Chen12 Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 So my ex and I broke up officially 4 months ago and recently I've been thinking about him and remember how things were between us before things got bad. I 'm very confused because before this point I haven't thought about him and have been doing NC. He had messaged me about 7 times over the last couple of months and the only time I answered was to give him back his stuff. After that he has sent me numerous messages and I haven't responded and don't plan to either. The way he broke up with me and the things he did after left such a bad taste in my mouth that I am completely done with him. I don't want him in my life at all. I have sat down and thought about "What if I never hear from him or see him ever again?" and I always feel like the answer is "I am perfectly fine with that." But lately I've been haven't dreams of bumping into him in the future and him regretting his decision of leaving me. In my dreams I always reject him because I don't want him anymore. But I am confused about my thoughts. If I don't love him anymore and don't want any part of him, why do I secret wish for him to text me or tell me that he regrets breaking up with me? also note that if this scenario did play out in the future, I am 100% sure that I reject his plea. Knowing him, It would probably not happen and thats a good thing Link to post Share on other sites
BelleSkye Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 If he did not treat you badly, you would have still been attracted to him - and inevitably, still been with him. He broke up with you - which does not mean that there is anything wrong with you - it just means that you were still emotionally attached to him and still need more time (i.e. no contact) to forget him. Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 There's still a little part of you that either feels it needs some closure or remembers the good times and is clinging onto those thoughts. I know that I still have similar thoughts for someone even though I know full well they are not the person I thought they were, not someone I want in my life anymore. However, I still have those little thoughts that pop in occasionally. I guess the only thing to do is accept them and let them pass us by, and then carry on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 But I am confused about my thoughts. If I don't love him anymore and don't want any part of him, why do I secret wish for him to text me or tell me that he regrets breaking up with me? Ego, that's all. You want him to beg you back so you can reject him. Just forget it and keep moving forward. Link to post Share on other sites
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