Ijustdon'tgetit Posted July 11, 2016 Share Posted July 11, 2016 What does it mean when someone says they don't see a future with you, but then they stay in the relationship with you for months more before leaving? Does this mean they were pretty much done but stayed to confirm their suspicion? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gonnadropthemic Posted July 11, 2016 Share Posted July 11, 2016 ya pretty much.... or they could just be conflicted... have feelings for you, love you, but you have issues they aren't sure they can handle or live with forever. So, they need more time to see if their feelings will change or if someone else will be a better match. I say this about my husband though now... and have been saying this for the past 4 years. (we have been together 13 years) Sometimes it's hard to let a person go even if you want to sooooo badly, so you hang on. Clinging to hope or the bonds you share... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ijustdon'tgetit Posted July 11, 2016 Author Share Posted July 11, 2016 ya pretty much.... or they could just be conflicted... have feelings for you, love you, but you have issues they aren't sure they can handle or live with forever. So, they need more time to see if their feelings will change or if someone else will be a better match. I say this about my husband though now... and have been saying this for the past 4 years. (we have been together 13 years) Sometimes it's hard to let a person go even if you want to sooooo badly, so you hang on. Clinging to hope or the bonds you share... Thank you so much for sharing this. This helps me tremendously. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustedthenBusted Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Imagine a monkey swinging from branch to branch. At one point, he is reaching out for a new branch...but doesn't see one. He knows he wants to swing, and move on, but as of this moment, there isn't a new branch to grasp on to. What does he do? He holds on to the branch he's got, even though he sees no future in it. Link to post Share on other sites
Trinity_84 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 ya pretty much.... or they could just be conflicted... have feelings for you, love you, but you have issues they aren't sure they can handle or live with forever. So, they need more time to see if their feelings will change It's a a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, isn't it? They see "no future" with you (even though the future is an illusion and it doesn't exist anyway) and eventually that's what ends the relationship. Hence, there *is* no future after all. This was my case. I was really conflicted from the beginning about my ex. They were really great people but it was just bad timing for me personally to be involved with anyone. Then their issues started cropping up and it just made me even more conflicted. I stayed for years waiting for my feelings to change or for a "sign" that they were the right person for me and there was "a future" worth staying for, but the self-fulfiling prophecy was stronger and the relationship ended. Link to post Share on other sites
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