For men, the importance of safe sex may depend on how hot their partner is

[Redhead14]

I get what you are saying, but would you say someone who smokes deserves cancer? If left untreated, HIV will become AIDS in most people. AIDS is still a death sentence for the majority of people who develop it. So does having unprotected sex warrant a possible death sentence if the person is unlucky enough to contract the disease?

 

The above statement should not be interpreted to say I support or am "ok" with having unprotected sex. Just trying to understand why some people deserve the ultimate consequence?

 

It's really not a matter of "deserving" per se, better put, perhaps, is that it's more about accepting the consequences of poor decision making.

 

Having unprotected sex "warranting" a possible death sentence implies some kind of judgement. It's simply the risk that's taken if they do that. We can't control who does or who doesn't get aids/disease from unprotected sex. But, common sense says that the risk of contracting a disease far outweighs the fleeting experience of having sex with a stranger.

 

However, the fault falls on the parties involved if they understand the risks and opt to take a gamble. A gambler who loses his shirt, has to be prepared to lose his shirt because he knows that gambling carries that risk. It is what it is.

 

Not to get onto the road of theology, but . . . with respect to death being the deserved consequence of smoking and that sentence is some kind of judgement from God . . . We have to remember that God didn't create smoking. That is a man-made, secular tainting of our environment and so the consequences of that are of our own doing. Same with AIDS. God didn't create aids. That is a result of man's departure from the "norm", let's say, and so we reap what we sow.

Edited June 30, 2016 by Redhead14

[OneLov]

But, only wise people take a step back and don't allow looks to rule their total evaluation of a person.

 

I don't know, IMO, yes, guys let looks rule.

 

Have you ever heard of the Physical Attractiveness Stereotype?

 

The physical attractiveness stereotype is a tendency, described by psychologists, to assume that people who are physically attractive also possess other socially desirable personality traits, i.e. like being STD free.

 

If you google it, you will find it is not limited to men and unwise women.

 

I'm not defending unprotected sex but, at least to me, there was nothing shocking about the results of the research.

[OneLov]

But, common sense says that the risk of contracting a disease far outweighs the fleeting experience of having sex with a stranger.

 

However, the fault falls on the parties involved if they understand the risks and opt to take a gamble.

 

First, I want to state I agree with what you are saying and not trying to be argumentative. I think that, in general, people have a difficult time appreciating risk. The highest risk of unprotected sex is pregnancy. If that doesn't deter some people to use protection, I don't think STDs will.

 

Also, it is the person "receiving" (the woman or homosexual male) that has the most risk of contracting any STD. I believe that also contributes to the problem because the person (the man) who uses protection is not the one who assumes the greatest risk.

 

But I think anyone who doesn't use protection with unfamiliar sex partners is being incredibly careless and should not have intercourse.

Edited June 30, 2016 by OneLov

[Redhead14]

First, I want to state I agree with what you are saying and not trying to be argumentative. I think that, in general, people have a difficult time appreciating risk. The highest risk of unprotected sex is pregnancy. If that doesn't deter some people to use protection, I don't think STDs will.

 

Also, it is the person "receiving" (the woman or homosexual male) that has the most risk of contracting any STD. I believe that also contributes to the problem because the person (the man) who uses protection is not the one who assumes the greatest risk.

 

But I think anyone who doesn't use protection with unfamiliar sex partners is being incredibly careless and should not have intercourse.

 

 

You're right, prisons are full of people who are not deterred by consequences. And, the case of unprotected sex, the prison is disease and/or pregnancy. And, if a pregnancy results, it's the baby who suffers the most usually. God forbid a disease and pregnancy results. The child also has a disease and is unwanted.

 

I think that, in general, people have a difficult time appreciating risk. -- Only immature, self-ingratiating people have this difficulty. If that's becoming "general", it's no wonder the dating pool and society is contaminated.

 

More than all this though, is if these selfish people are conducting themselves in this manner on this stuff, what kind of life are they living overall? It must be chaos.

 

It's nice to hear that there are still people like you and I who are fully developed emotionally and intellectually

[wesmel06]

Well first of all I think that when your dealing with a very attractive partner that sometimes you can get carried away. It happens. A heat of the moment type thing if you will. If she's kissing a guy and she smells good, her skin is so soft, and his hands are wondering all over her body sometimes your so lost in the moment that your common sense does go out the window. I think that women underestimate just how enticing they can be sometimes. Especially if you have a raging hard on and know you would have to stop, leave, go buy protection, and all of that. Once you get a guy's motor revved up it's hard to put things in reverse sometimes. Especially if she says that she's already on birth control or something.

 

I think it all depends on a lot of factors though. It has to do with age, experience level, circumstances, and just how damn horny you are at that point in time lol. Younger kids in their teens are less likely to use protection. Sex is new to them and they have all of those raging hormones. If you don't have sex a lot as a guy your less likely to pass up on that type of thing also. Circumstances matter too. If your out at the lake with a bunch of friends and didn't know you were going to be getting lucky that day your going to take more of a risk with that hot friend one of your females friends brought along. If you didn't know you were going to be sleeping with anyone why would you bring protection? Rare occasion sure but it happens.

 

I'll share a story with you as an example. When I was in high school I sat behind a really sexy young lady named Katie. She was 5'9 and had some of the most incredible legs I'd ever seen. The cutest butt too. I had to sit behind her for a little over an hour on my last period class. She would wear the tiniest little skirts everyday. I was a horny sophomore at the time. I'd sit there for like 60 minutes behind her in that tiny skirt. I could see her thong sticking out and everything. Not much left to the imagination really. I'd be so worked up at the end of that hour. If she'd have wanted I'd have slept with her in her car in the parking lot, the school bathroom, or pretty much anywhere haha. After an hour of looking at nothing but a woman's rear end which to my credit wasn't covered very well all my male mind could register was sex sex sex sex sex. I sure didn't bring condoms to school.

 

Another instance was at the local pool one summer. I got lucky enough to have an attractive lady in a bikini all over me in the water. Both of us were damn near naked anyway and left together. We went and parked somewhere and got it on shortly after leaving the pool. My point? Most of these hook ups without protection aren't planned. They just sort of happen. This isn't always how it works. "I'm going to grab a condom and go get some tonight". Most times it's pretty random especially when your young. Or perhaps alcohol is involved. These things happen.

 

In summary I would advise people to have protected sex. As an adult now I have condoms at my house. I buy them for a reason. However I'm not saying that in the future someday that I won't give in to temptation with an attractive stranger. Most people who say that they would never do that really have never been put in that situation probably. Also I think as human beings we are wired to want to reproduce as well. As men I think we subconsciously want to spread our "seed" also which is why we act like such hornballs all the time. It's hard to fight nature and what mankind has done for thousands of years before we had birth control at all. Just my opinion though.