Maliel Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 Long story short, my boyfriend has been in a couple situations (that I know of) where he used me as a convenient way to get out of something. He worked a long day and around 10PM he was on the phone with his friend after we spoke one night. To get off the phone he told his friend that he had to call me. When we spoke the next day he told me that. It bothered me, why use me as a convenient exit? This weekend he is supposed to come hangout with me and his other friend asked to hangout this weekend. He told his friend that he had to deliver some things to my house for work this weekend so he couldn't hangout. I moved out of state recently and we had talked about us visiting each other most weekends. My issue is why do you have to lie about it and why do you need to put my name in the lies? I've lied here and there too in my life but I feel like when you place a blame on someone in the lie, it's not just dishonesty but it's selfishness in the sense that you're using someone else to buffer fault away from you. If you're coming to visit your girlfriend who just moved out of state and is going through a hard transition because she doesn't know anyone in that state, why not just say that? He said it was because his friends wouldn't understand and somewhat also because he doesn't relate to the feeling of just needing to have someone around. I basically told him that he needs to grow up and stop thinking so much about what others think of him. Am I wrong? I feel so upset. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 8, 2016 Share Posted July 8, 2016 Bust him on it out loud in front of whoever he's doing it for. You have a right to stand up for yourself. Do it loudly so everyone hears and he'll never do that again in your presence. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maliel Posted July 8, 2016 Author Share Posted July 8, 2016 Bust him on it out loud in front of whoever he's doing it for. You have a right to stand up for yourself. Do it loudly so everyone hears and he'll never do that again in your presence. If he would have ever done it in front of me I probably would. Link to post Share on other sites
ChickiePops Posted July 9, 2016 Share Posted July 9, 2016 Honestly I don't see what the big deal is. What is it about this that bothers you so much? Link to post Share on other sites
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