Dark Horse Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) And yes i'm being serious. I know this thread will possibility offend some people, but please hear me out and the reason why I think this is potentially a good idea. So let's just say you're a shy guy who's not the most attractive person in the world and because of your shyness around women, you've never had a girlfriend before. I think it would be a good idea for you to consider dating a girl who's overweight (or not the most attractive) at least to start out so you can get some experience with dating and here's why. By dating, you get to experience what it's like to be in a relationship, have sex, and most importantly, you get to become a lot more comfortable around women and learn what they're like since you'll be around your girlfriend a lot. Since fat girls tend to be less picky and are often more friendly since they are overlooked by most men, they are much more likely to consider dating you if you give them the time and day. You need experience with interacting with women in order to attract them (especially if you're considered not very attractive) and by dating a girl who's not necessarily that physically attractive, you get some experience with simply being around women and talking to them and this can be used someday to may date a girl who's more physically attractive. Sometimes you have to start low before you can build up into something better. Your first relationship you get into probably wont be the girl you marry anyways and most likely not going to last for several years. That's why it's important to experiment around and date several people and see what you like and don't like. But it's good to get your foot in the door, and dating someone you're not necessarily physically attracted to can be a good way to do it. And who knows, you might actually really like this girl well enough that it could turn into something more. Also by dating, you will fulfill the loneliness void that often comes with being single, especially if you have been single your whole life. Plus if you date a girl who's fat but not too fat, they often have a nice asss because it's trick and curvy. If you ever watch porn, there's some fat but curvy girls with nice bodies and especially a big fat asss. [] I really don't think it's a bad idea to lower your standards a bit if you're starting out in the dating scene and you know you're not going to be attracting these really hot chicks anyways. Sometimes you have to start low and get some experience before you can date better. Edited June 26, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
juniorrocha Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) [] Your suggestion is to emotionally use a girl who's already weak in that department just so YOU can get better at knowing women, and then find someone who you're actually attracted to. [] Edited June 26, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 13 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dark Horse Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) Well I think it's a good idea. I mean you still shouldn't date just anybody but I think that as long as the girl has a somewhat cute face, she's friendly, and she has 1 similar interest to you, then you should consider dating a fat chick just to get your foot in the door. You shouldn't date somebody who you woudn't get a long with at all meaning no interests. I mean you should always be nice to her no matter what. And never say you're just settling either, that's how to make someone feel like sht even if that it is your true intention. But even if you're just settling with no intention of being in a long term relationship, you should still be nice to her and treat her with respect. Remember that you're just experimenting around and she should understand that too to not get too emotionally invested. Actually a friends with benefits might be better than an actual relationship because that way you're experiencing sex and friendship but you two arne't officially dating. That's a better option. Edited June 26, 2016 by Dark Horse Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) Not sure how to address this. I think this is a reflection of your own low self-confidence. You were talking about cold-approaches in another thread recently, and I think that this now would be a backwards step from that. Edited June 26, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude ~T Link to post Share on other sites
Moves Like Jagger Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Well I think it's a good idea. I mean you still shouldn't date just anybody but I think that as long as the girl has a somewhat cute face, she's friendly, and she has 1 similar interest to you, then you should consider dating a fat chick just to get your foot in the door. I mean you should always be nice to her no matter what. And never say you're just settling either, that's how to make someone feel like sht even if that it is your true intention. But even if you're just settling with no intention of being in a long term relationship, you should still be nice to her and treat her with respect. Remember that you're just experimenting around and she should understand that too to not get too emotionally invested. Actually a friends with benefits might be better than an actual relationship because that way you're experiencing sex and friendship but you two arne't officially dating. That's a better option. There's a big difference between practicing being social with all women whether attractive or unattractive versus deceiving someone that you have feelings for them in order to gain relationship experience. You are depriving them of a chance to be in a relationship with someone who is happy with who she is already. You do know that she might fall in love with you? Besides, overweight women are not as desperate as you make them out. A lot of them are social and successful at work. Many of them don't have problems attracting guys because a lot of guys like curves on a woman. I remember this classmate who was overweight. She had an extremely beautiful face. A few years later after she graduated, I saw her at a party with a guy. They were happy together. I hope that guy wasn't using her for practice. A lot of overweight women would rather be single than date some doormat who can't string together a sentence. 12 Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 There's a big difference between practicing being social with all women whether attractive or unattractive versus deceiving someone that you have feelings for them in order to gain relationship experience. You are depriving them of a chance to be in a relationship with someone who is happy with who she is already. You do know that she might fall in love with you? He was suggesting the idea of having a FWB situation. Nothing wrong with that. "Deceiving someone that you have feelings for them" is obviously a weasel thing to do, and not what he is thinking of (I hope). He'll damage her and himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dark Horse Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) He was suggesting the idea of having a FWB situation. Nothing wrong with that. "Deceiving someone that you have feelings for them" is obviously a weasel thing to do, and not what he is thinking of (I hope). He'll damage her and himself. Or you can give a fat chick a chance to see if feelings develop and if they don't then say it's not going to work out, i'm sorry. Nothing wrong with that. There's also a chance that you may not be attracted to someone at first but you spend time with them and they become more attractive the more you're around them. Some of it also has to do with the exposure effect. It's why sometimes when you hangout with people who you woudn't consider physically attractive, if they're a pretty cool and friendly person, you dont even think as much about their physical beauty anymore. Edited June 26, 2016 by Dark Horse Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 How many brain cells did I lose reading this thread? http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_me4u2jgspu1qa0u78.gif 20 Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) Or you can give a fat chick a chance to see if feelings develop and if they don't then say it's not going to work out, i'm sorry. That's typically what women do, mate You'll be dating like a woman. Your lack of confidence is forcing you to date down, and engage in dodgy behaviour. What happened with the cold-approaches? Why are you resorting to this? Edited June 26, 2016 by Jabron1 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 That's typically what women do, mate You'll be dating like a woman. Your lack of confidence is forcing you to date down, and engage in dodgy behaviour. What happened with the cold-approaches? Why are you resorting to this? No, no they don't. If you don't understand the difference then it's not worth the time trying to explain it to you. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 I don't care what someone looks like and/or their level of self-esteem/worth.... Not cool to use another human being with feelings, emotions, needs as "practice" for whatever. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 No, no they don't. If you don't understand the difference then it's not worth the time trying to explain it to you. Women don't go out with guys that they aren't initially attracted to - hoping that will change magically over time? Okay then, fella. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 (edited) Women don't go out with guys that they aren't initially attracted to - hoping that will change magically over time? Okay then, fella. Some women do, but they don't do it with the intention of "practicing" on that person to put themselves into a position for something better. So, it's one thing to get with someone you're lukewarm about with good intentions of either trying to make your feelings grow for them and/or concentrating on the "pros" of that person; another, is to get with someone to use them as "practice", so you can chuck them one day for an upgrade. Edited June 26, 2016 by Gloria25 4 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Women don't go out with guys that they aren't initially attracted to - hoping that will change magically over time? Okay then, fella. Women don't go out with guys they call before hand "whales" "fat" "unattractive" or any of the other garbage you mentioned. They will however go out with guys sometimes they may not feel super attracted to initially and get to know them and see if things develop, also because attraction is based on a lot more then looks. Or going out with guys just trying to boost their confidence with the plan to dump them and find someone hotter. If you think that is the same thing I don't know what to say.... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Some women do, but they don't do it with the intention of "practicing" on that person to put themselves into a position for something better. Women tool guys all the time for validation and all sorts of things. I see nothing wrong with him offering a girl a night out of fun. He doesn't have to intend to marry everyone that he dates. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Women don't go out with guys they call before hand "whales" "fat" "unattractive" or any of the other garbage you mentioned. They will however go out with guys sometimes they may not feel super attracted to initially and get to know them and see if things develop, also because attraction is based on a lot more then looks. Or going out with guys just trying to boost their confidence with the plan to dump them and find someone hotter. If you think that is the same thing I don't know what to say.... And yep, that's the thing with most women - more than looks when it comes to a guy. While, with men it's the contrary...looks are more important to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Women tool guys all the time for validation and all sorts of things. I see nothing wrong with him offering a girl a night out of fun. He doesn't have to intend to marry everyone that he dates. The title of this thread is "dating" a Fat Chick...not "ONS/FB/FWB" a fat chick. If I'm correct "dating" involves more than just showing a gal a good time. Feelings, plans, etc. are involved. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 No offense, OP, but I just don't find fat women attractive. Part of that is because how they look and the other part is the habits that led to them being that way. While my body shape is not great overall, it is better than most overweight women and I am, at the least, grateful for that. I do hope that I can find a woman that is at least like me in body shape and hope that we can be physically attracted to each other. So, no deal. I may not approach women hardly at all but I do have my deal breakers and limits and I refuse to cross them just for some "practice" or "sexual experience". I would sooner stay single and a virgin for the rest of my life instead before dating any woman that I am repulsed by, physically or mentally. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 How many brain cells did I lose reading this thread? http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_me4u2jgspu1qa0u78.gif Hence why I didn't bother responding, when someone's logic resembles a ball of yarn after a kitten has played with it, it's just beyond working with. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 And yep, that's the thing with most women - more than looks when it comes to a guy. While, with men it's the contrary...looks are more important to them. Of course. Not all guys are like that though 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dark Horse Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 And yep, that's the thing with most women - more than looks when it comes to a guy. While, with men it's the contrary...looks are more important to them. I think a lot of men are looking for both. Most men definitely would only date a girl they have somewhat of a physical attraction to but a lot of guys also are definitely looking for friendliness, compatibility, same interests etc... The reason why fat girls are often considered unattractive is because obesity is seen as an unattractive trait, especially if the girl doesn't have a cute face. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Interesting.... So do you have a minimum / maximum BMI in mind? I also think you should bring fat-measuring scales with you wherever you go because sometimes, a woman's body is misleading (especially for those you so expertly defined as 'fat, but not too fat'). I think totally missing the part about someone's personality is exactly the right thing to to do, too - I mean, anything to lift this self-esteem of yours, right? One little detail, before you start on this very noble quest: you do realise that these 'fat chicks' have to actually, you know, like you, yes? 10 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 The problem with this theory is men and women are different. No matter what woman you date there will be a communication gap you'll have to bridge. There will be an emotional gap you'll have to bridge. That's before you have to deal with any other stuff. Fat girl habits, for example. I once dated a woman I didn't think was attractive enough to be with me. That woman put me through so much hell that I decided to never date anyone that I wasn't really into again. This girl has hated me since then for leading her on and making her feel that she wasn't good enough. Breaking her heart, as she says. I feel you'll be better off learning how to attract the women you like. Those are the skills you'll need anyway. Why not go to them directly without playing with someone's feelings? That is cruel and disrespectful in my opinion. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dark Horse Posted June 26, 2016 Author Share Posted June 26, 2016 Interesting.... So do you have a minimum / maximum BMI in mind? I also think you should bring fat-measuring scales with you wherever you go because sometimes, a woman's body is misleading (especially for those you so expertly defined as 'fat, but not too fat'). Haha good idea. Whenever I go on a first date before it begins, I will be like "excuse me maam I have this scale. Can you please stand on it so I can see if you are too fat for my tastes?" Almost as bad as a girl bringing measuring tape to a first date to see if the guy is 6 ft tall and not 5 ft 11. Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Almost as bad as a girl bringing measuring tape to a first date to see if the guy is 6 ft tall and not 5 ft 11. Right? I mean, these women with their measuring tapes are everywhere. Fight the fight for justice, bro - you'll have the chicks dripping all over you with this winning mentality. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
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