Are most girls willing to just meet a guy for sex?

[ilovemusic3]

Since most guys are just trying to hookup on Tinder and other free dating sites does that mean most girls are willing to just go and do that? Because that's appalling to me.

[losangelena]

"Most?" I don't know about most. I mean, how many "girls" are there in the world?

 

Some certainly are, so I think the men who are interested in easy hookups look for them on dating sites in the hopes that the women they interact will give them what they want. I do not think that automatically means that "most girls" go for that.

 

Whether or not that's "appalling" is a matter of opinion. Again, SOME women do seek out casual physical relationships. I'd hardly say that's "appalling."

[TunaCat]

Why is the way some women approach sex "appalling" to you?

 

How does their attitudes about hookups affect you?

 

I'm actually not trying to start an argument. I'm just curious about why the decisions some women make about sex, seems to bother you.

[Buddhist]

It's only appalling if you are willing to judge women by your their sexual habits and not men by the same yardstick, which appears to be evident from your post. You aren't appalled that most guys are on internet sites seeking sexual hookups? Hmmm.....someone has some interesting internal conflicts going on.

[Jabron1]

Since most guys are just trying to hookup on Tinder and other free dating sites does that mean most girls are willing to just go and do that?

 

Yeah. But almost all the ones that contacted me online blatantly looking for that were below my league. So, it just depends on the guy.

 

Because that's appalling to me.

 

It is what it is.

[SoulCat]

I've hooked up just for just sex.

 

I was not looking for any kind of relationship, but I did have physical needs.

 

Does that make me or my choices appalling? In your eyes, maybe.

Most people will just think I'm a living, breathing human being.

 

 

At the end of the day, it was my choice, and I stand by it.

[RecentChange]

Most? Naw.

 

Some certainly. Do I judge them? Hahaha not at all (that would be hypocritical of me).

 

If you are "appalled" simple, don't try to jump into bed with any of them.

[jen1447]

Are most girls willing to just meet a guy for sex?

 

I wouldn't say most, but probably more than you think (or hope).

[MissBee]

Since most guys are just trying to hookup on Tinder and other free dating sites does that mean most girls are willing to just go and do that? Because that's appalling to me.

 

I don't know about most, but just like some men just want sex, some women want that too...why is it appalling that women are looking for sex but you didn't bat an eyelash when you mentioned most guys on Tinder are?

[King Me]

Ladies, is this really the time to bring up the double standard talk? We all know that this can be a double standard, but it's not like there aren't others that work in women's favor.

The topic of this thread appears to be how it's "appalling" for women to do something that evidently is not appalling for men to do. Assuming the OP is not a "lady," blame him for bringing up the double standard talk.

[losangelena]

Yes, I would say most women are willing to meet a guy just for sex. Many of them will lie and say they aren't about that, or this time is an exception for them, but for the right guy, they are happy to hook up.

 

Ladies, is this really the time to bring up the double standard talk? We all know that this can be a double standard, but it's not like there aren't others that work in women's favor.

 

Oh jesus, spare us.

 

Who, aside from OP, is clutching their pearls here?

 

(Looks around; no one)

 

[ilovemusic3]

I'm appalled about the guys wanting to do this too, just even more so about girls. Don't they care they could get pregnant or a disease by having sex with a stranger from the internet? And how could they be alone with them right away, they could be crazy or a killer.

 

And it affects me because I can't find anyone to date because guys just keep wanting to hookup and if I don't want to they can find other girls who do. But if no girl was willing to do that then this wouldn't be a problem.

[Dark Horse]

If you're horny, then just wank one or watch porn. That will fulfill your sexual urges. But it wont fulfill the loneliness void because even though we crave sex, we also long for intimacy and somebody who loves us that isn't a family member or a platonic friend.

 

So yeah, don't be afraid to wank one if you're horny and you ain't going to get any anyways.

 

I definitely coudn't pass for a *** boy. I woudn't want to anyways, that's not my style.

[Dark Horse]

And it affects me because I can't find anyone to date because guys just keep wanting to hookup and if I don't want to they can find other girls who do. But if no girl was willing to do that then this wouldn't be a problem.

 

 

Maybe you're looking in the wrong places.

 

Also another thing to consider is some of these nice and genuine guys who want actual relationships act like f boys where they hit you up with a pickup line because their male buddies or some internet dating advice designed by an f boy is teaching these guys who genuinely want a relationship that they need to act like players and "bad boys" to attract the women because they're led to believe that nice guys finish last. The problem is that by acting this way, girls think they're f boys or players so the guys are misrepresenting themselves and what happens is that they're scaring the relationship girls away whens that who they really want.

Edited July 2, 2016 by Dark Horse

[TheArtist]

In the interests of science, I have spent the past week researching this very thing, and you'll be pleased to know that the answer is none. There are no women that are willing to do this, in fact some just start screaming when I approach.

 

Hope that helps.

[Justanaverageguy]

This post says more about your own attitudes to sex then it does anything else.

 

These days what you find is a lot of people see sex as something fun and enjoyable to do. That's for both men and women. That's not to say they aren't potentially interested in finding something more - they just don't see sex as something taboo or to be ashamed of. They don't feel they have to "save it" until they are in a serious relationship. They feel like it's a normal part of life to be explored and enjoyed.

 

Relationships don't have to follow the script religion or your parents gave you. You are free to explore yours however you choose .... Others are free to explore there's however they choose. Concentrate on finding someone who is looking for the same thing as you rather then complaining about, criticizing or judging others who do things differently.

Edited July 2, 2016 by Justanaverageguy

[Buddhist]

And it affects me because I can't find anyone to date because ....if no girl was willing to do that then this wouldn't be a problem.

 

If the world has to change so you can find a date, I'd suggest you've got bigger problems than not wanting to hook up. Once again it's the I can't get a date and it's all women's fault....line of logic. Wow, it's 2016 when are people going to take some responsibility for themselves?

[Justanaverageguy]

If the world has to change so you can find a date, I'd suggest you've got bigger problems than not wanting to hook up. Once again it's the I can't get a date and it's all women's fault....line of logic. Wow, it's 2016 when are people going to take some responsibility for themselves?

 

I would also suggest that it shows the OP just doesn't understand women and this seems to be very typical for many guys in his shoes. They don't actually understand that women are sexual creatures just as much as men. I remember when this really dawned on me when I think I was about 16 years old and I realized society had some what mislead me. That's not to say they are all raging nymphomaniacs or anything like that... Just that sex is every bit as important to them as men. Unsuccessful guys really don't seem to get this or understand sexual attraction is essentially the most important element if you want to get a girl. A lot seem to have some weird impression that girls don't even really like sex they just want a "nice man". They seem to be genuinely shocked that women have strong sexual urges themselves

[Jabron1]

I would also suggest that it shows the OP just doesn't understand women and this seems to be very typical for many guys in his shoes.

 

People are missing the point here.

 

OP is a woman.

 

She's arguing that other women giving easy sex devalues her.

[Buddhist]

I would also suggest that it shows the OP just doesn't understand women and this seems to be very typical for many guys in his shoes. They don't actually understand that women are sexual creatures just as much as men. I remember when this really dawned on me when I think I was about 16 years old and I realized society had some what mislead me. That's not to say they are all raging nymphomaniacs or anything like that... Just that sex is every bit as important to them as men. Unsuccessful guys really don't seem to get this or understand sexual attraction is essentially the most important element if you want to get a girl. A lot seem to have some weird impression that girls don't even really like sex they just want a "nice man". They seem to be genuinely shocked that women have strong sexual urges themselves

 

Can't un-see....

[SoulCat]

I'm appalled about the guys wanting to do this too, just even more so about girls. Don't they care they could get pregnant or a disease by having sex with a stranger from the internet?

 

What's with this double standard?

Men can equally catch an STD, and get a woman pregnant.

 

Besides, have you never heard of condoms and birth control?

 

 

And it affects me because I can't find anyone to date because guys just keep wanting to hookup and if I don't want to they can find other girls who do. But if no girl was willing to do that then this wouldn't be a problem.

 

Riiiiight....so it's women like me that prevent you from landing a date?

 

Just so you're clear, I did not want to 'date'. That was the whole premise of me hooking up just for sex. That's all I was interested in.

 

No dinner, cinema, drinks, walks in the park.

No dating.

Just sex.

[PrettyEmily77]

Since most guys are just trying to hookup on Tinder and other free dating sites does that mean most girls are willing to just go and do that? Because that's appalling to me.

 

After a long and extensive research based on high-volume data and carefully selected criteria and subjects, yet another finding of the illustrious Dr Gunther (this time when he was working at the highly regarded Institute of Casual Sex of St Petersburg) decisively shows that what other people do is none of your business, unless you are planning on boning them yourself (and even then it's still none of your business).

[Buddhist]

People are missing the point here.

 

OP is a woman.

 

She's arguing that other women giving easy sex devalues her.

 

This just gets funnier and funnier. My response still stands, if 'she' needs the world to change so she can get a date, then seriously she needs to develop some life skills. No-one is owed a date in life, I've spent plenty of my time dateless and didn't need to blame it on Tinder chicks. What her sex is the only bargaining chip she's got, and even then it's only worth something if everyone else leaves the room?

Edited July 2, 2016 by Buddhist

[Jabron1]

No-one is owed a date in life

 

I agree.

 

What her sex is the only bargaining chip she's got

 

That is the general dynamic.

 

even then it's only worth something if everyone else leaves the room?

 

She's obviously frustrated.

 

it affects me because I can't find anyone to date because guys just keep wanting to hookup and if I don't want to they can find other girls who do. But if no girl was willing to do that then this wouldn't be a problem.

 

"Sisterhood, listen up! Stop having NSA sex, and men will be easier for me to control".

 

Not very realistic is it?

[Justanaverageguy]

People are missing the point here.

 

OP is a woman.

 

She's arguing that other women giving easy sex devalues her.

 

Haha ok right - obviously not paying enough attention. The way it was written came across as if she was a guy.

 

So she is essentially angry that other women being ok with casual sex is ruining her chances with men / devaluing ?!? Basically same advice as before live and let live. Your morals don't apply to others most certainly not everyone thinks sex devalues people.