too. he can be such a nice guy. i just don't understand him. all i know is that i'm so thankful. and i pray and pray that the pictures came out right.

[justagirl1121]

Well I didn't get dinner with scott b/c he never called! I txt mssged him then i called him saturday and he finally txt msged me back saying "sorry i didn't call you back. im out of town" it just makes me feel really ****ty. he didn't txt shonna back either so that makes me feel a tiny bit better.

 

i just have no idea what to do, i hate the waiting.....

 

 

so where do u go to school and exactly what are you doing???

 

Good thing the people in the house are okay. Fires are scary.

 

Woudl write more but im not in a very good mood. I feel like im in a rut with work and living with my parents still and the boy stuff.

 

catch ya later!

[phyrespryte]

What a butt head. He couldn't have let you know he was out of town earlier? I'm not sure what you should do.

I'd be really pissed that he didn't contact you when he said he would. I think that I'd stop worrying about him. I think you've done a lot on your part and he's just being annoying.

This might be a bad idea...but you could just be like look what's going on? I like you, I would like to spend time with you, but you keep bailing on me. What do you want?

 

But that's something I'd do if I was real annoyed and I didn't care what happened either way.

 

I'm sorry things aren't going so great with work and living at home. I know how that is. Why don't you look for another job? The place you're working at sounds awful. And I don't think they're treating you right.

 

I go to a portfolio school and I'm studying graphic design. I'm taking a photo 1 class. The teacher says that taking nude photos will help understand how to light things better. Or something like that. I think it's crazy, but at the same time I think it could be interesting. I hope I did everything right.

 

But the nudity thing really freaked me out. Mr. Excrush actually helped me calm down. It was too funny. I really was weirded out by it.

I hope the photos come out. I think he'd be real disappointed if they look crappy. And I'd have to take them over. I don't know if I could handle that.

[justagirl1121]

I met scott for dinner last night. NOT a date. I paid. I feel kind of bummed out, and as much as I think ok maybe he's not interested, the other half of me really feels he is......My friend thinks he likes me, she says she is confident that it will happen. She said, it is easier to tell for her b/c I am not objective since it's me in the picture.

 

The advice i've been given is to ignore him for a while. Nikki seems to think I've done good for ME as far as showing interest because she knows me, but HE might not realize that.

 

People tell me to just TELL him but its soooooo hard for me. I think I will give him some time. Not call him, see if he calls me. Or since he's not good at text messaging people back, I will have to ignore any txt message he might send...

 

which is the weird thing. He doesnt reply back, but he will randomly send one! Like we had this dinner planned since Thur (when we finally talked) and on Sunday he sent me a random txt "Steelers lost :("

 

So maybe i will ignore his txt. then if he does call, depending on how it goes maybe i'll try to make some one on one plans....see what he says. I try to psych myself up to say something though other than just coming out and being "i like you" (which did not work for me elsewhere) i dont know where to go from here.

 

Oh well off to work. Blah.

[phyrespryte]

Well not really. I'm just majorly procrastinating.

 

So right now I've got 3 guys on my mind and none of them I think I have a chance with.

 

There's the match.com guy who has a girlfriend, which surprised me because I acutually thought he was gay. Which I think is why I really didn't feel any chemistry with him. But I guess he's not gay. Or maybe he is gay and he's doesn't want to admit it...so he tries to be a player to convince himself that he's straight? Whatever. As a friend or even a potential boyfriend I now find him extremely lacking.

 

Then there's the foreign guy I go to school with. :bunny:

He is so hot. Well actually if you saw him you'd say I was on crack. I mean he's balding and he's got junked up teeth. But something about him... He always makes me laugh. And days after I've seen him I'll still be smiling when I think about him. Plus when he smiles...it's like his whole face lights up. I saw him the other day outside of school. We talked for the longest time. Then he walked a block with me towards the parking garage. We were right in front of starbucks and it was around 2 and stupid me didn't think to ask him to sit for a bit. I didn't even ask for his #. I was so excited about seeing him that I totally forgot what I was doing. We hugged and I gave him a kiss on his cheek. He had such a shocked look on his face. And we both walked away then looked back. I think he wanted to say something, but changed his mind. Such a beautiful moment. But since I never see him and for all I know he has a girlfriend (as most the guys I meet do) there's no real hope for anything. And maybe he's just a really friendly guy?

 

Then there's Mr.Excrush. Man. This guy I still kind of like. But I would never want to go out with him because I think he'd hurt me more than he's done already. You know? He's just too cute, too flirty, and has too much baggage. I'm too jealous and will go insane. But sometimes I get the feeling that he still likes me and is waiting for me to make a move. Like why in the world was he so ok with me taking nude photos of him? I was so sure he'd bail on me just like he stood me up. Then when I went to show him the contact sheet we were sitting on his couch, knees centimeters apart. I had to move down a bit when I saw that. Then he started to talk about his ex. Who for an ex is way too involved in his life. I decided to leave then. But then today I go in to work to check my schedule and I show him the scans I took of the negatives, because they were radically different from the prints. And he's like hey I want to go to the award cermony where you'll be posting these photos. I said sure. Now I think that perhaps me and him are developing an acutal friendship which I think is great. He's someone that as a friend will come through for you. But as a b/f he totally sucks. Go figure.

 

But at the same time this guy is hot. I mean male model hot. I don't think I want him at my school that night. I mean what if the foreign guy sees him and thinks things? And worse what if I'm talking to the foreign guy and ExCrush c*ckblocks? Because he has a tendency to do that at work. Which is so dumb since he flirts with the other girls all the time. Usually I don't care because I hate when people distract me while I'm working. But I don't want to mess whatever chance I have with foreign guy.

 

Man do I have way too much drama, yet absolutely nothing happening.

[justagirl1121]

So I rented this movie called First Daughter, with Katie Holmes......good pick! hehe....

 

Maybe it is a good thing if you are developing an actual friendship with ExCrush? Maybe that will build some trust and dependability issues which would make for a better match in a "relationship" sort of way down the road.

 

Don't you hate when you think of what you should/wanted to say or do only after its too late? Even when i try to plan ahead, i usually end up forgetting to do it, just being in the moment of things and distracted......

 

But if you see your foreign friend at that thing, this hopefully you can get his number then......don't forget!!!!

 

The match.com guy is the one who never told you he has a girlfriend right, and probably hasn't told the gf about you?

 

I had a friend in college with a similar problem....god knows he came by and sat down and talked about it every day adn then when it was resolved he hardly ever talked to us again!

 

He dated this girl during hte summer before his senior year and she was coming to the same college as a freshman. I guess they got along great during the summer, but when they came to school, she wasn't really spending time with him. She was doing her own thing, making her own guy friends, and Mike wasn't sure what was going on. He later discovered that his gf Lisa did not tell anyone that she had a boyfriend, and he felt hurt by that. He would try to spend time with her and she kept saying she couldn't. We were kind of like "dump her" she is immature. (17 still to his 21).

 

Anyway, I don't think it worked out for him. But in your case, I suppose it's good you do not feel the chemistry (funny thing about the gay remark). But as long as he is not an ass or something, be his friend, unless he does things that offend you. Then I'd reconsider, because the whole not telling you he has a gf and lying about it and probably not telling her about you and others, is not trustworthy, it's a bit shady....but who knows what's really going on behind the scenes...I know even less than you do...

[phyrespryte]

Wow!!!

 

So the match.com guy, the guy w/ a girlfriend, the guy who refers to his girlfriend as just a bestfriend. Wow. What an arse. We were on instant messenger talking and we ended up on the topic of looking like a virgin, then sex, and then nudity. And of course being a guy he was all of a sudden more talkative than usual. He also mentions that he hasn't done it in like three months and he misses being close to someone. Which is so funny because he's been dating this girl for about the same time. And he asks me what I think of him and of our relationship. I made a couple of comments about him being a player earlier, but he didn't notice. Then I'm like well I just see us as friends and that you're not too interested in me. He then stops talking for a good bit, then comes back and says yeah I'm attracted to you and think we have lots in common but I'm not ready for a relationship. Didn't want to hurt you there.

Then he asks me if I want to come over tomorrow night.

WTF?

I'm stunned. Of course I don't buy that 3 month bull, because being the nut job that I am I went and looked at his myspace thing and his g/f left all these suggestive comments. I have a feeling that co-ed naked twister is a little more than a fun family game. Man I'm fuming.

 

He really thinks I'm an idiot. I'm not sure what I'm going to do, but man I hope he gets his. Wow. I really was starting to doubt myself too.

 

He is exactly like your friend Mike's g/f. He thinks can have his cake and eat it too. Blah.

 

Anyways. How was your Chrismahanakawanzakah? I'm not sure which you celebrate. But I hope you had a good one.

 

Well I'm not sure what's going on with me and Mr. Excrush. But he is definitely back with his ex. Though he has yet to make it official to me. So like my match.com friend he's also hiding the g/f. But for some reason that doesn't make me as angry. It's like he's hiding her, but not really.She's like the grinch. No one really talks about her b/c it's just bad karma.

 

But man she really is. She came into the store the other day and it just ruined my weekend. Usually when a customer comes in they'll look at you and either smile and talk or smile and try to run away from you. But she just totally ignored me. Same as when we ran into her and Mr.Excrush at the movies. She says hi to my friends and starts blabbing on and on. But not once did she look at me. Now to be fair. We don't know each other and we've never been introduced. But it drives me crazy that she doesn't acknowledge me. It's like this woman played a major role in my life and doesn't even know I exist. And it really bothers me to see her all happy and not caring about what she's doing. My manager who knows her was like oh she's spending christmas with her parents and mr. excrush is going to be all alone on christmas b/c her parents hate him. How screwed up is that?

 

Of course that's his choice to be with her. But it's really messed up that she's all in his life and yet she'll probably end up hurting him again.

 

Whatever.

 

So what is up with me and Mr.Excrush? Well I don't have a flipping clue. Last monday he wanted to go and get his photos developed on Sat. He told me to call him when I got off of work. Well I forgot because he never mentioned it again all flipping week. Besides it was Christmas Eve! I don't think anything was open after I got off of work. So I felt bad about that when he brought it up yesterday.

 

Man I'm writing way too much. But I just feel like I've got all this stuff to unload.

 

And I'm totally pissed at my bestfriend. When I told her about the match.com guy being a liar, she starts to side with him (we were talking on the phone). And instead of listening you can hear her watching tv and laughing at the show. So I haven't talked to her in over a week. I mean this isn't the first time she's been totally inconsiderate like this. I just can't bring myself to get over this and make peace.

 

Gargh.

 

But Mr. Excrush...

 

I don't know what his deal is. I have no idea what I am to him. And I have no idea why I care so much. I know that being with him would be so wrong for me. That I'd go absolutely crazy from the jealousy and blah blah blah.

 

But this little weird thing happened yesterday and it just bothered me. In a good way though. We went to lunch at the same time. He had brought his own lunch and I was going to buy myself something. So I was waiting for a manager to check my things so I could leave the store. Well he comes up to me and asks me to stop by one of the food stands and get a cup of parmesan. No biggie, that stuff is free, whatever. Well the manager I don't really like/trust comes along and sees/hears part of what he's saying. So when he leaves she starts to tell me what a mooch Excrush is. Now I've worked with him for 2 years. I know he's a mooch. Everyone has told me he's a mooch. So I see where she's coming from. Though I also think it's a bit of bitterness on her part because I always see her flirting with him.

 

But he's never mooched off of me. Except for that one week when I couldn't eat b/c I was all stressed out. But It wasn't really mooching because I offered my fries to him and sometimes he'd have to share it with my other manager. In fact one time he bought me lunch! Another time he let me have one of his pop tarts b/c I didn't have breakfast. One time he threw out my soda and I was so bummed, a couple days later he's like I've got cash on me (he never carries cash) what kind of soda do you want? Anyways, that same day before he asked for parmesan he offered me one of his hohos! I've never heard him do that for anyone else. That must mean something?

 

blah. i need to go to sleep.

 

This all doesn't matter. Really. He's got his girlfriend and I need to get the foreign guy's number when I see him again. That's what I need to focus on. Sorry this is so long. It's been awhile since I've made a massive book-like post.

[justagirl1121]

That's quite okay about the long post, look at mine!!!

 

I think the head and the heart are two separate things, and never shall the two meet! Some people use one more than the other.

 

It's hard to get someone out of your mind when they've been there. Like they've moved in their recliner with the cooler in the armrest and the free porn tv and just propped themselves up for a long hybernation. No matter WHAT you keep telling yourself, the feelings still there. And on top of that, little things that probably wouldn't matter otherwise, (like the hohos and pop and stuff) suddenly are really big important things. ANd we're trying to find mega meaning, the answer to the universe through those miniscule signs.

 

This is just my opinion, and maybe its not a good view, but here's what I think....MR. EXCRUSH....maybe he's not really that great. Maybe he's a jerk, and a mooch, and this and that, maybe he's a lot of little negative things, but I'm sure he's got some good qualities too....he makes you laugh, he makes you feel good.....there's SOMETHING there that draws you to him. But the thing is, despite all these neg personality traits, you're still into him. Those neg traits, while they might sort of turn you off, don't appear to be a deal breaker, and its' part of who he is and also maybe part of why you like him....

 

And it doesn't seem as if there's much going on to move you in a different direction so you can move on, except for that foreign guy. I'm in the same boat. It's hard to move on once your hooked. And it's hard to know exactly why you're hooked when you want so badly NOT to be...but you're head and your heart are two separate, sometimes evil entities, and no matterwhat you tell yourself, you can't help that you can't change your feelings as well.

 

So, hopefully, one of these days, something good will happen for both of us and well be a little more content.

 

 

My Christmas was okay. I got a digital camera, harry potter 1 and 2 dvd, 2 books, some hair ties, socks, cami's, xbox game pirates! from my brother...a couple other little things.

 

I"m in the process of interviewing for verizonwireless cust service. it is a lonnnnnnng flippin process! But i'm glad they have this organized. instead of sending my resume and never hearing back and never knowing what happened, im at least getting somewhere.

 

1. called recruitment line. they asked me about cust serv history. scheduled me for phone interview.

2. had phone interview. passed. scheduled for computer test/fill out appl

3. fill out ap, take cust serv seniro's pc test, passed, schedulded for face to face interview

4. face to face interview, supposed to call me in a week about 2nd phone interview.

5. if i pass that nad am hiried. 24 hrs to take a drug test, then they go and do background check.

6. start training.

 

phew! so im on step 4.

wait till i have to tell the current people i work for im leaving! they're such douche bags, i can't even express how irratated i am with it.

 

hope u had a good holiday, happy New Years!

[phyrespryte]

Hey justagirl! I had a great New Years...well not really. But I can honestly say that it was an interesting experience that I will never regret. I hope you had a great one too!

 

Good luck with the Verizon job interview process. It's such hard work getting a job nowadays. I actually miss just filling out an application then having a one on one with the manager. And in all honesty, I don't think a personality quiz will tell someone what kind of employee you'll be. I mean depending on my mood when I took some of those types of tests I came across as a suicidal, psychopath, that at any moment would go postal. Then others I'd be Mother Teresa.

 

Ok so since this is a new year I've decided to simplify my life. I will no longer overanalyze men. Me and Excrush. We are friends and that is it. The little things mean nothing. Me and Match.com guy. We are friends and he doesn't have a girlfriend until he tells me he has one. We are just friends. That is it. And foreign guy... well he is just a friend. That is it....NOT :love:

Actually he is just a friend, but I'm allowed one crush right?

 

So this year I shall focus on important things like getting out of Florida and pursuing my dreams.

 

Oh and I think you're absolutely right about what you said about Excrush. I'm looking at the little things in the hope for something big. So I think I need to just look at the big picture and take words and actions at their face value.

[sunshine2627]

Hey girls,

 

I was reading some of your posts and could relate! Have either one of you read "He's Just Not That Into You"? It's a great book and very informative. I could see myself doing a lot of what we're not supposed to do. One thing that he says throughout the books is "Don't Waste the Pretty" In other words, don't waste our time.

 

So maybe I can get some opinions. I met a guy on New Years Eve at this party. At midnight he came up to me, gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek. We had not talked once at this party. I was smitten at this point. My friends were trying to play match maker. Going back to me and him with he said she said stuff. Anyway, my friend and I finally talked him in to coming out with us. We talked for most of the night. He seemed really interested in me. He was telling me things and said he didn't know why. He said I guess I want to get everything out in the open. Which of course I didn't mind. We went back to where he was staying and ended up talking for hours. We was very respectful with me. He walked me out to my car asked for a kiss and if we were going to be getting any numbers. Well of course I gave him a kiss and we exchanged #'s. Do you think it sounds like he felt obligated to ask if we were going to exchange #'s? What about the kiss? I haven't talked to him since Sunday only b/c he is in FL right now bass fishing. I don't think it would be right for me to call and I don't expect him to call until he gets back. Although it would be great if he did. He is supposed to be I think on Friday so my friends tell me to wait to call him until Saturday or Sunday probably Sunday so he doesn't feel bombarded as soon as he gets back. I want this guy to know I am interested but I don't want to be overly excited or seem needy. He complimented me and I even caught him looking at me in the rear view mirror. All of these are good signs right?

[phyrespryte]

Do you think it sounds like he felt obligated to ask if we were going to exchange #'s? What about the kiss? I haven't talked to him since Sunday only b/c he is in FL right now bass fishing. I don't think it would be right for me to call and I don't expect him to call until he gets back. Although it would be great if he did. He is supposed to be I think on Friday so my friends tell me to wait to call him until Saturday or Sunday probably Sunday so he doesn't feel bombarded as soon as he gets back. I want this guy to know I am interested but I don't want to be overly excited or seem needy. He complimented me and I even caught him looking at me in the rear view mirror. All of these are good signs right?

 

Hi sunshine! I have read that book, but I vaguely remember it. I've also read why men love bitches which is similiar to it. I think that those kind of books have some good advice in there. Lots of common sense stuff, but at the same time I'd say be careful about how closely you follow those things. Sometimes people get a bit extreme.

But back to your question...Yes, to me he seems interested. And I agree with the friends about calling him on the weekend. It can't hurt to take a little initiative. Also if he takes awhile to call back, wait a bit then try again. I think someone mentioned two calls and then that's it? But he seemed interested in you and he didn't have to ask for your number so maybe he'll call you?

 

Anyways, Good luck and keep updating. I love hearing how these situations pan out.

[sunshine2627]

Thanks for responding back to my post. I will keep you posted on my potential prospect. He did ask if we were going to exchange #'s but he wrote down his first and then he wrote down mine so I guess that is a pretty good sign. From my previous experiences most guys will ask for my number and then I usually have to ask for theirs so maybe there is hope. I did however find out today that he used to do crank. I know everyone has a past and that's where it should stay. I just hope that he doesn't do it anymore. To me there were no signs of him on it but then again I wouldn't know either. I also think he has a good head on shoulders and he has two kids that are still very young so for their sake I hope not. I know the guy he went to Florida with this week does it or so that is what I was told. He seems dirty and just the type of guy that would do that. Doesn't seem to be very honest either. I won't be quick to judge considering we've just met and we haven't gone out yet. Hopefully when he gets back I'll get to see him. Well I need to get back to work. Thanks again!! Have a great day

[justagirl1121]

yeah sounds promising for ya sunshine. At least he was making some initiative. That's all I'm asking for! If he was on a trip, he probably wont contact you until he gets back. The whole past being the past thing, I believe in that, i'd just keep your eye out to make sure he's not shady. I wouldnt fault him for his past as long as he's cleaned up now, but you might want to be a little weary, but if you really like him, definitely go for it!

 

Good luck!

[stuchie]

hey guys

hmm this this wont let me register, so for now i wont

 

i have also jst been reading some of ur posts and i can relate too... this guy is driving me crazy at the moment... im waiting for him to contact me but so far he hasnt...been 4 days, and i dunno if i should try txting him again or jst give up? Like i dunno, i hope hes interested, but i really dunno

 

Guess i should really give u the whole senario... i met him at a bar... well my friend invited him and his friend over to where we were sitting... So yeah we chatted a bit, and he said he was gonna be at subbies (a club) on friday for his bday and that we should come along.

 

anyway he got my number and i got his...and come friday i txt'd him and told him we'd come... so yeah we hung out and it was good... hes like really shy though... i mean i think thats good cuz i am too, and i prefer shy guys... but its also frustrating!! I mean he told me he never makes the first move, he always wait for the girl to do it etc.

 

Anyway he gave me a few signs thoughout the night that he was interested (though i could just have misinterpreted them), i wont list them all ... the post is already long enough ... but towards the end ofthe night he asked me if id wanna see a movie with him... and if im free tomorrow... so yeah we kinda made plans....

 

Come the next day he txt's me 'cant make it, well have to catch up after new yrs...' considering i know he was out all night, i guess thats reasonable??

I told him it was ok cuz i worked earlier than i thought anyway, and wished him merry christmas and stuff... didnt hear from him since... so i txted him a few days ago and asked if he still wants to catch up, and i gave him my msn too.... (we're both heaps shy, and in my experience msn works well for shy ppl.... i mean im too shy to call him, and if i told him to call me i kno hes too shy) but yeah so far nothing...

 

i dunno if hes ignoring me cuz hes really not interested and never meant to ask me out (it was his 21st bday - its not like he was completely sober, so u never know!?!?!) or jst cuz he's a guy and guys are annoying like that?

should i msg him again (and maybe be more forward...) or forget it? Or wait a bit longer...?

 

ps. sorry if this is a bit long

[sunshine2627]

Thanks Justagirl for your opinion as well. As soon as he gets back from FL I am going for it. He comes home tomorrow sometime so I'll wait until the weekend sometime to call him. I am starting to get really anxious though. I almost broke down last night and texted him but I was good.

 

As for your situation stuchie, instead of texting him I would call him. I think you will get a better feel for the situation. I've had bad experiences with shy guys because I am super shy as well. My take on the whole thing when two shy people get together, it never works out. I am by no means saying that those relationships never work out I am just speaking from my experiences. Someone needs to break the ice. If you are interested in this guy, you need to make the first move. I would call him if he doesn't answer leave him a message. If he doesn't call back right away wait a day or two and try again. If by this time he doesn't answer or return your call, I would say he's not worth your time.

[phyrespryte]

Yay sunshine! Be strong! One more day will be real easy especially since it's friday.

 

And for stuchie, I'm going to have to agree with sunshine. Just call him. It will be so much easier for the both of you. I mean I personally would rather just text everyone, but for some reason things work out better when you call. I think it's also a little harder to not respond back to a phonecall. While with text messages people sometimes forget to write back. Especially if he mainly communicates with everyone that way. Then maybe he has a hard time keeping track of his text messages.

[sunshine2627]

Well I ended up calling him last night. One of my friends and her husband were having people over so we thought this would be the perfect opportunity to call him. Unfortunetly though he already had plans but I kind of already expected him to considering I called him around 8:00. He said he was surprised to hear from me and that it was nice to hear my voice. He made a comment about him being out with several girls around lined up waiting to have sex him. I said thanks for sharing that information with me. Then he told me he was joking and that I should know him better than that. I told him that I didn't know him all that well. Then he said well from our conversation from last weekend you should know me better than that. I told him I did and that I was very impressed with him. He asked if he could have a raincheck and that he'll talk to me tomorrow (Sunday). So later on in the night I sent him a text letting him know that I was thinking about him. I said just wanted to say hi. Hope you're having a good night. He replied back saying so-so, and u. I told him I was getting ready to leave thinking maybe he'll call and want to meet up for a little bit. An hour went by and I didn't hear from him so I started to head home. Well my phone rings and it was him. He was on his way to pick up some medicine and asked if I wanted to meet him somewhere so we could talk. So we met where he was at and talked for a bit and then he asked if he could come over. Obviously neither one of us wanted to leave one another so I said sure. He felt bad b/c he invited himself over but I didn't care. He said he didn't want me to think he was that type of guy. Which I never did. So we get back to my place and we're talking and he asked me if I thought about him while he was in FL. I said maybe, did you think about me. He said maybe. I told him I did and that I am happy he's back. I told him that seeing him last night and this morning didn't count for the raincheck. When he was getting ready to leave he said I don't know what you have going on today but I will give you a call later. So I am hoping we'll do something tonight. I'm a smitten kitten. Oh yeah he also told me he felt comfortable around me. I haven't felt this way in such a long time. When I mentioned something last night about doing something today he said okay I have to tell you this. I'm thinking great he doesn't want to date seriously or something along the lines of that. He said I don't have a lot of money right now. I told him I didn't care and I don't have to be taken out to dinner or to a movie or whatever. I am perfectly content staying in watching movies, doing whatever. I know now that he is interested but I also feel that he is going to be a little standoffish and guarded which is understandable. I'm sure he doesn't want to go down the same path as he did with his ex-wife. We both have been out of the dating scene for awhile now. I told him it's a risk that we both are willing to take. He's fabulous!! Sorry for rambling on and on and probably going back and forth with conversations that happened throughout the night. I feel a lot more at ease today then I did last week. Anyway, I hope everyone had a good weekend. Take care!

[sunshine2627]

Okay what do you make of this.? He didn't call me although he did send me a text. He did tell me he would call me though. I guess I should quit complaining and be glad he sent me text instead of nothing. He said not doing much tonight. Starting to move tomorrow. (He's moving into an apartment) Thanks again for letting me stay. C-ya. Does this sound like he blew me off or short and too the point? I guess if he was blowing me off he didn't have to text me at all. I guess the thing that bothers me is the c-ya part. Why not say talk to ya later? Then I come up with because it was short and quick. If he's moving into an apartment tomorrow then I guess he's got a lot of packing to do and not really want to spend time on the phone. I stress so much when it comes to this sort of stuff. Suggestions?