Deadmeat Posted July 12, 2016 Share Posted July 12, 2016 Anyone ever been on a short term relationship and had a hard time getting over it? My gf just dumped me after 4 months of very intense and loving relationship. She broke it off because her grades were being affected and they were important to her. I'm having a hard time getting over this compared to my longer relationships. Anybody feel the same? Link to post Share on other sites
FTM042014 Posted July 14, 2016 Share Posted July 14, 2016 Yes. She dumped me a bit over a year ago. I'm still not totally healed. 2 months. Intense and serious. She detached just as fast as she attached. A couple of months after she got with an old ex she never mentioned. Been with him ever since. After a week and a half of them coming back into contact with one another he was her official bf. It's the absolute worst. Lessons I learned: A woman that moves that fast has attachment and intimacy issues. It's a recipe for disaster. I knew it in my heart at the time but I was too busy thinking this could be a fairytale romance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted July 15, 2016 Share Posted July 15, 2016 I think the short ones can be harder to get over because you are still in the honeymoon stage with the strong emotions. Once you have been with someone a while the feelibgs settle down somewhat. Just a theory. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 15, 2016 Share Posted July 15, 2016 Yes. I had an 11 month RL that took me years to get over - and I'm still not over it. (I'm older than you BTW). She was likely one of the WORST girlfriends I ever had. She never bought me anything - nothing. She was completely selfish and contributed nothing but sex. Yet, I was at a point in my life where I needed to feel needed and she would tell me 40 times a day how much she loved me. I questioned the sincerity at first but finally relented after all her assurances. The sex was amazing and the feelings of love were intense. Then it was over - I got ghosted in a bad way. That was over 10 years ago and I find myself dreaming about her now that I'm going through another breakup. Don't get me wrong, I would never take her back and have no desire to see her again but there are still thoughts there buried in my subconscious. So yes, short-term can hurt even more than long term. Link to post Share on other sites
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