In-Laws Rant

[lkn]

First time poster. Hi everyone.

 

I don't talk to my friends or family about my relationship cause I'm the only married guy in our friendship group. Just needed to come here and rant anonymously.

 

My wife's sister (Natalie, not her real name) is having trouble with her nanny. Natalie is pregnant with her 3rd child, due in two months. Natalie's nanny couldn't come work this week cause the nanny's daughter is in hospital. Now Natalie has trouble finding someone to look after her 9 month old baby.

 

This week she had to stay at home for 3 days. Natalie's mother stayed at home for one day to help look after her grandchild.

 

Natalie is very specific about who looks after her baby. And every suggestion my wife or my mother-in-law gets shot down by Natalie. Natalie doesn't like the nannies she interviewed this week. Natalie doesn't want to leave her baby with her aunt who is also a nanny (she finally caved last night and decided to leave her baby with her aunt).

 

Natalie wants her mother to take leave from work to look after her baby cause her mom is the boss and she can come and go as she pleases. My mother-in-law said she can't cause things at the office is a bit hectic at the moment.

 

My wife can't take time off from work because she was off last week Friday and now it would look bad to her employers if she takes off two consecutive Fridays.

 

Natalie feels like no one is trying to help her and the whole world is against them. But they have a history of complaining that no one wants to help but in fact, they only want to be help in a manner that suits them. She believes that beggars can be choosers.

 

Now everyone is crying. Natalie is crying and my mother-in-law is crying. Now my wife feels obligated to help but I feel its bull**** cause she only wants to get helped on her terms.

 

So this weekend we are probably looking after the kids. Our way of helping.

[Lois_Griffin]

Natlie sounds like a brood mare. Does she know how to do anything ELSE in life besides get pregnant?

 

She's got a 9 month old infant and she's PREGNANT again. What a fool.

 

So because she doesn't understand how birth control works, I guess it's up to everyone else to raise the kids she keeps having at an alarmingly fast rate. Lucky, lucky YOU.

 

Where's daddy in all this drama? I guess he just likes to get her pregnant but not do the work of raising all these kids.

 

This brood mare is a lot luckier than most, however. Most people don't have nannies.

[lkn]

She actually planned the first two kids. The eldest is 5 years old. The 9 month old baby was also planned. The one she is pregnant with now was not planned. Something about breastfeeding and not being able to be on the pill. I don't know how these things work. But it was during the time that she stopped breastfeeding.

 

The dad hasn't said anything. Or I don't know what the dad is saying. He is probably too busy at work to take time off to look after the children. And they sort of have an agreement whereby the dad does everything else in the house like pay the bills, balance the check book, cook and even clean but the mother's sole responsibility is looking after the children. SO maybe Natalie has to sort this out on her own.

 

Natalie just wants her mother or my wife to take off time from work and look after her baby and she cannot understand why no one wants to help her out. Natalie can't take anymore time off work. She's already missed out a lot. And she is going on maternity leave soon.

[BettyDraper]

Natlie sounds like a brood mare. Does she know how to do anything ELSE in life besides get pregnant?

 

She's got a 9 month old infant and she's PREGNANT again. What a fool.

 

So because she doesn't understand how birth control works, I guess it's up to everyone else to raise the kids she keeps having at an alarmingly fast rate. Lucky, lucky YOU.

 

Where's daddy in all this drama? I guess he just likes to get her pregnant but not do the work of raising all these kids.

 

This brood mare is a lot luckier than most, however. Most people don't have nannies.

 

Very lucky! I hate it when parents have more kids than they can take care of and then expect the world to drop everything for their little emperors.

 

I knew a woman like this. She had her first child by the end of high school. By the time she was in her early 30s, she was married and had 6 children. She married her husband when she was weeks away from giving birth. This broodmare has no education either

 

Maybe I don't understand women like this because I'm childfree. There's nothing wrong with having kids but popping out babies left and right without knowing how they will be cared for is stupid.

 

Unfortunately, I've noticed that many fathers do very little once their children are born. It's the mothers who are tied down with their babies.

This is why I'm hardly surprised that Natalie's husband doesn't look after his kids.

[amaysngrace]

Your sister-in-law's children are not your responsibility.

 

Paying your bills is though. Your wife needs her job and shouldn't even be forced to have to choose.

 

Your sister-in-law needs to be more responsible. She's somebody's parent but she's acting like a child.

 

Let her sort her own mess out.

[BettyDraper]

Very lucky! I hate it when parents have more kids than they can take care of and then expect the world to drop everything for their little emperors.

 

I knew a woman like this. She had her first child by the end of high school. By the time she was in her early 30s, she was married and had 6 children. She married her husband when she was weeks away from giving birth. This broodmare has no education either

 

Maybe I don't understand women like this because I'm childfree. There's nothing wrong with having kids but popping out babies left and right without knowing how they will be cared for is stupid.

 

Unfortunately, I've noticed that many fathers do very little once their children are born. It's the mothers who are tied down with their babies.

This is why I'm hardly surprised that Natalie's husband doesn't look after his kids.

 

 

Sorry! I meant: "She married her husband when she was weeks away from giving birth to her second child. "

[vossler]

It's nice that you are taking the kids for the weekend. Natalie however needs to know that her children are her responsibility and just because she isn't able to find a care-giver that meets her standards doesn't mean your wife or anyone else then becomes the de-facto helper. Either she finds someone who is acceptable or she gives up her job. I'm sure this isn't what she wants to hear.

[anika99]

She actually planned the first two kids. The eldest is 5 years old. The 9 month old baby was also planned. The one she is pregnant with now was not planned. Something about breastfeeding and not being able to be on the pill. I don't know how these things work. But it was during the time that she stopped breastfeeding.

 

The dad hasn't said anything. Or I don't know what the dad is saying. He is probably too busy at work to take time off to look after the children. And they sort of have an agreement whereby the dad does everything else in the house like pay the bills, balance the check book, cook and even clean but the mother's sole responsibility is looking after the children. SO maybe Natalie has to sort this out on her own.

 

Natalie just wants her mother or my wife to take off time from work and look after her baby and she cannot understand why no one wants to help her out. Natalie can't take anymore time off work. She's already missed out a lot. And she is going on maternity leave soon.

 

Wait. So Natalie works but feels that your wife or your mother-in-law should be the ones to take time off work to look after her kids, so that she doesn't have to take time off work? LOL, good thing she's not in my family because she would be soundly told off. She has a partner (dad), she can afford a nanny, and she's made the decision to pop out all of these babies. It's the responsibility of herself and the dad to figure out childcare for their children.

 

 

Natalie thinks the world revolves around her and her wants. The statement she made to her mom about how she can take time off because she's the boss just indicates how self absorbed and childish she is. Like the boss can just walk away from their responsibilities whenever they feel like it. How dumb is she?