ladydesigner Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 Are there any step-dads that can't accept their step-daughter? how are you coping with this???its been a year and a half we have made the decision to be together. He can't accept her and goes out of his way to make sure she feels disgusting and insecure. he tells her she is ugly and disgusting. when i try to correct him in front of her she listens to him. yesterday he kept saying how disgusting ghee feet were because she got her toes panted. she had a horrid look on her face and tucked in her toes every time he looked. by the way she is 2 and 1/2 years old! I keep thinking that with time he can accept her and see she is a good kid. she respects him, listens to him and tries to win his approval. after yesterday I am willing to throw it all away.. my kids don't need a step dad. they have a dad, they don't need anything from him, but we will have issues if he goes to great lengths to make a little girl feel insecure. I decided to stop babying his insecurities. As a mom, we are emotional creatures and i knw all the woman will say i am making the right decision. But i knw men like to feel wanted, babied, and priority. What can i do if he already admitted to hating her and not being able to accept her? I would tell him to f**k off seriously. I might have slapped him! He's disgusting in the way he treats your DD. Link to post Share on other sites
DreamP Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 Are there any step-dads that can't accept their step-daughter? how are you coping with this???its been a year and a half we have made the decision to be together. He can't accept her and goes out of his way to make sure she feels disgusting and insecure. he tells her she is ugly and disgusting. when i try to correct him in front of her she listens to him. yesterday he kept saying how disgusting ghee feet were because she got her toes panted. she had a horrid look on her face and tucked in her toes every time he looked. by the way she is 2 and 1/2 years old! Are you THAT desperate for a man that you would let your own child be treated this way just to have a relationship? Even in the animal world, mothers put their lives at risk to defend their child(ren) and you keep an abusive man around who openly hates your child. If somebody told my daughter she was ugly, that person would be getting a broken nose, not being babied by me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 Thanks for your opinion all, i do value them. let me be clear, he is not just a BF, we have been together 3 years. and when he has his kids over at his house he sleeps with them. this says a lot!! so yes it is a control issue. no my kids don't stay the night in my bed when he is here. and no its not even every night when he's not here. it is the occasional weekend night after watching a movie in bed and falling asleep. He is more of a husband if anything, just with out the certificate. we help each other with finances, we have say so in one another lives. i want to consider his feelings, however i knw it is out of jealousy not "not believing in co-sleeping." No, that's a boyfriend. And a terrible one at that. Why aren't you protecting your daughter from this monster???" What kind a disgusting pig tells a 2 and a half year old that she's disgusting? Why haven't you dumped this twisted sack of crap yet??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 For the life of me, I will never understand why women lie down and let themselves be victims. And I have no idea why you persist in this relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 He is more of a husband if anything, just with out the certificate. we help each other with finances, we have say so in one another lives. What can i do if he already admitted to hating her and not being able to accept her? Sadly sounds like you've already made your choice. Too bad for your little girl ... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 If this fool is more important than your daughter, she's better off being raised by someone who cares about her self esteem. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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