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ex gf of 5 years is back.


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I kinda did, but for in the future. Not gonna lie, i didn't think I'd ever talk to her again so it took me by suprise. I'm gonns stay focused on me. Can't make anyone happy until I'm happy myself so it's all a moot point. I know she's ok and really that's all I'm worried about. Thanks for all the replies and advice!

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After so much time there is a chance it can work man..

 

But remember both of you have changed, you are "new" to each other. So you need to meet and re-assess whether you like this new person.

And the key here is to go "slowly". If she wants something fast, it is gonna hurt you most probably

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and her response was this: "I'm happy we are able to talk and reconnect, I'm not sure what the future holds but i do think you are right, we both probably have things we need to work on in our own lives right now."

 

Thoughts?

 

I don't think she's the girl to sit and work or herself very long. She sees you pulling back. She is reciprocating "slow" going. I wouldn't wait too long to work on you before trying to reconnect more deeply or you'll miss your window.

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I don't think she's the girl to sit and work or herself very long. She sees you pulling back. She is reciprocating "slow" going. I wouldn't wait too long to work on you before trying to reconnect more deeply or you'll miss your window.

 

Every time that I've known her to be single, she's single for a long length of time. You said don't wait to work on me for too long. I'm already doing what i have to do. Seeing her right now would make things that much harder. I care for her a great deal obviously. It wouldn't be fair for her to sit on the sidelines while I'm doing me. The biggest thing about all of this is her buzzed words and me wondering if there was truth to it. I failed to mention something she said btw. She said soberly, "It was easier for me to end my marriage than it was to end things with you."

 

I really appreciate all the responses. You are all great! Like i said, i never thought I'd talk to her again, so even communicating with her makes me happy. I'm gonna stick with working on myself and making my self happy, so that when I do start dating again, whether it be her or somene else, i can inturn make them happy.

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