Looks Don't Guarantee Success

[Recon33]

To be fair, good looking guys with high confidence and social skills can be creepy too.

 

The guy I remember who was labeled creepy most was a guy who almost every woman thought was good looking and hot. He would also hit on much younger women and try and hang out with all the good looking women.

 

Skeezy is the word.

 

Of course, the difference is he had more than his share of women.

 

Oh, I'm well aware of this as well.

[Mannibalector]

HAHA! I'm a hetero male and I can tell you what a good-looking guy's face looks like. Does that mean I want to have sex with the guy? No. I think the Lamborghini Aventador SV is the sexiest car on the planet. I promise you that I do not want to have sex with a car or stick my penis up its exhaust pipe.

 

Well I find male faces to be butt-ugly myself. I can appreciate a good-looking male body, but unlike a face, that's actually quantifiable. I mean, if said guy is disfigured or has a massive nose or something, then yeah, I could see where women generally might find him less attractive. Going back to cars, women are like super sports cars, and men are like city buses. I have a lot of interest in the former but none at all in the latter. Hope that makes sense.

 

The fact that you went out of your way to say that implies, to me, that maybe you don't have a great face. If that's the case, just do the best you can (cool haircut, good teeth, etc) and focus on your strengths.

 

How did you come to that conclusion? For what it's worth, I have had girls smile at me while I pass by; I'm just too dumb to figure out how to talk to them. Also, the one and only girl I ever hooked up with told me I looked like a model, which subsequently inflated my head to the size of a weather balloon. So I think I'm fine in the looks department. I just need better social skills. But that's one thing that I have absolutely no idea how to get better at. Being in college, I'm around groups of people all the time, so I've had plenty of practice. I guess I need...more practice?

 

As for the whole finding shy and awkward people creepy thing, I'd say that could come from an awkward person saying the wrong thing without meaning to, and wind up sounding like a psychopath. Real creepy people can be anything. The shy ones probably spend their time in their room stalking women on social media before going out to ambush them, while outgoing creeps do stuff like hit on women aggressively without taking no for an answer. But that's beside the point of this thread.

[Mrlonelyone]

I just wanted to add to this. Think of all the beautiful women in hollywood and the like around the world who are single. Looks are no guaranteee of relationship success.

 

You know what seems to be to me. Being willing to let someone treat you like crap. If you let someone treat you like a dog you will have a relationship. If however you have boundaries and self esteem and enforce those your relationships will end ... unless you find a really good match. Most people never find a really good match. Most people who are long time married simply have one person putting up with the other for the sake of keeping a relationship.

 

Think ... how many people in couples that you know seem all that happy?