Greywolf Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Hi, I needed help. Last year, my wife caught me chatting with another girl on wechat. She gave me a chance. But recently, again she found out at I have female friends chatting on whatsapp, she is very angry. I know I am stupid to have made the same mistake twice, and I am indeed very sorry. She ask me to move out of the house as soon as possible, but I just refused. We have since sleep separately, but still do things together like, I send her to work, eat together. Did marketing together, and even exercise together. He will not show me her naked Moey any more, and will not allow me to buy or touch her. How to do win her back? Please help Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 By not being an idiot. Unfortunately she may now realise your are severely lacking in learning capacity and therefore any further attempts at reform will be ineffective. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Jhen29 Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Its takes time to give your forgiveness, your hurt her so much its not easy to trust you again but don't surrender give much effort to prove how much you love her even if your not so sure if she still love you after you cheated her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 She's your wife, and you're pulling the wool over her eyes, Not once, but twice, and calling it a mistake in a transparent disguise, Unless your marriage has that kind of arrangement, so be it, But you done ****ed up and need to apology sincerely, as I see it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ChocolateRain Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 if she forgives you once ...shame on you ! İf she forgives you twice for the same '' MiSTAKE '' shame on her ... it shows clearly you cant be trusted ... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Admit you have a character flaw. Go seek therapy and do the work. Be transparent - provide access to all your phone and computer accounts. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Forgiveness is a gift...given to someone who doesn't deserve it... You could never earn it....because you can never undo the hurt you have caused. Cheating destroys a relationship...and when one is given a second chance they must prove they understand the gift they have been given. If you cheat yet again...you have proven that you have no remorse...no shame...no guilt...over your choice to cheat the first time. You accepted the gift your partner gave you...and laughed in their face. Fool me once shame on you...fool me twice shame on me If I were your partner I would end the relationship. You have proven you are unworthy of forgiveness. Seek therapy to understand why you have allowed yourself to cheat.... work on you....fix your problems but don't expect your partner to come along this journey of self discovery with you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 I really don't blame your wife because you'll do it again. Pack your bags. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 (edited) She won't forgive you until she knows that you know how deep you hurt her. Her ears are now deaf to your spoken word because you burned her with them. So saying sorry again won't even come close to doing anything. I reiterate, Once she knows that you "get it" and truly understand in your heart how deep you hurt her she "may" crack the door open. Make no mistake you will be on probation for a very long time and perhaps as long as you are together. Edited June 28, 2016 by Rockdad 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 I know I am stupid to have made the same mistake twice, and I am indeed very sorry. "...that I got caught..." He will not show me her naked Moey any more, and will not allow me to buy or touch her. I'm curious Greywolf, where are you posting from? I've never heard "naked Moey" before. Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TrustedthenBusted Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Step One. Stop looking for a magic bullet. There isn't a damn thing you can say TODAY that will lead to forgiveness TOMORROW. That is the biggest mistake betrayers make. They want it all to be over with and behind them immediately. Not gonna happen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 if she forgives you once ...shame on you ! İf she forgives you twice for the same '' MiSTAKE '' shame on her ... it shows clearly you cant be trusted ... Since you didn't change the behavior that caused her pain - it is not likely to change. That change was up to you and you ruined your chance again - to earn her trust. Respect her and move. Especially since you intend to just continue cheating. Get some help - causing harm to others isn't right. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NTV Posted June 28, 2016 Share Posted June 28, 2016 Just curious here.... Why do you think you deserve forgiveness? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tndawg Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 Trust is key bro. You have to earn this back one day at a time. What are some things you can do to show her? Do you think you can refrain from ANY online use unless you are with her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 I'd maybe forgive you once, but on the second occasion you'd be out of the door, never to return. How much forgiveness do you think its reasonable to expect? Rather than thinking about 'how to win her forgiveness,' you should be thinking about how to deserve it. So far, you don't. Not at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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