Not physically appealing, but nice enough to...

[LookAtThisPOst]

Ladies: I was wondering, and this is more of a real life encounter than online. Have you ever come across someone with some physical imperfection(s) that kind of turned you off, but when chatting with them organically...upon getting to know them they seemed pretty nice and then they asked you out.

 

That said, would you be like, "He has a big nose/weight on him, but he seems nice enough to give it a shot..."

 

I have met some women that do this actually...and sometimes they continue past the 1st date.

 

Now would you say this is kind of a rarity for people to somehow find out that someone's personality tilted the scales of physical looks towards attraction?

 

You ever think, "Hm, I usually don't date short guys, but he's a sweetie, so yeah...I'll go to dinner with him."?

[TooLegitToQuit]

I'm not a lady, but I am positive that personality and vibe definitely has won over many a woman (who was initially unattracted to the guy's looks). I don't think this is a rarity at all.

 

Guys here seem to be wishing that they were better-looking--they should instead be striving to be more charismaric.

Edited June 27, 2016 by TooLegitToQuit

[losangelena]

Umm, yes. And no, it's not "rare." Less than perfect people pair up all the time. Too many, men and women, disqualify themselves much too soon because they think they're somehow unappealing, but attitude is far and away more important than looks. Unless you want to date shallow people.

[preraph]

Only in extreme conditions, and by that I mean their personality was so extremely good, they were so intelligent, so confident, and in the cases with me personally, they were also very accomplished at something creative.

 

I do know a woman or two who goes for a lot of different looking guys and I always think they're not good looking enough compared to them (like the woman is maybe a 7 or 8), but what I have noticed is those women jump around from guy to guy constantly too. One married one but the marriage is a sad mess and he isn't helpful at all. It's just not really true that a guy less in looks will try harder. She just misjudged what he was like and mistook his quietness for niceness, but he's not nice. He's just a sullen mess.

[Satu]

I had a partner who I didn't consider good looking when we first met, but after making the emotional bond, I saw the beauty and wondered why I didn't see before.

[BlueIris]

The only time a physical trait made me decide not to date someone was when he was unable to do activities I enjoy because of his weight. That's very rare. With only a couple of exceptions, the men I’ve dated have not been considered good looking by media standards.

[Satu]

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With only a couple of exceptions, the men I’ve dated have not been considered good looking by media standards.

 

As Terence McKenna once said:

 

"This culture is not your friend.

[Dark Horse]

All I know is that if the fattest dude in the world can get married, i'm sure my short scrawny asss can at least get a date.

 

Thats my life philosophy.

Edited June 27, 2016 by Dark Horse

[BlueIris]

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As Terence McKenna once said:

 

"This culture is not your friend.

 

So true.

I scrape to try to define or understand how others are defining "good looking" and "not physically appealing" so... eh... media?

[RecentChange]

Hum, I had a FWB for a while (well over a year) who physically wasn't my type (very thin / lanky) - so while just looking at him might not have gotten my engines revving (he had a nice face though) - his demeanor and intelligence were sexy.

 

We had great chemistry and he was an excellent lover. I was able to over look the lack of tush

 

I can find someone not particularly attractive, but still do not find them a turn off. Seriously over weight would be a deal breaker for me (turn off catagory).