jakejackson88 Posted July 12, 2016 Share Posted July 12, 2016 Hello everyone on LS, so my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me about 6 weeks ago due to me disrespectfully checking out other girls in front of her, giving her a lack of affection (I somewhat became addicted to "online videos" during the week and since I only see her on weekends I was just hardly in the mood). She had been warning me if I didn't stop these actions she would have to leave as she just couldn't take it anymore, however I guess I ignored all warnings. Anyways loosing this girl made me realize how f'ing much she meant to me and how much I love her. We went NC about 3 days after she dumped me, and now 38 days later I saw she posted a really pretty picture on her Facebook (she never deleted me) I texted her and the following was said. Me: "Nice pic " Her: "thanks, how you been" than we talk about work and family for a while, than.. Me: "I hope we can remain in contact, I don't want you to hate me, you have done so much to make me a better man I would hate to loose you from my life" Her: ":love: I don't hate you and never will, I will be here whenever you need me" Me: "Do you think there is a chance we will ever get back together?" Her: "You have not met any girls you like?" Me: "I have met a few but no one makes me feel anywhere near how I feel about you" Her: "Aww really? yeah I miss you too" Me: "Have you met any guys you like?" Her "No, everyone I talk to disappears after like a week" (typical of guys in our city) Me: "If you ever want to go out for a night with me and get drinks let me know. we can go to (her favorite bar) and just relax and talk" Her: "I'll let you know, and thank you very much :love:" Me: "Its cool, no pressure. and you are welcome :)" And that was the end of the texts... An hour later she pokes me on Facebook (again she never deleted me), and I poked her back a few hours later. Now the next day goes by with no contact from her the whole day... Should I be worried or give her more time/space to "let me know"? I was just wondering, based on our conversation does anyone think there is a chance for her to open back up to me again? I Love this girl so much, I don't know what I was thinking doing those things that made her leave me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 13, 2016 Author Share Posted July 13, 2016 Does anyone have any input? I'm curious Link to post Share on other sites
juniorrocha Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 She said she would let you know. So you go on living your life and wait for her to say something, she may be confused, and/or needs time to think about it. You could ask her again next week or something, with a set date so you aren't thrown in that waiting again. "Would you like to go out with me to <insert place> for a few drinks next saturday?". Then you'll know. According to that conversation, it seems like there's a chance of reconciling. PS: didn't you post that same convo yesterday or something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 13, 2016 Author Share Posted July 13, 2016 I did post this yesterday, but it was deleted so I had to repost it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 13, 2016 Author Share Posted July 13, 2016 Does anyone else have any feedback or advice on this? Link to post Share on other sites
kztar Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 Wait it out. You already expressed your feelings Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 13, 2016 Author Share Posted July 13, 2016 Could there be a chance she reacted like that just because she didn't want to hurt my feelings by saying she was done with me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 13, 2016 Author Share Posted July 13, 2016 I mean, If she missed me like she said she does would she really need time to "let me know" about seeing her or wouldn't she jump at the opportunity. We were together for over 4 years by the way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 16, 2016 Author Share Posted July 16, 2016 Any one else have any input? Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 Any one else have any input? Just....relax. You left the door open for her to reach out to you,if/when she decides to. Feels bad doesn't it? That bad feeling is why breaking NC is frowned upon around here. There's nothing you can do now except wait or choose not to wait and continue with your single life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted July 17, 2016 Share Posted July 17, 2016 First of all, WARNING! I'm a hapless romantic who always believes that love can find a way. Have you told her that you know all the things that you did wrong? Do you know how to change? How to correct your errors/habits that drove you apart? I know that if I got so frustrated that I split with a man for my own future happiness. I know that if I split with a man I loved after 4 years what I would be needing to hear is that he 'gets-it'. That's the only way I'd give it a 2nd chance. Write her a letter. Ask her out on a date. At this point you have nothing to loose! Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted July 17, 2016 Share Posted July 17, 2016 Did she send all the or did you add them? No ex that I wanted nothing more to do with would get :love: Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Share Posted July 17, 2016 She actually used the kissing face emoji every place I put the heart thing, thats why I included it. If she was not somewhat intrested in me or had some feelings why would she put kissing faces. Than 3 hours later poke me on FB like we used to do all the time when we were together. (and stopped after we split) Like if she was unintrested or just didn't care she would have been much colder wih her replies.. she seemed really warm which is what threw me off Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 17, 2016 Author Share Posted July 17, 2016 I invited her out to dinner so we could talk, to which she replied "Thank you very much, I will let you know (kissing emoji)". I'm sure it is still to soon for her to see me. She did say she would need a few months. She also got extremely emotional the one time I ran into her at the bar, It was obvious it was too soon for her, however she did jump up and hug me and tell me she missed me and loved me as well as wanted me to hang and bar hop with her the whole night. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 18, 2016 Author Share Posted July 18, 2016 Any other opinions out there? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 Hello everyone on LS, so my girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me about 6 weeks ago due to me disrespectfully checking out other girls in front of her, giving her a lack of affection (I somewhat became addicted to "online videos" during the week and since I only see her on weekends I was just hardly in the mood). Porn? fix that habit for yourself. Me: "I have met a few but no one makes me feel anywhere near how I feel about you" Her: "Aww really? yeah I miss you too" This is the slimiest coded compliment ever in my book. And she ate it up apparently. So you had a LDR, only seeing each other on weekends, and you're young and immature and flirted with GIGS while spending what little time you had with her by checking out other girls? Now you *think* you want her back and she *thinks* maybe as well. Maybe it's a good idea, but maybe you're really just horny and lonely and realize this easy 4 year relationship should continue despite being wracked with problems and immaturity from you? Are you really interested in her? OR are you just missing having a "relationship" with someone? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mg101 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 This is the slimiest coded compliment ever in my book. And she ate it up apparently. SPOT ON! Same thing my ex said after the last break up and i took him back, yet he was the same person once in the relationship... actually worse. OP let her be. She hasn't had enough time and probably wants more time before reinvesting herself. But please make sure you're really going to be a better bf to her if you get back together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jakejackson88 Posted July 18, 2016 Author Share Posted July 18, 2016 I know that may be a slimy, phony comment to most people but it really is how I feel about her. I have dated a few other girls in our time apart and everywhere we go and everything we do I am reminded of my ex and not the girl I'm with. I don't know why I did those thinngs with her (checking out other girls) It's not as if I didn't love her. I love her with all my heart. I was always buying her nice things and taking her on trips as she would also do for me. I was always there for her and her family and always put her first. She even told me leaving was extremely hard, she was crying and said I do so much good but than do things like that which take away from the good. I know she was crazy about me, she always told her friends how much I meant to her and how much she loves me "even though I sometimes do things that hurt her" Link to post Share on other sites
mg101 Posted July 18, 2016 Share Posted July 18, 2016 I know that may be a slimy, phony comment to most people but it really is how I feel about her. I have dated a few other girls in our time apart and everywhere we go and everything we do I am reminded of my ex and not the girl I'm with. I don't know why I did those thinngs with her (checking out other girls) It's not as if I didn't love her. I love her with all my heart. I was always buying her nice things and taking her on trips as she would also do for me. I was always there for her and her family and always put her first. She even told me leaving was extremely hard, she was crying and said I do so much good but than do things like that which take away from the good. I know she was crazy about me, she always told her friends how much I meant to her and how much she loves me "even though I sometimes do things that hurt her" of course new girls won't measure up to a long term relationship while you're still missing that person. you may mean that now, but you really weren't enamored with her enough to stop checking out other girls in front of her when you had her. we all make mistakes, but really figure out why you couldn't respect her and continued to do something that you knew hurt her. That's important. Otherwise, you'll likely do exactly the same thing, if not worse, if you get her back since you may take her even more for granted than you did in the past if she doesn't stick to her guns here. Link to post Share on other sites
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