Soill Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Ok so here goes ...please don't judge! I've been with my partner for 20 years and for the past 15 years he's been in and out of jail due to his drug addiction he's currently serving a 4 year sentence and has been inside for 18 months . Now this is were it gets tricky ....I went on a girly night out and ended up chatting to a man anyway he ended up walking me home everything was completely innocent till I got home he asked to use the bathroom I agreed he could then he was a out to leave and he started to kiss me and stupidly enough I kissed him back but that's were it ended just with a kiss! Now I'm completely riddled with guilt I just can't believe what I've done ...I had no intention of being unfaithful and now I've made myself sick with guilt , I can't tell him what has happened he already suffers with depression and its not fair to burden him . How can I get over this ? I realised that I'm lonley and miss companionship . Am I a horrible person ?? Advice needed please 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 You're asking the wrong questions. The question you should be asking is; "Why am I wasting my time with a drug addict". 7 Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 First of all, no, you're not a horrible person. Second, why on earth are you still with your partner??? 20 years and he refuses to get clean?? Do you have kids? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Precisely what I was thinking! Twenty years of your time, and counting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lobe Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 How are your needs being met by your incarcerated partner? Sharing a kiss with a stranger is likely nothing more than a reminder or indication that you are unhappy in your current situation. Spend time reflecting on whether you want another 20 years being lonely. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 snip Ok so here goes ...please don't judge! I've been with my partner for 20 years and for the past 15 years he's been in and out of jail due to his drug addiction he's currently serving a 4 year sentence and has been inside for 18 months . Am I a horrible person ?? Advice needed please No, you're not. But I think it very unwise to maintain a relationship with a junkie convict. End it, and stick kiss whomsoever you please. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 I'm thinking prison is a deal breaker... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Ok so here goes ...please don't judge! I've been with my partner for 20 years and for the past 15 years he's been in and out of jail due to his drug addiction he's currently serving a 4 year sentence and has been inside for 18 months . Now this is were it gets tricky ....I went on a girly night out and ended up chatting to a man anyway he ended up walking me home everything was completely innocent till I got home he asked to use the bathroom I agreed he could then he was a out to leave and he started to kiss me and stupidly enough I kissed him back but that's were it ended just with a kiss! Now I'm completely riddled with guilt I just can't believe what I've done ...I had no intention of being unfaithful and now I've made myself sick with guilt , I can't tell him what has happened he already suffers with depression and its not fair to burden him . How can I get over this ? I realised that I'm lonley and miss companionship . Am I a horrible person ?? Advice needed please I wonder if a psychologist, or some reading about psychology could help you really find a vantage point from which you can then better see and understand just how it is you feel so tethered to that partner who is such a bad individual. I mean, doesn't a good partner simply owe it to his partner to STF out of jail, and to physically be there for that person?? It is wrong to somehow justify and then forgive such irresponsible behavior, and you shouldn't be doing so. Understanding yourself (through the help of professionals) is the first step toward cutting that toxic tie, and I hope that you can do it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 Why are you with a man who is in and out of jail? You're wasting your life and I think you should find yourself a better man. Not a criminal drug using depressive man, who will drag you down. I can't really say much about the OM ... because you have bigger problems my dear. Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted July 3, 2016 Share Posted July 3, 2016 YOu have had a reminder that you are still alive, even though your partner is in prison. For the love of God girl, get rid of the junkie. 20 year of your life have slipped by and when he gets out, I am guessing he will still be a junkie and repeat the performance. I think you probably need some counselling or support of some kind. Do you have family? Poppy. Link to post Share on other sites
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