broke NC after 38 days

[don't_break_even]

Hello everyone on LS, so my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me about 6 weeks ago due to me disrespectfully checking out other girls in front of her, giving her a lack of affection (I somewhat became addicted to "online videos" during the week and since I only see her on weekends I was just hardly in the mood). She had been warning me if I didn't stop these actions she would have to leave as she just couldn't take it anymore, however I guess I ignored all warnings. Anyways loosing this girl made me realize how f'ing much she meant to me and how much I love her. We went NC about 3 days after she dumped me, and now 38 days later I saw she posted a really pretty picture on her FB (she never deleted me) I texted her and the following was said.

 

Me: "Nice pic :)"

Her: "thanks, how you been"

than we talk about work and family for a while, than..

Me: "I hope we can remain in contact, I don't want you to hate me, you have done so much to make me a better man I would hate to loose you from my life"

Her: "I don't hate you and never will, I will be here whenever you need me"

Me: "Do you think there is a chance we will ever get back together?"

Her: "You have not met any girls you like?"

Me: "I have met a few but no one makes me feel anywhere like you do"

Her: "Aww really? yeah I miss you too"

Me: "Have you met any guys you like?"

Her "No, everyone I talk to disappears after like a week" (typical of guys in our city)

 

I was just wondering, based on our conversation does anyone think there is a chance for her to open back up to me again? I Love this girl so much, I don't know what I was thinking doing those things that made her leave me

Edited July 11, 2016 by don't_break_even

[don't_break_even]

anyone have any input?

[juniorrocha]

That's sweet. Seems like you're both still interested on each other.

 

My advices are:

 

1) Take things slowly

After a month of NC, I ended up asking my ex if we could talk and she agreed. We got back together, things were going very well, we were back to our old routine, and then she dumped me 5 days later because she thought we weren't going to work (?). My advice is to not fall back into what you had before too fast. Of course it's not a rule but going slow can make you guys see that things are indeed different.

 

2) Fix your issues

If you two broke up because of the problems you mentioned, then you have to make sure these will be long gone if you get back together. Else it will just lead to another break up = more pain, more hurt.

 

Invite her out, something easy going. So she can see you're cool about it. Don't bring up the relationship yet.

 

Afterall, you guys went over a month not talking to each other. Impossible to expect nothing happened during that time, things are still damaged and you have to work on that to make things go well again.

[don't_break_even]

I texted her "If you ever want to get out for a night with me I will treat for drinks at a this bar where they have $2 drinks (in her favorite part of town.) We can just chill and talk, maybe get some dinner too"

 

She said: "Look at you knowing where the drinks are on sale lol"

 

than..

 

"I'll let you know, and thank you very much "

 

I said: "No pressure, and you're welcome "

 

Than left it at that. We are both at work at the time so I wasn't going to keep bothering her. The balls in her court now.

Edited July 11, 2016 by don't_break_even

[Frogwife]

I am a little confused... when I read your past messages, it seems you are a girl posting about your boyfriend... now you are a guy posting about your girlfriend?

[don't_break_even]

This is my sisters account, she told me about this site... those posts from 2 years ago are hers.. she got that guy back and they got married so hopefully she won't need to log on here again. She let me use her account to post my question lol.. sorry for any confusion