BakaShinji Posted July 2, 2016 Share Posted July 2, 2016 Hello! So, I have issue with my relationship as of now. Just going to give a little background information to help out a bit: My boyfriend and I started dating during the beginning of this past semester. During the semester we were together nearly all of the time and now that we're in summer recess we have ran into quite a problem. The long distance sort of problem. Not too long after we go on break he tells me that he feels like he's in a relationship by his self, which totally took me for surprise because we were literally just talking the night before he said that and just about everyday or every other day before that. With this information, I started texting him and calling him more often, but now that he said what he said I feel as if HE is actually the one not contributing. I was and am the only one calling texting, and I am the one sending loving gestures. I've told him how I feel a few days ago and he apologized and said he will do better, but ya know what they say "Changed behavior is the best apology" and he hasn't attempted yet... So what's the deal? I'm not really sure what I should do now or how I should feel. Wait a bit longer before talking to him about it again? And sorry for the relationship drama, I just really don't have anyone that I feel comfortable enough to talk about it with. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Hi Baja, guess you are feeling lost but you have to be calm and collected about your relationship with your boyfriend. Firstly, how was your relationship while you were together in college? Was it really very close or was one sided with all the effort to keep the balloon inflated all on you or did he contribute fifty per cent of the effort? Secondly, just keep in mind that he might have hooked up eoyh an old flame at home now that he is away from you. Thirdly, he may have thought things over and decided that he didn't want to be with you any more. There ate a lot of possible scenarios and things will become clear ad time goes by. In the mean time you should start trying to disengage yourself emotionally from him so as to avoid any heartbreak later on when you get back from your break. It seems to me that your relationship is more or less dead in it's tracks but you ate the best judge of that. Whatever the outcome I wish you the very best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BakaShinji Posted July 3, 2016 Author Share Posted July 3, 2016 Hi Baja, guess you are feeling lost but you have to be calm and collected about your relationship with your boyfriend. Firstly, how was your relationship while you were together in college? Was it really very close or was one sided with all the effort to keep the balloon inflated all on you or did he contribute fifty per cent of the effort? Secondly, just keep in mind that he might have hooked up eoyh an old flame at home now that he is away from you. Thirdly, he may have thought things over and decided that he didn't want to be with you any more. There ate a lot of possible scenarios and things will become clear ad time goes by. In the mean time you should start trying to disengage yourself emotionally from him so as to avoid any heartbreak later on when you get back from your break. It seems to me that your relationship is more or less dead in it's tracks but you ate the best judge of that. Whatever the outcome I wish you the very best. I'd say it was relatively 50/50. Only thing is that he showed very jealous/controlling traits at times. Like he practically assumed I liked just about every guy. That's what I feared, honestly. I feel like all of his jealousy stemmed from him doing the things that he doesn't want me to do. And not to mention there are a few old flames that do actually live near him. Thank you for your help! You practically confined what I already believed. But I'll just wait and see what the future has in store for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 If you don't call him first and wait a day or so, does he never call you? Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but it sounds like he got a taste of a close distance relationship. Prepare yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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