Author bathtub-row Posted July 3, 2016 Author Share Posted July 3, 2016 I think any answer you give him makes him think he is privy to your dating life. I view it as taking your power back by telling him that's not info he needs to know. Same goes for the pictures of your house...send a clear message that show she is not part of your personal life anymore. I hear you on this one. It's a complicated relationship, for sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shadowburn Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 I really don't think you owed him any answer at all. He should've minded his own business, you've been over for years and what's you personal life like, he lost the privilege to know long time ago. Best wishes xo Link to post Share on other sites
Rea Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 No I don't think there's any real reason why he asked that question. Except perhaps his ego wanting to know, which means very little to me. Even if he were jealous as hell, it still wouldn't mean anything. I learned a long time ago that whatever we had wasn't enough so it doesn't matter and I don't ponder his motives. The situation is bizarre to me, though, that we sit there 12 yrs later, him asking me that question. During that visit, whenever he had the opportunity, he'd stay in the back in a group of people as they were walking away and he would turn to look back at me. I think there's that part of us that misses what we had. Do I still love him? That's hard to answer. Because of the history and friendship between us, I'd say yes that I love him but it's buried way beneath the surface and I don't consciously feel it. If he died in a car accident today, I'd be very sad. Could those feelings be rekindled under certain circumstances? Probably. I think when you truly love someone, that never really dies away completely. I think the point to my post is to give others in this type of situation some insight as to how entangled these relationships are, even 12 yrs down the road. Is it any wonder why so many struggle with them for so long? I don't know, but I expect he was looking for an invite or an ego boost. If not, why ask - unless he was making polite conversation; in which case he could have asked about the weather These relationships are so complex, as it's now proved even years later. I suggest you keep you guard up (as I'm sure you do) around him, just in case... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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