Ex reached out then said I should visit her? Thoughts?

[AmorFou]

update for everyone...

 

So we were exchanging messages back and forth. The ex tells me she misses living in my city and never thought she would. I'm being flirty so I tell her "no you just miss me its ok" and she says "of course I miss you! Despite some fighting we had so muc fun!"

 

So I ask her if she remembers suggesting that I come visit her. She replies "Yes I do. You told me that you'd let me know when you were back from vacation. Since I never heard from you I just assumed you didn't want to come"

 

Wow. So that's definitey not how the conversation between us ended. I remember it so clearly I would put my life on the line that it was the opposite: I told her when I'd be back and she should contact me then to which she said "Ok I'll text you!!"

 

So, after this happened I was torn. Do I give her the benefit of the doubt because she's a little scatter brained and may have not heard me correctly and is also programmed to let the man always do the chasing.

 

Or, do I tell her to **** off because it seems that she's just further trying to mess with my head. This really upsets me because I thought I knew her and hate the thought that she would sink that low. That is some next level sociopathic behavior right there.

 

Of course, I want to know so I give her the benefit of the doubt and tell her how I remember our conversation ending. She replies "hmmm idk then. I guess it was just miscommunication. Typical us haha"

 

At this point I'm seeing red. But I respond "haha yeah maybe. Well, I'm back now". So I'm putting myself out there, keeping in mind the advice given on this forum about how her behavior once I start to pursue will tell me everything I need to know.

 

No response from her.

 

I want to settle this once and for all and ask her to stop contacting me in this manner and at all as its a setback to my recovery. So I message her the next day "hey phone call one night soon? How about Thursday?" She replies back that works for her.

 

So Thursday I message her saying that I'l be back around 4 and ask if that's a good time to call with her schedule.

 

No response that day or all weekend. Sunday I deleted and blocked her number and on all social media.

 

Of course, I had to look at her fb one last time to block her. Didn't see her with another guy but it still hurt.

 

I just don't understand how she can treat me like this. She talked about a future with me and cried over me many times so I know she had real feelings? I'm very confused and now that I've blocked her its hitting me that its finally over. 7 months after first breaking up and I've made no progress. I've never been more angry, frustrated, and disappointed with someone in my life.

 

Did I do the right thing? Any advice is appreciated you've all been so helpful.

[Jersey born raised]

Your Plan B, nothing more nothing less. Blocking her is exactly the right thing to do. If she somehow manages to contact you simply say you have started to date someone, it may be serious, and you realize it was not fair to your girlfriend and you to continue the relationship with the ex-girlfriend.

 

Post pixs of new girlfriend on Facebook, if you have an account.

 

She will say I had hoped we could be friends. Your response should be "our relationship was to deep for that to happen, if you found someone new your relationship would damaged forever by you thinking, maybe i should go back to (your name)". Notice how I switch who would still have feelings. No kibbles for her doing it that way.