kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Where do you find good guys? I don't want to meet someone in the bars and just not sure where to go. Any ideas? can a girl confront a male before he confronts you if he even will. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted June 27, 2005 Moderators Share Posted June 27, 2005 Anywhere there's a cute guy who may be single... that's where ya meet em. And on the approach question.... YEP! A girl sure can approach a guy she likes that she'd like to get to know better. Some will say it comes off as desparate. Don't listen to them. Just don't sound desparate when you meet the guy - just nice, friendly, approachable... etc. I dare ya to do it next time you see a guy Curt Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder Where do you find good guys? stealing them away from your girlfriends is always good. doesn't matter whether they are married or just dating Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 I don't. I live my life the way I want to, enjoying my hobbies, and happen to stumble over men. It's like the saying A watched pot never boils or whatever it is. Do things in your life that make you happy, and eventually you'll find someone. Don't make the focus be on finding someone. I met my last, oh, 40 boyfriends without trying to. They just happened to be in the right place at the right time, and I was in that "La la la" happy go lucky mood, doing my own thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted June 27, 2005 Moderators Share Posted June 27, 2005 You're 100% correct in that having a happy-go-lucky attitude helps greatly also. I'm sure we would all agree though, that in this day and age, there should be no problem with a girl showing her sincere interest in a guy. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by Curt You're 100% correct in that having a happy-go-lucky attitude helps greatly also. I'm sure we would all agree though, that in this day and age, there should be no problem with a girl showing her sincere interest in a guy. Curt Definitely, but trying too hard is a turn off, I don't care which gender you are. Since I've been an adult I've found it really easy to talk to ANYONE. Genuine confidence and a friendly, but not pushy, demeanor can win most people over. If you do that, chances are the guy will show interest in you before you even have to do anything. But no, I'm not of the middle-ages mindset. However, I have learned that I enjoy being pursued rather than pursuing, and my boyfriend prefers pursuing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kinder Posted June 27, 2005 Author Share Posted June 27, 2005 I am living my life but I wouldn't mind someone. I am also not the type to date 40+ guys. Not that that is a bad thing but that is me. Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 Originally posted by kinder I am living my life but I wouldn't mind someone. I am also not the type to date 40+ guys. Not that that is a bad thing but that is me. When you're 30 years old and have been dating since you were 15, you find that 40 guys isn't all that many. Especially in high school. I think the majority of them were month-long relationships in high school. Of course, it's nice knowing that I can attract that many men. And even nicer to know that I usually did the dumping (and for good reason). My point is that if you live your life and enjoy it, you won't have to look too hard. Link to post Share on other sites
MindNumb Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 1. Chatrooms/Forums...............just kidding 2. Bars.........................................Don't forget your beer goggles 3. Laundrymats......................In your designer sweats 4. Movie Theatres...................Look way in the back row 5. Taco Bell.......................Sitting in his car eating tacos by himself 6. Barnes & Noble.............In the self help section 7. Mall........the lone walker that gives the appearance of being on a mission 8. Last but not least...........go door to door trying to sell yourself as a lonely person in search of another. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Originally posted by kinder Where do you find good guys? I don't want to meet someone in the bars and just not sure where to go. Any ideas? can a girl confront a male before he confronts you if he even will. Aww shucks. I was hoping that you would be able to tell me where to find a good gal? Link to post Share on other sites
Opium Posted July 6, 2005 Share Posted July 6, 2005 Usually the good ones are taken and the ones that aren't taken, are hiding. You can have some friends introduce you to some of their bf's friends. That always works well. You can also meet at a coffee place, bookstores, and of course even though you don't want to meet one at the bar, it's the 'kind' of bar you go to. You can meet a lot of new people/men in a bar it's just a matter of being approachable and what type of men you like. Thiers nothing wrong with going to a bar or even an happy hour to meet men. Link to post Share on other sites
guitarmaim Posted July 12, 2005 Share Posted July 12, 2005 kinder You find good men in church. If you don't want that good of a man you must decide how good does he have to be. It balances out : The more stable he is the less adventurous he will be. The more professional he is the less the less likely he is to do something out of the ordinary: A professional would say that something out of the ordinary is "out of the box" . So if you see the pattern you can plug in the values you want in the left side and write it's opposite on the other side. you will see that if a man is one thing he will not also be it's opposite. Example: You will not find a man who likes to spend Saturdays drinking beer and watching a ball game with his buds, that will also enjoy shopping with you on Saturdays. Even if all his buds can't come one day he would rather watch the game alone than go shopping. I think I will call this Guitarmain's Oxymoronic scale of of male predictability. ...so when you say you want a good man you must be more specific: is he GOOD about cleaning house , is he good with kids , is he good in the yard, is he good in bed. What ever he is good in he will be bad in something thats on the other side: if he is good in bed he may not be good out of the bed. If he is good at managing people hem may not be manageable, if he is good with kids he may not be good with adults: he may treat you like a kid. There is a lot of variables as to what the opposite is, you must use your imagination , but when you say you want a good man make sure you specify: Is he a good worker or is he a good bank robber. Kinder this is my first reply\ time on this forum I hope I did not over shoot your question. I just was having some fun. Instead of Guitarmain I should have called myself Swami. good luck with your quest. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I don't think there's one place. But I can tell you one place you WILL NOT: the bar. Link to post Share on other sites
cubbbb Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 I don't think there's one place. But I can tell you one place you WILL NOT: the bar. Please. Sure you can. I work at home on the internet all day by myself, and I go out to the local bar for some social interaction. Gets kind of lonely being by yourself all day. Sure, you don't want to find a guy that is falling off his bar stool, but there are plenty of good guys in bars looking for good girls. Plenty of guys who don't know where to meet women. Vice Versa. You just have to filter out all of the riff raff. Kind of a blanket statement don't ya think? Kind of like me saying that you can't find a good woman who hangs out in the library because she would bore me to death. Do women that read bore me to death..? No! Do Women that CAN'T read excite me? NO! Would a woman that would rather sit there reading a novel all day and night rather than to go out and do something fun be a TURN OFF to me? Yep, sure would. Yet, i still don't think that all women that hang out in the library are like that Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly29 Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Suggested approach for shy people to meet someone in a casual way5.. 1. Take a piece of paper and a pen or open up a wordpad, whatever you prefer and write down at least 10 different place to meet men/women. Any places that pop up in your head. Think about places you love going to, is there a possibility you might meet someone there? Put 'em on a list. Try to come up with at least 10, it's not as hard as you think. It'll be difficult at first, but you'll be surprized how fast it'll go after you get half way through. Do an online search if you need to. You'll most likely come up with a lot more than 10. 2. Pick 3-5 top choices from your list that apeal to you the most. Pick a suitable day of the week and an hour when it's convenient for you to go there. Say, Thursday night 6-8, go to Barns'n'Noble to just hang out. 3. Go. 4. Keep going. IMPORTANT: do NOT expect to meet somone right then and there. Start off with just going there and hanging out. Remember, you're just going there to spend free time. After a while. Scan for people. See if there's anyone attractive to you. Women: Make sure you look at his ring finger first, then try to make an eye contact. If he looks back, think about this post on the forum, that will make you smile naturally. Or so I hope. Let him start a conversation with you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Originally posted by kinder Where do you find good guys? I don't want to meet someone in the bars and just not sure where to go. Any ideas? can a girl confront a male before he confronts you if he even will. Church. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted July 15, 2005 Share Posted July 15, 2005 Originally posted by Moose Church. Or on that note: spiritual centres. Link to post Share on other sites
seabiscuit Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 i think you can find a good guy anywhere you just have to know what to look for. and good thing you are willing to go up to a guy because most good guys i know wouldn't go up to a girl. and if they think you sound desperate they are probably not a good guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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