HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 For some reason I feel bad about myself. The messed up thing is when people look at me from the outside they see a beautiful, talented, care-free girl but on the inside lies inner turmoil. They ask me, "why do you feel this", "why do you feel that", "you're so lucky". I admit, I have seen people who want to almost be me, but I just can't see how? My boyfriend is the greatest. He tells me he loves me, tells me I'm beautiful and the greatest thing that ever happened to him and I just think in my mind, "what are you talking about?" This no shallow feeling, ask more questions to understand my situation if you want to help because this space doesn't fathom my life story. I just want to know some ways that I can make myself feel good. ANY IDEAS ANYONE?! -SKY Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 what is it about your situation that is so dire? You seem to be on top of the game Link to post Share on other sites
ggallin13 Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Do you compare yourself to some impossible standard? I used to do that, and had many of the same feelings you describe. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Well, your profile shows that you are a high-school student. All I can tell you is :when I was in my teens, I had PLENTY of inner turmoil. I think it's even harder to be a kid nowadays. How long have you been feeling this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 It seems as if I cannot escape. I tell myself that I'm the best and that I'M not the only one that thinks so; others around me think so. It's like I have to try and remind myself of my worth all the time and it's interfering with my everyday life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 It's been going on for the past 3 years now. But lately it shows a lot more in what I do and say and it makes me sick. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ what is it about your situation that is so dire? You seem to be on top of the game It's quite complicated. So I ask you, please don't look at me like some stupid teenager that hasn't had a taste of what the world is like; because is my small lifetime I have seen things I know that I was never supposed to see/ or even experience. Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I wasnt looking like that, i swear. I was just trying to ask why u feel so blue. Link to post Share on other sites
miss-gonewest Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Poor AndyJ - he does mean well!!! We're all here to help - maybe give us a few more specific details so we can understand what upsets you the most? And do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe a family member or a counsellor? I went through something similar when I was about 23/24 and in the end out of frustration I talked to my dad (in fact I think I SHOUTED at him) and he was probably the best person to help me. Not only was he sympathetic, but because he was a male and that much older, his perspective was really helpful. If you have had this feeling for so long and can't shake it, it could be a deeper problem. You may need to speak with a doctor in case you are experiencing depression. I don't really know what to suggest to make yourself feel good... everyone is different. If you are having issues with your perception of your body/looks then maybe a diet or some exercise may help. If you think you aren't that glam, maybe get a new hair cut/colour or treat yourself to a facial, a makeover or a massage. Buy yourself some sexy new clothes. Or maybe in enroll in a course that you have been interested in, or that may stimulate you mentally? Even learning a language in a community course could get you out of your funk? And try and surround yourself with positive and funny people. If you are that busy laughing, then you won't have time to dwell on the blues. Like I said, this stuff is just soo personal.... I am so sorry I can't help you with something more direct. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by miss-gonewest Poor AndyJ - he does mean well!!! We're all here to help - maybe give us a few more specific details so we can understand what upsets you the most? And do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe a family member or a counsellor? I went through something similar when I was about 23/24 and in the end out of frustration I talked to my dad (in fact I think I SHOUTED at him) and he was probably the best person to help me. Not only was he sympathetic, but because he was a male and that much older, his perspective was really helpful. If you have had this feeling for so long and can't shake it, it could be a deeper problem. You may need to speak with a doctor in case you are experiencing depression. I don't really know what to suggest to make yourself feel good... everyone is different. If you are having issues with your perception of your body/looks then maybe a diet or some exercise may help. If you think you aren't that glam, maybe get a new hair cut/colour or treat yourself to a facial, a makeover or a massage. Buy yourself some sexy new clothes. Or maybe in enroll in a course that you have been interested in, or that may stimulate you mentally? Even learning a language in a community course could get you out of your funk? And try and surround yourself with positive and funny people. If you are that busy laughing, then you won't have time to dwell on the blues. Like I said, this stuff is just soo personal.... I am so sorry I can't help you with something more direct. It's not a problem with my body/image. I know that I'm pretty and sexy. It all comes down to me as a person; You see I'm a musician. I play piano and sing, and I've also been in a few bands. I know I have things that I'm good at, I just feel that I don't do anyone good. It seems as if my existence is a burnden. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HatefuL_DruG Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ I wasnt looking like that, i swear. I was just trying to ask why u feel so blue. I apologize. The internet is a crappy way to tell how someone is reacting to a situation or how someone feels; you can never really tell. Link to post Share on other sites
cheval Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 There are going to be a lot of times in life that may not be so great, where you may feel that you are not doing anyone any good. It really sucks, time seems to stand still. People get hurt and just when you think it can't get any worse it really does. But that's the whole thing, all of this will pass. One day you'll be walking, or driving, or just whatever, and you'll say to yourself, "wow! things just are falling into place" All of the sudden life is grand! and the crazy thing is half the time you won't even know how you got there. We need to have good and bad times in our lives. I guess that's one of the great things in life. Things just keep movin on. Take care of yourself, learn and listen. Link to post Share on other sites
ggallin13 Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 I feel exactly the same way right now. I am used to it, though, as I am a lot older than you, so I am aware that it will pass. Actually, I look at it as a positive thing, because I use times like this to assess where I am and where I am going and what I like about myself and what I don't and make changes. Try doing one thing to brighten someone's day that is totally unexpected. It gives a good lift, and it'll prove to you that you aren't as much of a burden as you think you are. Link to post Share on other sites
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