WellHelloThere Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 I have been talking to someone I was with several years ago. She contacted me about 6 months ago and I was dating someome then. I just emailed her a couple times and stopped replying. I've been single for a few months. I decided to message her on facebook. And we have been chatting every day for about a week and talked on the phone once. This is long distance. She set up a time to call me. She's pretty busy and works a lot. So it's hard to talk on the phone for a long time if she is working that day. So last night she messaged me and asked if I'd be available to talk on the phone before work. We set the time for 8 am. Anyway, she didn't call. She probably woke up too late and had to rush to get ready for work. She just messaged me late morning sending a picture. No mention of the call. This isn't a huge problem for me, because she does contact me regularly. But still I don't want to act as if it's ok to not call and not say anything. I didn't respond to her message with the photo. Just looked at it. And she can tell that I saw it. I don't mean to play a game. But I don't want to act like I'm available to talk or message me all the time, if she isn't always following through. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 This is just a friendship thing now, yes? If so, you're massively overthinking. Would you be like this if one of your mates forgot to call? Talk when it's convenient. Don't talk if it's not. It really is this simple. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 This is just a friendship thing now, yes? If so, you're massively overthinking. Would you be like this if one of your mates forgot to call? Talk when it's convenient. Don't talk if it's not. It really is this simple. Yes, too much, too early. I might be a little put off if this were more of an established thing. Otherwise, oh well. Mentioning it at this point would come across as clingy/needy behavior -- sitting by the phone waiting for her calls. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted June 30, 2016 Author Share Posted June 30, 2016 This is just a friendship thing now, yes? If so, you're massively overthinking. Would you be like this if one of your mates forgot to call? Talk when it's convenient. Don't talk if it's not. It really is this simple. We aren't talking like friends. We talk like we both like each other more than friends. But still, I agree that I'm overthinking it. I does bother me that she set up a time to call and didn't call. I don't think it's about forgetting. I just started to get invested in it. Because I can't do anything about her being flaky, I'm just going to back off being available to her. That way it won't matter so much to me. I guess she'll figure it out. Confrontation has never change things. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 Do you really want to rekindle a long distance thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted June 30, 2016 Author Share Posted June 30, 2016 Yes, too much, too early. I might be a little put off if this were more of an established thing. Otherwise, oh well. Mentioning it at this point would come across as clingy/needy behavior -- sitting by the phone waiting for her calls. I'm not mentioning it. I set my alarm so that I would be up in time for her call that she scheduled. I wouldn't sit by the phone waiting, if she didn't ask me to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted June 30, 2016 Author Share Posted June 30, 2016 Do you really want to rekindle a long distance thing? I'm just thinking about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted June 30, 2016 Share Posted June 30, 2016 I'm just thinking about it. Ugh. What a colossal waste of your time, purposely committing yourself to a Skype and telephone 'relationship.' Seriously. Such a waste. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted June 30, 2016 Author Share Posted June 30, 2016 Ugh. What a colossal waste of your time, purposely committing yourself to a Skype and telephone 'relationship.' Seriously. Such a waste. I haven't committed myself to anything. I have time to talk to her. That's not a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted July 6, 2016 Author Share Posted July 6, 2016 Does someone who wrote this seem like a waste of time: Can't forget the first time I saw you [/url] Everybody was in dark clothes you were wearing something in red with your big blue eyes uuuff I died That day Hahha I saw you and I like that you always know everything That's what I like the most And you are like me We like build things with our hands Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 OP, when someone, anyone, tells me they'll call and doesn't follow through it's a red flag for me. I like to form relationships of all types with people who keep their word in little and big things. Missing calling me once wouldn't be a deal breaker (and I'd appreciate an explanation as to what happened to keep the person from calling) but if it began to happen here and there I'd probably not continue the R. Link to post Share on other sites
Deidre Posted July 6, 2016 Share Posted July 6, 2016 The time of day would matter. I'm not a morning person and if I woke up to wait on someone to call, and he didn't...I'd not be happy. Especially with no apology. But, I'd give the benefit of the doubt. One time, okay. If it were to happen again, then I'd not consider pursuing her. Long distance relationships are super hard, I had one for a few months, and NEVERRRR AGAIN. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WellHelloThere Posted July 6, 2016 Author Share Posted July 6, 2016 OP, when someone, anyone, tells me they'll call and doesn't follow through it's a red flag for me. I like to form relationships of all types with people who keep their word in little and big things. Missing calling me once wouldn't be a deal breaker (and I'd appreciate an explanation as to what happened to keep the person from calling) but if it began to happen here and there I'd probably not continue the R. Yeah, I agree Link to post Share on other sites
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