Poutrew Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 OP, this should help you connect with the chicks: Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 If you haven't been laid in like a while go out and hit the gym and get in really good shape, buy clothes that fit, do cool things and maybe become a bit more edgy. Dude, just wondering, what makes you think these guys who "aren't getting laid" are NOT working out? Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 (edited) Speak of the devil, just a few days ago, this article was posted... 15 Thoughts Every Guy Has When Dating A Bigger Woman - TheRichest #12 cites this very post. "Some guys just lack confidence. They don’t feel ready to ask out the women that they truly desire. They need to work their way up so to speak. I know that may sound cruel, but this is about what guys think when they date plus-sized women, and this is one of them for sure. A lot of times guys are not ready for the major leagues, but they think they have a lot of potential. But how is one supposed to get better at flirting, at asking out women, and even in the sack if they have never practiced at the whole thing? Well, they might need to work their way up. A lot of guys are just hanging with plus-sized women because they don’t think they can do better and are slumming, and just waiting for the time to be right so they can make their move." #9 Picking A Place To Eat Is Easy Seriously, whatever you do, even in mixed company and talking among FRIENDS about dating and if it comes to dating the overweight, don't EVER bring up #9, even as a TOPIC of conversation. You'll be unfriended on FB and in real life immediately. LOL Edited June 27, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Speak of the devil, just a few days ago, this article was posted... 15 Thoughts Every Guy Has When Dating A Bigger Woman - TheRichest Interesting! Do you have a link to 15 thoughts every woman has when dating an overweight man? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Interesting! Do you have a link to 15 thoughts every woman has when dating an overweight man? I don't know, never thought to look. You can Google it I would imagine. Let me know if you find anythig. lol Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Well there's this cute petite girl who also has aspergers in my class (just like me), and my intels have gathered the information that she is indeed single. I will engage the said target this Tuesday class period. If successful, I will have successfully talked to her without shtting my pants! And maybe it can develop into something deeper. If I play my cards right, it could eventually turn into playing mario kart deep in the night and sharing pokemon cards. I'll go brief the men. We've got a battle to win here. FOR NARNIA AND FOR LONELY + HORNY MEN WORLDWIDE!!!!!! This is very funny! I would date this guy! It's just a matter of connecting and showing this side of yourself to people. Is there an online autism spectrum dating site? Might be a really good idea! Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Yes it seems you are just hearing what you want to. He was offensive. And he's not the only one. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Absolutely agree - with women money is very important as well Kidding but not really. Both sexes are just as superficial as the other. Women are every bit as bad as guys. Agree about physical attraction, but at least women don't place getting their sexual needs met above everything else in life. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 That list is reductive, stupid and insulting. Yes, let's trot out every stereotype about fat women (she can cook! she's eager to please!) and make it seems as if they're the kind of women men settle for. According to the article, men aren't "suppose" to want to date a fat woman. Well grow up. Stop being so worried about being seen with the hottest chick. If you go around with that attitude, you frankly don't deserve any woman. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dark Horse Posted June 27, 2016 Author Share Posted June 27, 2016 This is very funny! I would date this guy! It's just a matter of connecting and showing this side of yourself to people. Is there an online autism spectrum dating site? Might be a really good idea! Yeah unfortunately, i'm scared as sht around women so I become much more serious and shy without them ever getting to know how funny and cool of a dude I am. I act much differently around girls than I do around guys. I'm not as comfortable around them. Guys don't really scare me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Yeah unfortunately, i'm scared as sht around women so I become much more serious and shy without them ever getting to know how funny and cool of a dude I am. I act much differently around girls than I do around guys. I'm not as comfortable around them. Guys don't really scare me at all. This is why mixed groups are so helpful. Friends: guys and girls, spending time together in groups. That's how most young people learn to interact with the opposite sex. I think you could also benefit from interacting first in a written form (on a message board, for example, or a dating site), and informing potential dates that you are on the autism spectrum before meeting so they have some context for in person behaviors that may surprise them. Link to post Share on other sites
King Me Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Well I think JuneJulySeptember is right. You should go for girls whom are less likely to reject you and you stand a better chance with. Because let's face it, you're probably not going to stand a chance with a bunch of sorority girls if you're not a super buff frat boy and dislikes partying and getting wasted. You can't tell if someone is "less likely to reject you" by looking at them. If you are not into partying and getting wasted, what would you want with a girl who is? IMO everybody should try to date people to whom they are attracted and interested. If you get hints that she's interested in you, all the better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 You can't tell if someone is "less likely to reject you" by looking at them. If you are not into partying and getting wasted, what would you want with a girl who is? IMO everybody should try to date people to whom they are attracted and interested. If you get hints that she's interested in you, all the better. I completely disagree. Most guys whether they want to admit it or not know their level. I could understand if you were 12 but as an adult with years of approaching and asking out girls you know where you stand on the dating totem pole and the types of girls who will say yes to you. Whether you accept that or not is a completely different story. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 If a man is shy and inexperienced, as the thread title suggests, he could very likely not have the skills or experience to recognize legitimate interest, or any interest at all, simply because he shies away from interacting and has little to no experience interacting. The OP states he's fine around guys but has trouble talking to women, in general. That trouble, all within his own psyche, is at the forefront of interactions and consumes him, apparently, making interacting, or perceiving others, difficult. Without clear perception, interest is difficult to determine. I think his focus on, irrespective of dating and mating, getting over his fear of/discomfort with talking to women is a sound plan. Spray the whole target area and see what sticks. What I did back in the day was saturate the fear by traveling to parts of the world alien to me and forcing myself to interact with women when at a clear disadvantage, basically scaring myself into health. Hey, I survived that so life isn't that bad. Met some pretty cool ladies too. Life is like that. A box of chocolates 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Recon33 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Absolutely agree - with women money is very important as well Kidding but not really. Both sexes are just as superficial as the other. Women are every bit as bad as guys. I have no idea why this still gets debated. Neither sex is more shallow than the other. Link to post Share on other sites
shoplocal Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 And yes i'm being serious. I know this thread will possibility offend some people, but please hear me out and the reason why I think this is potentially a good idea. So let's just say you're a shy guy who's not the most attractive person in the world and because of your shyness around women, you've never had a girlfriend before. I think it would be a good idea for you to consider dating a girl who's overweight (or not the most attractive) at least to start out so you can get some experience with dating and here's why. By dating, you get to experience what it's like to be in a relationship, have sex, and most importantly, you get to become a lot more comfortable around women and learn what they're like since you'll be around your girlfriend a lot. Since fat girls tend to be less picky and are often more friendly since they are overlooked by most men, they are much more likely to consider dating you if you give them the time and day. You need experience with interacting with women in order to attract them (especially if you're considered not very attractive) and by dating a girl who's not necessarily that physically attractive, you get some experience with simply being around women and talking to them and this can be used someday to may date a girl who's more physically attractive. Sometimes you have to start low before you can build up into something better. Your first relationship you get into probably wont be the girl you marry anyways and most likely not going to last for several years. That's why it's important to experiment around and date several people and see what you like and don't like. But it's good to get your foot in the door, and dating someone you're not necessarily physically attracted to can be a good way to do it. And who knows, you might actually really like this girl well enough that it could turn into something more. Also by dating, you will fulfill the loneliness void that often comes with being single, especially if you have been single your whole life. Plus if you date a girl who's fat but not too fat, they often have a nice asss because it's trick and curvy. If you ever watch porn, there's some fat but curvy girls with nice bodies and especially a big fat asss. [] I really don't think it's a bad idea to lower your standards a bit if you're starting out in the dating scene and you know you're not going to be attracting these really hot chicks anyways. Sometimes you have to start low and get some experience before you can date better. Before I read this thread, I must say: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Fat women have standards. Just because we (yes, I'm a fat woman!) are society's bottom of the barrel, doesn't mean we're our own. If you're shy, that's your problem. My rolls are not here to cure you! Like seriously! And now I'm going to read the thread. I came to LS for entertainment tonight and I think I found it :laugh: 5 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Being fat does not mean lack of intelligence....if you go in thinking you can use a fat woman for experience....do you honestly think she will simper and feel blessed at your feigned attention... and not have a mind enough to know your intentions in the first place.... honestly not only is it wrong to assume such offensive behaviors towards largess women are warranted to gain experience for shy guys..... it does shy guys a total disservice.....doesnt do anything for their own self worth to believe they have to first date women they consider unattractive and would never consider being serious about.... shy guys...also should have intelligence enough to know...to only date women they find attractive and would like to know further..... joining mixed sex groups of interest or hobbies is a way to build confidence without having to be a try hard fake or have sex with women they find unattractive.... fwb...well for that also comes a certain physical attraction and for shy guys probably isnt an ideal scenario to not only deal with their shyness....but performance issues that would or may arise if they werent physically attracted to whom they were dating...could have the potential to damage any serious relationship in the future they may wish to pursue i have found shy guys .....mostly care more about the woman...than just the behind of the woman they are dating.....just sayin...shy guys doesnt equal dumb or incapable of dating either..deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shoplocal Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Well there's this cute petite girl who also has aspergers in my class (just like me), and my intels have gathered the information that she is indeed single. I will engage the said target this Tuesday class period. If successful, I will have successfully talked to her without shtting my pants! And maybe it can develop into something deeper. If I play my cards right, it could eventually turn into playing mario kart deep in the night and sharing pokemon cards. I'll go brief the men. We've got a battle to win here. FOR NARNIA AND FOR LONELY + HORNY MEN WORLDWIDE!!!!!! I read the whole thread! This post caught my eye! Egads man, why didn't you mention you have Asperger's in your first post? That's a huge 'thing'. I have a relative, also male, with Asperger's, and he really struggles with women. Happily (?), he's only focused on women he finds attractive. Whenever he begins to have success in dating and relationships, he'll be on the right path. Second note, as I thought about it: I get where you're coming from. I'm also unsuccessful in dating and posted a thread asking where I could meet lower tier men (or however I phrased it). BUT NOT TO DATE FOR PRACTICE. I figured that perhaps I'm trying to pull above my weight class, and that I'd do better with men of a different type. Doing better in the sense that they're attracted to me AND I'm attracted to them AND we want to date/partner with each other for real. Third note that occurred to me: you won't get the right kind of practice, dating women you're not attracted to. It's easy to talk to, flirt with, be comfortable around people you're not attracted to because there's nothing emotionally at stake. If you want to be better at talking to women you're attracted to, you're going to have to talk to women you're attracted to. Someone up thread recommended learning from someone knowledgeable; it's a great idea, given that you haven't had success figuring things out on your own. Hope this thread has helped you! At the very least, hope it's convinced you not to target fat women. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Yeah unfortunately, i'm scared as sht around women so I become much more serious and shy without them ever getting to know how funny and cool of a dude I am. I act much differently around girls than I do around guys. I'm not as comfortable around them. Guys don't really scare me at all. Tell me, do you feel this way about women that you are not attracted to? Are you shy around a married 45 year old woman? Or a 28 year old woman who you simply are not attracted to? Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 I recall trying to contact a few overweight women online just to test how lopsided people's standards have become. Just to see if my emails would go ignored just as with the women I was attracted to would ignore me. I got views, but no responses. lol Go figure, right? There was a time I recall of hearing of fat women not wanting to date thinner men because it falls in the same wheelhouse as height. They don't want to appear "bigger" not only vertically, but horizontally as well! 'Third note that occurred to me: you won't get the right kind of practice, dating women you're not attracted to. Yeah, I had a real life player attempting to say, "Just date for practice, even if it's women you don't like!" You know, to get my "game" better. Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Op I have to give you credit with this post. It takes balls to ask this kind of question. Now imagine if you would put those kind of balls on asking woman out that you figured would turn you down. I bet you would get somewhere then. Confidence smells like a great cologne. I think some people lack the strength to get it and improve there well being. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Tell me, do you feel this way about women that you are not attracted to? Are you shy around a married 45 year old woman? Or a 28 year old woman who you simply are not attracted to? Well now, 45 year old married women can be quite hot And fat women can, too. Maybe even 45 year old married fat women can be hot! Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Well now, 45 year old married women can be quite hot And fat women can, too. Maybe even 45 year old married fat women can be hot! The reason I used that example is because she would be married. I was wondering if there is any reason for Dark Horse to be shy around someone that he isn't going to impress. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 I'm really late to this discussion but I'll just say that the reason the OP's original idea is so objectionable imo is the fallacies it's based on and the implications of them. It wrongly assumes that all "fat chicks" have low self esteem etc. Not true, there are plenty of heavier ppl in the world who love who they are and have absolutely no qualms about their size and no associated insecurities and/or tendencies to lower their standards and be desperate. And that illustrates the other ugly reality behind this notion - what it really seeks to do is exploit vulnerable ppl. Forget "fat" or skinny or whatever, someone who hopes to get ppl with low self esteem to engage in compromising behaviors is just manipulating the easily manipulated. That could be heavy ppl who have issues about it, or ppl w/'daddy issues,' rape victims who seek acceptance by sacrificing their sexual integrity, beautiful ppl w/drug addiction problems, broke ppl who are desperate for money, etc. etc. The list goes on and on. If you're aspiring to be someone in that shady group of ppl who exploit the vulnerable for whatever reason ....well let's just say what goes around does seem to come around evenetually so there'll be a day of reckoning for you, sometime. But what I really think is happening here in OP's case, based on your posting history, is even more pitiable bc you're actually not that guy, but the one you are seems to have even bigger esteem issues than your would-be "fat chick" victims. You really need to address that and get yourself straightened out before you fall off the proverbial cliff. :-/ 4 Link to post Share on other sites
King Me Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 I recall trying to contact a few overweight women online just to test how lopsided people's standards have become. Just to see if my emails would go ignored just as with the women I was attracted to would ignore me. I am confused. Are you saying that a fat woman has less of a right to find you unattractive than a thin woman does? I got views, but no responses. lol Go figure, right? It's not hard to go figure ... they weren't interested in you. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
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