newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 ok this is a split from another thread, we were discussing how women just cant resist the unpredictable, non commital, mysterious guys, we then wondered if it was the same for men. do they also get hooked on these kind of women? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Maybe Link to post Share on other sites
Author newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Maybe Link to post Share on other sites
Author newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 yes hee hee, thought as much Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think most people don't want to think they are like a book as far as being predictable. Mysterious is attractive but I think that element is like most things in a relationship in that it tends to fade. The longer you know some one the better you know them and the more predictable they become. But a woman that keeps me on my toes is by far a better choice than a "book". Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Definetely, The beauty of the mystery, trying to work it out then realise that you nevr will, a viscious cycle Definitely go for the differnt ones myself. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Interesting question... if you can equate mysterious with being a little shy, then I'm definitely drawn to them, because chances are I'll be pleasantly surprised (I hope) somewhere down the line as I learn more about them. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think you want someone that will keep you guessing from time to time, but the air of predicability is also comforting to some degree. As with anything, in order to be happy there needs to be a balance. Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Let's put it this way. If I'm chattering my boyfriend's ear off, he gets really quiet, even when I ask him questions. When I'm quiet and looking out the window while we're driving, he'll keep asking me if anything is wrong, what I'm thinking, etc. The more effort I put forth, the less he does. But when I pull back, am cool and reserved, and don't ask him for anything, he's all over me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Interesting question... if you can equate mysterious with being a little shy, then I'm definitely drawn to them, because chances are I'll be pleasantly surprised (I hope) somewhere down the line as I learn more about them. yes, shy is mysterious, but mysterious isnt neccessarily shy I think most people don't want to think they are like a book as far as being predictable. Mysterious is attractive but I think that element is like most things in a relationship in that it tends to fade. The longer you know some one the better you know them and the more predictable they become. But a woman that keeps me on my toes is by far a better choice than a "book". and how do these preferred women keep you on your toes, are they just reserved or is it true men prefer b!tches? Let's put it this way. If I'm chattering my boyfriend's ear off, he gets really quiet, even when I ask him questions. When I'm quiet and looking out the window while we're driving, he'll keep asking me if anything is wrong, what I'm thinking, etc. The more effort I put forth, the less he does. But when I pull back, am cool and reserved, and don't ask him for anything, he's all over me. yes, i know this one too! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa Let's put it this way. If I'm chattering my boyfriend's ear off, he gets really quiet, even when I ask him questions. When I'm quiet and looking out the window while we're driving, he'll keep asking me if anything is wrong, what I'm thinking, etc. The more effort I put forth, the less he does. But when I pull back, am cool and reserved, and don't ask him for anything, he's all over me. My ex was exactly the same way. I should have shut up more often Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by newbby ...or is it true men prefer b!tches? Only if they're pussies... Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Only if they're pussies... Link to post Share on other sites
ImaManDammit Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Mystery implies the unknown and even secretiveness. Obviously great from an attraction point of view. No so good from a relationship point of view. So I don't mind prusuing someone that's myseterious, I would hope as things progressed the mystery would unfold to some extend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 Mystery implies the unknown and even secretiveness. Obviously great from an attraction point of view. No so good from a relationship point of view. So I don't mind prusuing someone that's myseterious, I would hope as things progressed the mystery would unfold to some extend. oh yeah little rewards now and then, but not too much Link to post Share on other sites
JenDoe Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC I think you want someone that will keep you guessing from time to time, but the air of predicability is also comforting to some degree. As with anything, in order to be happy there needs to be a balance. I agree. I take great comfort in being able to predict my guy's behavior, reeeeaalllyyy knowing him. But if that's all there is is that predictability, if I'm not learning new things about him from time to time, being a little surprised by him...then I'll get bored. But I'll just as easily get bored by the guy who's tooooo mysterious and won't open up. Yup, balance. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think needing someone to be 'mysterious' is goofy. Screw surprises. Some of 'em aren't great. I think it's a great pleasure to be known very well and to know someone very well. If you need novelty, go do different new things together but to expect the other to provide entertainment for your boring self by presenting you with 'surprises' from time to time is foolish, IMHO. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by newbby ok this is a split from another thread, we were discussing how women just cant resist the unpredictable, non commital, mysterious guys, we then wondered if it was the same for men. do they also get hooked on these kind of women? Not this man. Not in this lifetime. What do I need with an unpredictable, noncommittal, mysterious woman? I don't want or need head games masquerading as mystery. Besides, what kind of emotional intimacy can be achieved with such a woman? Zero, nada, zip. Amongst other things my next woman is going to be predictable but capable of being spontaneous, complete without me, strong enough to stand alone, intelligent and not afraid to show it, private but not secret, open, honest, compassionate, have some warts (I don't want the illusion of perfection) and understand the meaning of the word commitment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author newbby Posted June 28, 2005 Author Share Posted June 28, 2005 I think needing someone to be 'mysterious' is goofy. Screw surprises. Some of 'em aren't great. I think it's a great pleasure to be known very well and to know someone very well. If you need novelty, go do different new things together but to expect the other to provide entertainment for your boring self by presenting you with 'surprises' from time to time is foolish, IMHO. so moimeme, do you always go for the guy that states his feelings fairly quickly? i dont think there was any need to insult anyone moimeme Link to post Share on other sites
scared shy Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 I don't think moimeme was trying to insult anyone. I took it as, what kind of emotional intimacy can be achieved with someone who is playing mysterious. In the beginning before you know someone sure, everyone does it. Just like in poker, you don't lay all your cards on the table and you should bluff. There comes a point in time though where if you are planning a future with someone, why be mysterious. I think the greatest thing in life is to have that connection with someone when you finally do know them and you can complete their sentences, know what they are thinking yada yada yada... how can you have that if you/they are mysterious? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by scared*shy I don't think moimeme was trying to insult anyone. I beg to differ SCARED*SHY Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 No need for mystery. We as humans are complex enough, and to add further depth to our relationships in this way is only playing mindgames with yourself. Does she think that you are this or that, and how are you going to keep up with the mystery? Or does she let you dream that you are indeed this or that? Some people are seemingly more mysterious than others - but perhaps these are natural ways of people. In general, if you have a good mind, you can comprehend these people too, even though you will think of them as elusive. Link to post Share on other sites
scared shy Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Well maybe, but I wouldn't have taken it as an insult, I think her opinion is delightful and usually nails it right on the head... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Originally posted by d'Arthez Some people are seemingly more mysterious than others - but perhaps these are natural ways of people. Personally i believe it is basic human nature to be intrigued by the mysterious and unexplained. Why are people fascianted with God and spritituality and the JFK assasination and UFOs?? Most peoples lives are fairly boring and hum drum and many seek out excitement and mystery. Art is mysterious, life is mysterious, people are mysterious. Come on lets get real here. Link to post Share on other sites
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