SharonStone230 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) Hi all im new here and i just want guys and gals perspective on my situation, i dont know what to do......iv'e been with my husband for 17 years and theres this girl that we both dont know and she keeps showing me his dating site profiles hes on, he said she's nuts and he only forgot to delete them but on (match.com) he was on last week (he hasn't been on it since the day i found out as im now like a stalker bitch and keep checking) he promised me that he's not chatting to anyone and he loves me and im the only woman for him BUT Two weeks i saw a text from another woman on his phone and because he has a finger print lock think i could only see she wrote "the s*x was great, i miss you already " he says shes a mate (which ive not once heard him mention in 8 months) and she only sent a few messages BUT this seems like part of a conversation and he also deleted the messages and her contact (SO HE SAYS) before i could see them. I decided to hire the services of an hacker [] who helped me hack into his phone. i was able to gain full access into his phone and i found out he has been cheating on me with multiple women all this years while i was being loyal to him. He said i should believe him and he cant be with someone who doesn't trust him.... does it sound like hes playing me? i havent told him about all i found out yet but he still keeps lying to me pretending to be loyal to my face. i am confused right now and i just want to smack him in the face and walk out of the marriage but i am considering our kids. he has been a very good dad and i dont want our kids to miss out on the fatherly care. should i stay back in the marriage because of the kids or seek divorce? please someone help me, im going out of my mind, i cant eat or sleep Edited July 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator deleted link to spam ~6 Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 So you want your kids to have a father who is a cheater as a role model? If you have sons, this will teach them that women are just tools / toys to be used by men. Keep this man if you have no self respect and wish to teach your kids how to be cheaters as well. Otherwise, get your ducks lined up before you confront him. Seek a lawyer's advise, and dump his sorry ass - and in this case, go for the maximum amount of alimony as well as all the property. When you throw him out you want to leave him literally naked and shivering in the cold, holding his hand over his weenie to keep it warm. Oh, and do not tell him you hacked his phone. If you want him to turn against his girlfriends, imply one of the 4 found out about the other 3 and blew the lid off things. Let him guess which of them ratted him out... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted July 5, 2016 Share Posted July 5, 2016 (edited) [] he has been a very good dad and i dont want our kids to miss out on the fatherly care. -- Oh really? What kind of father models behavior that basically says that it's OK to cheat on the mother of his children? When the children are old enough to understand what's been going on in their parent's relationship, they will be confused about what a healthy relationship is . . . should i stay back in the marriage because of the kids or seek divorce? -- The relationship is broken. And, as Dr. Phil says "children would rather be from a broken home than in one." Since he has been doing this for so long during your relationship, I doubt that counseling would be worth the effort. If this had just happened, there may be some hope. Find yourself a good divorce attorney. Edited July 5, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator redacted quote of spammer ~6 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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