Manya Posted June 15, 1999 Share Posted June 15, 1999 Reading some of the posts on younger women (minors in most cases) in love with much older men makes me wonder just what age difference is appropriate for a relationship. Obviously in the case of these teen-agers the age difference factor is more serious, but what about a woman in her mid-twenties going out with a man in his fourties for example? I don't see the age difference factor being as relavant when the two parties are both mature adults. (When I was involved with Pavel I was 25 and he was 42 and in many instances I acted more "adult" than he. An earlier boyfriend of mine was ten years older than me, but he acted even older than Pavel.I have NEVER been in a relationship with a man my own age.) I personally think it works much if the woman is younger than the man. I have more of a problem with younger men going out with older women. Do you agree with me? What are your opinions on this issue? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 15, 1999 Share Posted June 15, 1999 Reading some of the posts on younger women (minors in most cases) in love with much older men makes me wonder just what age difference is appropriate for a relationship. It's a great question, and one I've been asking myself after reading a lot of the messages here lately. My personal situation is, of course, related: I'm a 28-year-old man dating an 18-year-old woman. There are special challenges to dating someone older or younger, of course, but my personal feeling is that as long as both are mature, both share the same (or similar) values systems (I'm sure most people will agree that our values systems change drastically as we get older), and both are comfortable with the relationship, age differences aren't a huge issue. This, of course, assumes that both people are above the age of consent! For what it's worth, Here's a few of the challenges (none very major) that my own relationship has presented. I'd love to hear about some obstacles that others have encountered, too! She doesn't understand what it means to end a long-term relationship. When we started dating, I was in the process of ending a 10-year relationship with my then-wife (we had been married for 5 of those years). Ending that relationship was the right thing to do, but my girlfriend didn't understand my feelings at all and wasn't very supportive. She doesn't have a very good grasp of the value of money, savings, etc. Did any of us before we had to be self-sufficient? I'm pretty out-of-touch with the styles of dress, speech, music, and dance that are popular with younger people today. Her parents were initially wary of our age difference, but they've warmed up to me. I personally think it works much if the woman is younger than the man Why is that? I agree that when there's an age difference it's usually a younger woman/older man relationship, but why should this be any more stable than the other way around? Are women more emotionally mature than men? Link to post Share on other sites
Chalandria Salem Posted July 15, 1999 Share Posted July 15, 1999 I don't se anything wrong with dating older men. My parents are 20 years apart. They're older now, and they were both married once before, but they are happy, and I am happy with my b/f who is 4 years older. Go ahead. have fun, Chal Link to post Share on other sites
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