Bella2 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Hi everyone, Almost two years ago I was on here a lot. I'm doing much better, also thanks to you all!! I read this article the other day, and I really think it helps when feeling anxious or depressed or down. So I wanted to share it here: https://www.howtoforgivepeople.com/how-to-overcome-emotional-dependency#comment-45580 Keep strong and never forget "This too shall pass". xxx Bella 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Lorenza Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Yes, it's a good article and I had read something similar many times before, but to me these are just words. Personally I cannot make it happen, even if I know that it should work in theory. "Happiness comes from within" but to me it doesn't. Glad that it helped you and that you overcame that kind of hardships in your life. But for me the chaos in my mind never clears up. :/ 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted July 4, 2016 Author Share Posted July 4, 2016 I understand, it's not something that comes "overnight", you have to work on it. I'm actually just getting started myself, but I realise that I am the only one who can change my situation. Me. Not letting my happiness depend on somebody else. Then of course you will get dissapointed and hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Trinity7 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Good article, thank you for sharing! Link to post Share on other sites
Traceycprc Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Thank you ? This guide has really helped me, it's down to earth and written by someone has been through heartache and survived. It's free and no bull****! Breakup Recovery Guide Link to post Share on other sites
Trinity_84 Posted July 4, 2016 Share Posted July 4, 2016 Oh god, that article really hit home Link to post Share on other sites
juniorrocha Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 Yes, it's a good article and I had read something similar many times before, but to me these are just words. Personally I cannot make it happen, even if I know that it should work in theory. "Happiness comes from within" but to me it doesn't. Glad that it helped you and that you overcame that kind of hardships in your life. But for me the chaos in my mind never clears up. :/ I think it doesn't clear up because you haven't found yourself yet. Once you fill your life with things that make you happy, having someone else will be just a plus, and not a must. With time we tend to realize that. It doesn't make any sense right now because you didn't reach that point yet, but once you do you'll see how important it is. I'm normally very happy with myself. In fact, I don't feel like I need anyone to do anything, although I enjoy having people around. The point is: I like when there are people around; but I'm fine if I'm alone too. And that's because I love who I am and what I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bella2 Posted July 5, 2016 Author Share Posted July 5, 2016 Oh god, that article really hit home I know! It's very confrontational, but so true, don't you agree? Link to post Share on other sites
Hoosfoos Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) I agree with every word of this article but also agree with some of the other posters, these would be very hard tenets to live by. If you are in a relationship that enriches your life, and it is taken away from you, how can you not be devastated by that? Perhaps the problem is me being too needy. But I seemed to be hard wired to want someone. Edited July 5, 2016 by Hoosfoos Link to post Share on other sites
newheart Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 This is a fabulous article! I needed to be reminded of this, and wish I had read it yesterday, lol. I am doing a better job when of recognizing when I am in my clingy/anxious phase, but not good at riding it out. Link to post Share on other sites
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