Hermus Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 My girlfriend is 1 inch taller than me and that has never been a problem. However, yesterday she had been shopping for new shoes and got a pair of sandals and a pair of stiletto's. Both have a quite high heel, the stiletto's even higher than the sandals. Yesterday evening she was wearing the sandals and I really didn't like it. I felt emasculated standing next to her. I'm wondering what other people's take on this is? Would you feel comfortable if your girlfriend is taller than you/you're taller than your boyfriend? And how would you look at a straight couple in which the girlfriend is clearly taller? Link to post Share on other sites
Bialy Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 I see couples of different heights all the time - it's not a big deal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 I was the MAN when I showed up to a wedding with an in shape chick who was my height and even taller in heels. Nobody made fun of the fact I was shorter than her. Least not to my face. I threw my date over my shoulder and carried her up the stairs to the bedroom that night. Not many men in their early 40's at any height than can carry a 140lb 5'8" woman up a flight of stairs. Emasculation? not even once. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 I don't see anything wrong with it but it's not for me. I'm 6' so any girls taller than me are amazons in my eyes and I prefer smaller women (5'3" -5'7"). Anytime I see a guy with a taller girl I'm thinking he's really got his ***** together. Confident and knocking her hole(s) out properly Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie888 Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 When i see a man with a taller-than-him girlfriend I think hes secure with himself and must know what he is doing in bed 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jejangles Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 My boyfriend and I are the same height with no shoes, so shoes with even a slight heel make me taller than him. He not only has no problem with it, he encourages me to go taller! I'm the one who has more concerns about the resulting height difference. I love the fact that my boyfriend is so secure because it makes me more secure. I sometimes find myself shrinking down when I am surrounded by shorter people, it's nice to have someone who loves me and encourages me to stand tall. I don't know how to make you feel more confident about your height difference, but I would say anyone who would think you are less of a man because you are shorter than your girlfriend is an idiot. You should feel proud to be standing next to such a tall beauty! Maybe google some celebrities with differing heights - Sophie Dahl and Jamie Cullum, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban, Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise come to mind. It's all about your attitude - if you look proud and show you don't have a problem with it, other people will pick up on it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 16, 2016 Share Posted July 16, 2016 I think that on this board we heard short guys constantly moaning about how unfair life is because they can't get the girl and that if you get the girl and then continue to moan when she buys a new pair of heels, then you are just a moaner and that that will be the thing that runs her off. Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 One of my good friends married a girl who was almost two inches taller. He simply told her not to wear heels. When they got married, she wore flats. Simple fix. He picked her up, held her in his lap, whatever. Just tell your GF that you don't like the heels because it makes it harder to kiss her. Problem solved. Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I felt emasculated standing next to her. You're insecure not an emasculating event. Come on... Link to post Share on other sites
longjohn Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 My girlfriend is 1 inch taller than me and that has never been a problem. However, yesterday she had been shopping for new shoes and got a pair of sandals and a pair of stiletto's. Both have a quite high heel, the stiletto's even higher than the sandals. Yesterday evening she was wearing the sandals and I really didn't like it. I felt emasculated standing next to her. I'm wondering what other people's take on this is? Would you feel comfortable if your girlfriend is taller than you/you're taller than your boyfriend? And how would you look at a straight couple in which the girlfriend is clearly taller? Sounds like your going shopping for bigger heals than her's haha.. joking of course. I dated a lady once that was a bit over 6ft, tall, slim redhead.. really nice lady. I nor anyone else I knew had an issue with her height other than the fact she was taller haha. Your making an issue out of a non issue, if she's ok with you being shorter then accept her being taller. She'll be able to reach things you can't while shopping! Link to post Share on other sites
ashy555 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I am almost 6 foot myself(female) Just own it. She is obviously comfortable with it. I see men with tall women who just want to show them off. That is a sign of security and confidence. A lot of men love tall women. My best friend and I are both about 6 foot and our male friend always comments about how good he feels going out with us(he is a bit shorter) and how men always stare at him. Just be confident and admire having a tall girlfriend :D Link to post Share on other sites
biker23 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 It comes down to the people. Who cares what others think. Some men don't like it and some women don't. If you and your gf are good then don't sweat it. Enjoy her. Certainly don't discourage her shoe choice. Definitely a path to disaster. Haha. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 I've seen several couples where the woman is taller, really not a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 Ha, yeah, a good while ago I got a schooling on tall and rich and how each couple is unique. One thing I did admire about the lady in the picture is when I saw her out and about she usually wore heels like in the picture and always stood tall and straight. Her boyfriend, later husband, didn't seem to mind the height or the wealth and fame. Though I did have a goodly number of inches on my exW, when she'd 'grow' with footwear, there was something about that height which was very sexually stimulating. At first I thought it was a foot/shoe thing, like a fetish, but nope, other experiments with that were fruitless. It was her height. TBH, other than women like Nicole, I've met very few women taller than myself. I think our manager at the bank I worked at for awhile was about my height but she always seemed to slouch so heck she could've been taller. I just don't meet 6' women that much where I hang out. OP, IMO, having had girlfriends and been married, if you all get along, enjoy it. Take a cue from Keith and revel in the person your GF is, height and all. The time you spend together on this planet is a gift. Link to post Share on other sites
Erik30 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 This is probably one of the reasons why some women won't date shorter guys. Don't turn her into one of them by creating this "problem." Just get over it, she obviously thinks it's fine or she wouldn't be with you. Who cares what people might think. Link to post Share on other sites
Alex297 Posted July 21, 2016 Share Posted July 21, 2016 This has everything to do with you and nothing to do with her. She's obviously not bothered by it or she wouldn't buy those shoes. Show her that it doesn't bother you either. There's no reason to feel emasculated. Be confident! Link to post Share on other sites
Dis Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 This is probably one of the reasons why some women won't date shorter guys. Don't turn her into one of them by creating this "problem." Just get over it, she obviously thinks it's fine or she wouldn't be with you. Who cares what people might think. I actually understand why the OP feels emasculated. Its not easy dating a girl whos taller than you. The truth is...height really isn't a huge deal to most people...its obviously not an issue to her...but this reality doesn't make it any easier for the OP if he's feeling emasculated The last guy I dated was short. Everyone told me it wasn't a big deal...maybe it wasn't in there eyes but I'm just not comfortable dating a short guy. That's just not my preference. It didn't feel right Maybe the OP's preference is a shorter girl...its ok if this height issue isn't something he's comfortable with. We cant change the way we feel...even if our feelings aren't justified by others OP, I'd try to adjust to it...give yourself some time. But if its still an issue after you've given it a fair chance...re-evaluate and go from there Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 You have serious problems if you think like that! Better leave her now, then later, I mean the longer you wait, the harder you will break her heart as she will always be taller than you! Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 I'm 6'2". No I would not be comfortable with a girl who is taller than me! Link to post Share on other sites
indeed7 Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 If i see a couple where the girl is a bit taller it's really no big deal at all. Personally I like a bit shorter girls though. A girl who is taller than me would be a very tall girl indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
ManyDissapoint Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 My girlfriend is 1 inch taller than me and that has never been a problem. However, yesterday she had been shopping for new shoes and got a pair of sandals and a pair of stiletto's. Both have a quite high heel, the stiletto's even higher than the sandals. Yesterday evening she was wearing the sandals and I really didn't like it. I felt emasculated standing next to her. I'm wondering what other people's take on this is? Would you feel comfortable if your girlfriend is taller than you/you're taller than your boyfriend? And how would you look at a straight couple in which the girlfriend is clearly taller? Slowly rasp down her stilettos in the nighttime until the correct height is achieved. Repeat as necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 I actually tend to have a higher regard for men who are with taller women. It shows that they are not bothered by superficial things and have the balls and brains to carry it off. Far from being emasculated I think you should change your thinking to hey look at me I am such a hot man I have this really hot chick with the longest legs... I can tell you now other men will not think you wet they will be jealous of you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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