AllICanDo Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 I'm a 30 year old bi girl (though I don't really like that label) - anyways I got with a girl 8 years ago, we got married almost 2 years ago. She had huge insecurities over the fact I've slept with guys as well as girls. We also had some conflict because her family were always overly involved in every decision and she couldn't stand up to them, she let them disrespect us both. Out of the blue, she has fallen in love with a married woman online and living on a different continent. They are on the phone non stop. The married woman is married to a man by the way! But my now ex is saying that it doesn't matter because the married woman has assured her she's totally gay and only went along with sex with her husband (and some others) because she felt she had to. After all the crap I got about my past. I'm packing all my stuff and moving back home to my family on Saturday. I can't believe the serious betrayal and the way she is sitting on the phone constantly and then looking up and laughing at me and typing away to the new girl, they openly joke about me and my ex sits there laughing in my face. I also don't like that I will be labeled as divorced because I gave the marriage 100% and intended to keep my vows til the very end. I'd never have done this to her. It just all feels completely unfair. I'm heartbroken. Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted July 7, 2016 Share Posted July 7, 2016 Sometimes all you can do is leave. And if you truly believe in your heart that you gave it your all, than its time. You will get through this time in your life. Becouse you will have no choice. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KBarletta Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 She had huge insecurities over the fact I've slept with guys as well as girls. We also had some conflict because her family were always overly involved in every decision and she couldn't stand up to them, she let them disrespect us both. Sorry this happened to you, that sounds heartbreaking. I would encourage you to move on and try to implement no contact with her to heal yourself and so you don't have to put up with that kind of environment any more. Given these issues, though, it sounds as if you could some day find a partner more suitable and build a better life in the future. It does seem to me that often people with insecurities stray from relationships because of an almost insatiable need for affirmation from others that they are worthy. It almost sounds like this was what happened with your partner. I'd encourage you to stick around on these boards - there is a lot of good advice from people who have been in your shoes. I wish you luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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