Mz. Pixie Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 My fiance' and I are eloping in a little under two weeks. We've got the hotel reservations, chapel reservations- I have put in my notice at my apt- taken vacation days to move- my dress is being altered. It's been a long time since I got married the first time. I know I was stressed completely then planning a big wedding. This is not the case now, it will just be us two. Most of our friends do not know and neither do his parents. My issue is that I feel stressed to the max! Is this normal?? This is something that both of us want and have been looking forward to. I think I'm more nervous this time due to the fact that I know what's at stake more now that I'm older and wiser?? I've been engrossed in making sure this transition will be smooth for my kiddos. They seem fine with everything. I've had some family drama going on (brother) that's had me stressed. Can anyone relate? I'm not sure what I'm needing here other than to vent but any comments would be appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
New_Wife Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Oh Heck Yeah! My H and I got married in Vegas. Very small wedding - we were going to elope, but then decided to invite our parents. The size of the wedding is not the stressor - although it can certainly add stress if it's huge. It's the lifelong committment. Anyone who is not a little nervous committing their entire being, mentally, sexually, spiritually, etc. to another person is a few degrees shy of sane (in my opinion). If you know that this is the person you want to marry, and you know that it is the right choice for your family (kids), Then I think you can probably take these jitters for what they are and not worry over those too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mz. Pixie Posted June 29, 2005 Author Share Posted June 29, 2005 Thanks New Wife! I think part of the problem is that I've had so much drama lately with my exh and my brother (you saw my post on the addiction thread) that I'm just a ball of jitters. I'm sure everything will be fine! Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 I agree New Wife. I just got engaged and told my boyfriend (now fiance) I was happy I accepted because I have never felt this way about anyone. But admitted I was nervous when he asked. I love him but there are always "what if's" and no walking away so readily when problems happen. There are no guarantees and it's a big change in your life. Who wouldn't be a bit scared? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 8, 2005 Share Posted July 8, 2005 I got hitched in Hawaii just a few short months ago. Just the H and I. Niiiice. The day was full of stress, yes, but just my nerves. The wedding was beautiful and simple. Wouldn't have it any other way. You'll be fine, just relax and don't fret. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted July 10, 2005 Share Posted July 10, 2005 I am recently married too, and think it's normal to be nervous, for the reasons the others have stated. Good luck- try and just enjoy the day! Are you married yet anyway- it must be about 2 weeks now since your post?? Link to post Share on other sites
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