lericenciel Posted July 1, 2016 Share Posted July 1, 2016 I know this sounds dumb, but I want to find out you think. A girl I met on tinder liked me. We never kissed or had sex. After a few dates and a few weeks, she confessed that she really liked me and wondered how I felt. I told her that I liked her at the beginning but because we seemed to be more friendly, the moment passed and now I feel more like friends who hang out. She too thought the moment might have passed, and she tried to talk me into a fwb route. I gently snubbed the idea. I genuinely liked her company, as a friend and I didn't really want to do sex stuff with her. A week has passed and I gave her a message to see how things were going. Her replies are short cold and bitter. Why? I made sure I didn't take advantage of her at all. All we did was hang out. Why the sudden turn table? Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 Because, girls / women do not handle rejection well AT ALL. Dudes are used to it and realize it is a part of life and can shake it off better with a girl to whom we are not attached (total opposite when we are). Hit on a girl and she blows you off. Sucks but you move onto the next and get over it. When I was young, I was driving around 3 people in my car. One of which was my friends ex. I felt strange because we had a rule not to go after each other's ex'es. I went as far to go by his house to get him but he was asleep. I felt bad because it was the girls birthday. I made it clear to her nothing would happen between us. The other guys left so I took her home. When I dropped her off she jumped on me and asked me to kiss her. I told her no and sent her on her way. She never said a word to me ever again and was visibly angry with me when she saw me anytime afterwards. Scorn of rejection. I may find myself dating again (ugh) depending on how my situation works out so I was looking at Bumble as I haven't dated in 7 years. Many of the reviews from women complain that the app sucks because they reach out to guys and get no response. Sucks, doesn't it? Welcome to the world of being a man. I have to ask though, if you were attracted to her why not take her up on the FB offer? You sound young so why not? Is she nuts or just not that attractive? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 She went cold because she's not looking for a friend. She's looking for a potential romantic partner. In her mind, there's no sense in continuing to hang out when you ultimately want different things from each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 She went cold because she's not looking for a friend. She's looking for a potential romantic partner. In her mind, there's no sense in continuing to hang out when you ultimately want different things from each other. She wants a boyfriend not a boy friend. Link to post Share on other sites
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