strongerthanbefore Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 Hi everyone, My exboyfriend and I broke up a month ago over a stupid argument we had during vacation. He dumped me for the record. We have been NC since, but our breakup has very much so been at the center of the larger social circle we both run in. His friends have been coming up to me on "info hunts" and have been probing me to figure out what i've been up to. The most recent info hunt was 4 days ago. Saturday night, I was at a bar with my best friend, who was smoking on the patio. He ran into my ex and said my ex quickly extricated himself from the conversation and even left the bar, presumably because he knew I was there. My ex is still on tons of dating apps, so I know he hasn't met anyone. Randomly, a couple of days ago, he blocked me on Facebook. Note, I have not had any contact with him during the last month and have not made any attempts to nag him or talk to him. Strict NC. During the breakup, I have taken steps to improve myself drastically and show I am having a happy life. My ex knows this I suspect, because we have 50 mutual friends on Facebook. NC has been strict on both parts and we had not encountered each other, until last night. I was at a bar with my best friend seated in a booth by the patio door. We were talking about my ex, when he walked through the door. He saw me and looked shocked. He literally looked like he was about to die. I simply said to him "Hey ______". He said nothing and went straight into the restroom. He came out and went to my friend, hugged him and said "It's so good to see you", while snubbing me totally. My friend and I left. My ex then texted my friend and said "So good to see u tonight". He knew I was with my friend, so I suspect this was an attempt at getting a reaction out of me. Please note that my ex is very egotistical and likes to be in control. He has a lot of insecurities and he needs attention in order to feel validated. With that said, I kind of want to try again. I refuse to be the one to break first, because I know that's what he wants. Thoughts? How should I proceed. I completed 30 days of NC... Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 I'm not sure why you would want him back. His behavior is immature and rude. He doesn't seem in the slightest way interested in getting back together with you. From what you've described, it sounds like he is happily moving on. I imagine blocking you from FB is just a means of blocking you from his life as much as possible, not a good sign of wanting a reconciliation. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 I kind of want to try again. I refuse to be the one to break first Then your only option is to sit there looking pretty and hope he changes his mind. I wouldn't hold your breath, though. He doesn't seem the slightest bit interested in trying again, otherwise he would be talking to you, saying "I would like to try again". Unless he also refuses to be the one to break first, because he knows that's what you want...? Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 Its really obvious and off putting when an ex can see you are clearly doing the "Im so happy dance" on FB and making sure your in the bars that put you at an advantage to see him. You are in superficial NC. Tighten up your stance he sees through it and if he IS able to get updates through friends thats just fishing. HE isnt reaching out so take a social media break and a more mature resolve to truly move on. Who cares what he or his friends are doing/ saying? Your healing so take space from the circle so you can truly move on and dont broadcast your life on fb hoping to catch his attention from mutual friends..its immature and so transparent when people do that. Link to post Share on other sites
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