digger Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Last Sunday (Fathers Day) my daughter called me. She had previously told me she wasnt going to grandmas house (100 miles away) where I to would be at my folks house for Dads Day. Lo and behold, she calls me, says shes in town and would I like to see her. Hell yes i would and she came and we had a great time. (Something tells me maybe Mom told her she had to go and see me for Fathers Day, I dunno, but if my daughter had a chance to stay and be with her b/f Im sure she wouldve taken it). Yes I kept EW out of the conversation except for 1 little slip. I asked , "hows mom?" She said, well shes doing nothing but work work work. It appears on the outside shes trying to immerse herself and may be feeling a pinch of lonliness to. I did make another NC slip about 2 weeks ago when I sent the EW a VCR tape of a recent Joel Osteen sermon. There are those of you that may scoff at relgion, but if youve ever seen Osteen youll be captivated by the way he presents his message. Non bible thumping, 1 or 2 religous passages and the rest in relatable 2005 language. The jest of it was, "if you can leave the word Divorce out of it, you have a chance. Its not greener on the other side, its not even greener on your side. Its only greener if u water it. Dont think being with someone else is going to make things better, 80% off all 2nd marriages fail, etc etc etc. I sent it to her and said it was a message for both of us. Mistake or not, Ive kind of gotten off the NC thing in a way, and began to send little thots that I still care. My EW has strong religous convictions and I thot she may hear something in this that strikes a chord. You know she has been hateful (unlike her) but she very well could call me and tell me to quit sending this **** (even the gift i sent her over Thanksgiving) or even came by and left em smashed on my doorstep or returned to sender, which she hasnt. Anyway, Next week is the anniversary of our meeting each other. Im thinking of sending flowers with the message "we all make mistakes, but the mistake I never made was introducing myself to you that night 23 yrs ago". Now, tho it may sound like it, im not in the dire straights I was 6 months ago. I dont break down and cry over her, but yes i still love her very much. Its kinda like: well if this works, great, if not; I tried. I wont lose any sleep over it. I know there are those who'll say "give it up, shes moved on"...and maybe she has. AND maybe she hasnt!! But shall i go to my grave in 30 years regretting I didnt try? Anything is possible. How dumb am I? Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 Or if someone has a better idea--lemme know. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 I'm not a jesus freak but I accidentally stumbled upon a Joel Osteen sermon on TV and it was around the time my marriage was ending. I went out and bought his book "Your Best Life Now"....weird, this is the second post today I put about that book! Anyway, he makes more common sense than anything, and I agree no bible-thumping. If it makes you feel good to continue these gestures towards your EW then I don't see anything terribly wrong with it. SO nice you got to see your daughter on father's day too! I just hate to see or hear about you getting crushed again by her reaction/lack of. IMO the grass was watered too little too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 you're a kind woman maybe to little/to late but... ITS NEVER TO LATE if you beleive in cliches (sp) Link to post Share on other sites
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