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How can I "still" be in love with somebody who has hurt me so much?


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Is there any psychological reason?

Any hint?

 

We've been together for 5 years, a rocky relationship, full of handicaps and problems. I've loved him very much and I know he has loved me too.

 

6 months ago the unthinkable happened and I split up: he hurt me a lot and did something I'd never have thought him able of doing. ( don't want to talk about this :( )

 

The question is time has passed, he has tried to be in contact with me, we see each other from time to time and this relationship is now much relaxed, as we are not a "couple" any more. I can't deny I'm still in love with him.

 

My brain is now in power and it keeps me at bay with him: I don't expect anything and I don't hurt anymore.

 

I'm leaving for a 2-month holiday in 2 days and I will be far from him during this time. I have been thinking about enjoying my hometown, my family, my friends and make a final split with him, but I can't help but thinking: Am I mad? How can I still be in love with somebody who has hurt me so much?

 

Thanks a lot.

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Well, he's caused you emotional turmoil - which doesn't make you feel good, but right now it maybe seems a preferable alternative to feeling nothing at all.

 

Love can take ages vanish completely. Just stick with your plan of steering clear of him, and let time do its work. Having wobbly moments is fine - just don't give in to them and see him again. You don't need that sort of setback.

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