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So basically my ex dumped me after about 6 months, due to me apparently reminding him to much of a friend of his, i know silly right but that wasn't the real reason.

 

Now my ex is a really insecure guy, self admitted. It wasn't until about a week after the breakup until I realized what I had done or I should say I didn't do. I was going through some family troubles at home and basically I began to shut down, didn't really talk and that I neglected him. i didn't show him the attention or affection that i should have, he was always the one to show me affection and attention but I did not reciprocate. I never told him the reasons why I was acting this way.

 

Fast forward a week odd later and he went to a music festival with his cousin, something he had planned even before I met him, So i find out that he met a guy there and that on the 4th day of knowing this guy he is "in a relationship". He had only spent 2 days with this guy at the festival. They live over 400 miles apart.

 

This so called relationship is now only a skype relationship. My ex works between 5-6 days per week, his new guy is unemployed. Now I know that my ex does not have much time or money to travel. I cannot see how this is really going to last. I would spend 2-3 days/nights a week staying with my ex and him being very insecure this to me is a dead end with this new guy.

 

I know why he broke up with me and it took a bit for me to accept that it was my doing. I do plan to get him back but for the time being I have just got on with my own life and got back to normal. We both had strong feelings for each other and I truly plan to make it work. I have now been in NC for about a 2 weeks. I have a mutual friend who said they will tell me when his new relationship comes to an end, no one in his family or friends thinks this will last much longer than a couple of months at most. But in the meantime Im having my own fun and working on me. Getting back to enjoying life after my recent family troubles.

 

 

Comments and questions are welcome

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juniorrocha

Why do you even care about what your ex is doing? He's your ex. It doesn't matters if he's dating someone just across the street or at the other side of the world; not your business.

 

Also, you should do just what you said you will: take care of your life. Let your ex live his. Soon enough you'll meet a new guy too and be happy with him.

 

And should you ever get another shot with your ex, remember what you did wrong this time and try to meet his needs. Maybe you're both just incompatible anyway.

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Why do you even care about what your ex is doing? He's your ex. It doesn't matters if he's dating someone just across the street or at the other side of the world; not your business.

 

Also, you should do just what you said you will: take care of your life. Let your ex live his. Soon enough you'll meet a new guy too and be happy with him.

 

And should you ever get another shot with your ex, remember what you did wrong this time and try to meet his needs. Maybe you're both just incompatible anyway.

 

The information about him being in a new relationship was not something I asked for it was just something I was told by a mutual friend. I was not interested. I am happy doing what I am doing, having fun and seeing other people but nothing serious.

 

But make no mistake about it, we are most definitely compatible and without a doubt when the time is right I will make my move, slowly and surgically and be the attentive person I should have been the first time round!!!

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juniorrocha

I get it.

 

As long as you aren't living your life waiting for another chance with your ex, I suppose it's alright. Be open to new people, afterall he's just your ex now.

 

Good luck! :)

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