theendiscoming Posted July 1, 2016 Share Posted July 1, 2016 (edited) I was in library. A female smiled and long eye contact at me. Moment later I saw the female again. I wanted approach so I asked phone number. I got replied “Absolutely not! What the ****!” yelled in quiet library. Ok, I think maybe it is wrong to ask phone number. I don’t have dating stuff knowledge, because never had dating. But why not said just no? [] Edited July 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language ~6 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted July 1, 2016 Share Posted July 1, 2016 Well my take? Sounds like you have very poor social skills. I make eye contact and smile at strangers ALL THE TIME. Daily! Several times a day. Doesn't mean I want their number. As to why her reaction was so intense - who knows, maybe it was a mix of your misinterpretation and poor social skills. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author theendiscoming Posted July 1, 2016 Author Share Posted July 1, 2016 Brief smile and eye contact I don't care. Smiled and eye contact for 5 seconds or more. Are these same? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted July 1, 2016 Share Posted July 1, 2016 Maybe a little conversation up front would have helped. Maybe she was staring because your pants were unzipped, etc. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
redbaron007 Posted July 1, 2016 Share Posted July 1, 2016 Could also be a culture thing....are you a foreign student from a country X studying in country Y? As Marc has pointed out, definitely start with conversation, i.e. an "opener". Could be generic, as in:"Hi - how's your day going?" or if you're confident, tell her specifically what attracts you to her:"Hi - you look nice in that outfit (or earrings or shoes or whatever)"...or even better: "You have the most beautiful hair"... I can guarantee that unless the girl is having a particularly bad day, she will smile and thank you when you are paying her a sincere compliment. Note that non-sincere compliments are obvious to most women, so don't even bother faking. After that, you talk for a bit so she's comfortable with you, and if you still like her, only then do you ask for her number. And if you're new at this, you'll have quite a few mishaps but you will get better at it. Remember: always be courteous and sincere, even if the girl declines your request. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Hyperion227 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 You should have given her a cheeky pinch on the bum. That tends to diffuse tensions in these situations. Link to post Share on other sites
MGX Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 I was in library. A female smiled and long eye contact at me. Moment later I saw the female again. I wanted approach so I asked phone number. I got replied “Absolutely not! What the ****!” yelled in quiet library. Ok, I think maybe it is wrong to ask phone number. I don’t have dating stuff knowledge, because never had dating. But why not said just no? [] Even if the OP misread her as being interested, that was an extreme reaction on HER part. I'm not sure why people think that it's his fault. Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Who cares, mate? Tell her not to have a cow, and move on. Plenty more fish Never let rejection get to you. Especially crazy rejection. I'm telling you that 99% of women do not act like that. You do need to work up to the phone number though. Vibe a little more. Learn to enjoy each step. I enjoy the asking, the texting (perhaps a little too much). Don't go so much for the throat. But good on you for having the guts to go for what you want. Maybe you need just a little more tact, is all. Link to post Share on other sites
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