Not understanding what happened...

[beautiful.121372]

I had an affair with a man who wasn't married but had a girlfriend...

 

We meet online a few months ago, met in person and instantly had chemistry, we continued to talk for about a week and had a planned date set. His girlfriend came home early and so he couldn't meet. In passing I said that maybe this, meaning the relationship, wasn't going to work out. With that he apologized and said, "Ok sorry to bother you" and just left the conversation. I tried to talk to him but no reply, just my text messages left unanswered.

 

A few weeks later he texts me back, after seeing my messages, and tries to explain why he dropped off. I let him know that I really liked him and why leave like that...his explanation was "he didn't have enough time vested in me to try and convince me .... so he left".

 

I felt that was crap but continued to talk to him periodically.

 

I couldn't get him out of my mind and asked him, 2 weeks later, to meet. We did and it was a little awkward. The affection and spark that I saw once...I didn't see. So I left and said Oh well, move on.

 

He texts back and sensed something was wrong and wanted to know why...and I told him, thought things were different and that I didn't feel the chemistry between us as I once had.

 

He wanted to see me again that day, said we could make out a little just to see if the spark is there.

 

We met at a hotel, he kissed me passionately and it was over......our clothes peeled off in 2 minutes....it was amazing.

 

Since then we've met another time, this time it was better than the first time.

 

We've been texting everyday for 2 weeks.

 

Not long lengthy texts, just good morning and good night.

 

He would say that he misses me, and that I make him smile. Something I thought was real and I believed.

 

Well, as of Wednesday night the text messages stopped.

 

I tried to text him but no reply. Nothing....

 

Just dropped me with no explanation.

 

It's not the breakup that's hard, although it is, it's how it happened.

 

Why would he just do that....out of the blue...don't understand.

 

Feel that if I knew why, it would be allot easier to move on.

 

Thank you for reading.....

[Mr. Lucky]

 

Well, as of Wednesday night the text messages stopped.

 

I tried to text him but no reply. Nothing....

 

Just dropped me with no explanation.

 

It's not the breakup that's hard, although it is, it's how it happened.

 

Why would he just do that....out of the blue...don't understand.

 

Feel that if I knew why, it would be allot easier to move on.

 

Thank you for reading.....

 

Sounds like it's as simple as this - he got what he wanted.

 

I've noticed with my teenager he'll buy a video game, play it non-stop in his spare time until he's met the challenge or goal and then put it on a shelf, never to touch it again.

 

Sounds like you've been shelved...

 

Mr. Lucky

[loveisanaction]

What is it that you do not understand? You knew that this man had a girlfriend yet you still continued to text him. Why? What did you think would happen?

 

There was chemistry between the two of you but that did not mean that he stopped loving his girlfriend. When will us women start understanding this? A man can feel heavily attracted to you and will still sleep with you yet it will have absolutely no effect on his feelings for his girlfriend/wife.

 

You slept with him knowing fully well that he had a girlfriend. he didn't break up with you, you two were never dating. He did what majority of cheaters would do, saw an opportunity to have sex with a girl who was not his girlfriend (wife) and took it.

 

You should not feel confused, sad, shocked or disappointed when a man who has a girlfriend has sex with you then disappears. What is there to be confused about?

 

Girl, move on and find yourself a man who is single and available.

[ChickiePops]

What happened is that you made a very bad decision to sleep with a man who's in a relationship and you got burned for it. In fact, not only did you sleep with him, but you actively pursued him. Multiple times.

 

Consider this an important life lesson..dating is rough but it's definitely easier if you stick to dating single men.

[Lobe]

I had an affair with a man who wasn't married but had a girlfriend

 

That was your first clue that this guy wasn't worth the time you took to type a reply. You got used for sex. You're a notch on his bedpost.

 

Get tested for STDs and next time someone in a relationship suggests to hook up and see if you have chemistry, do like Nancy Reagan said... and Just Say No.

[66Charger]

What happened?

 

He got busted and dumped you.

 

1 + 1 = 2

[usa1ah]

You gave up what he was after. He used you, got off and left. Why would you be with someone that is dating another anyway.

 

 

Sorry you got hurt but you kind of got what was coming to you.

 

 

Just remember, no guy will be faithful to you if he is willing to cheat on the one he is with.

 

 

Good luck next time. Something to think about, sexual chemistry is hollow nothing there at the end off the day, it is great while it last but it burns out fast. Having chemistry with someone that is not all about sex is what will last and grow into a roaring fire that will feed itself. The one you want is up to you.

[Just a Guy]

Hi Beautiful, are you married? If you are the you are cheating on your husband and deserve what happened to you. Even if you are not married you hooked up with a guy who was in a relationship which you knew about. Instead of giving him a wide berth you went after him pro actively, and so you are an accomplice in his cheating on his girlfriend. Either way your hands were soiled.

I guess you've learnt your lesson albeit in an unpleasant manner. Next time be more circumspect, much more circumspect! Wishing you the best for the future.