circlesinfinity Posted July 17, 2016 Share Posted July 17, 2016 (edited) Sometimes I wonder if I should just leave here because I can't find a boyfriend. I am not putting my need to live in the hands of someone else's approval but I just have a big heart and want to share it with someone....be intimate too. These guys don't even want to be friends with me. They ask me over their house when I barely know them or never want to take me on a date. These are the ones around my age and I don't want to date older men. I never had any long time friends because I had to move so much growing up. The ones that talk to me are either extremely old or ones that no one sane can deal with. I am not being snobbish or rude, but she guys are usually unstable and don't take care of themselves. ...online they have been crazy/mentally off or just the type of men anyone could not be safe around. I have tried smiling, online dating and taking periods of not thinking about it and focusing in on my career/hobbies. Everytime I tell someone that I would rather not think about love, they trigger me, like I should. What's the point of giving your energy to something that hasn't happened? I did everything right, stayed a virgin, was nice, put myself out there (even though I'm painful shy) and nothing. I dont know what else to do and I'm trying my best to give it until I'm 35... Nobody seems to believe that this is my real personality (I'm to good to be true, at lease this is what I've heard). They also don't believe that I am single, which is even more annoying, I don't know how else to say it because then I would seem desperate. I get accused of being desperate because I don't want to be friends with dudes that have girlfriends or wives (well sorry I just think that is weird). And I know I'm going to get crap for writing that but that's just how I am. What if I grow interested? That would hurt. Most of these men that are interested in me, that are stable, are with someone. I don't find out they are with someone until later on and by that time I've "lost contact" (on purpose) lol. My family doesn't know what level of emotional pain I am in...I told them a little but never this...:-( Edited July 17, 2016 by circlesinfinity Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 17, 2016 Share Posted July 17, 2016 How old are you? Do people consider you attractive? I would like more info so I can perhaps help. I've seen many girls / women who were BUTT UGLY and still found a guy. As a woman, there is some guy out there for you. I wonder if your social skills are the problem? Link to post Share on other sites
Author circlesinfinity Posted July 17, 2016 Author Share Posted July 17, 2016 How old are you? Do people consider you attractive? I would like more info so I can perhaps help. I've seen many girls / women who were BUTT UGLY and still found a guy. As a woman, there is some guy out there for you. I wonder if your social skills are the problem? Hi Seven city Yes people do consider me attractive but at times I don't know because of how they act towards me. I mean aren't "butt ugly"women kept behind closed doors? I don't know about social skills, I'm pretty introverted until I feel comfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted July 17, 2016 Share Posted July 17, 2016 It's hard to judge with the info given. I can tell you that more social people tend to get more bites. But if you are attractive and have a great personality there is no reason why a guy wouldn't want you. Unfortunately, people tend to make assumptions of others and if you are a good catch everyone would assume you were taken. Unfortunately, this only stops the nice guys lol. Have you tried something like eharmony? Where people are matched on compatibility? How about a dating coach? Have you ever asked a guy you liked out? If not, how about giving strong hints other than smiling? Link to post Share on other sites
Author circlesinfinity Posted July 18, 2016 Author Share Posted July 18, 2016 It's hard to judge with the info given. I can tell you that more social people tend to get more bites. But if you are attractive and have a great personality there is no reason why a guy wouldn't want you. Unfortunately, people tend to make assumptions of others and if you are a good catch everyone would assume you were taken. Unfortunately, this only stops the nice guys lol. Have you tried something like eharmony? Where people are matched on compatibility? How about a dating coach? Have you ever asked a guy you liked out? If not, how about giving strong hints other than smiling That's so true, all I do is talk to nice ones. They don't bite, at else I've dodged all the bad ones. I was never into them. I don't think I've tried eharmony. I can't afford a dating coach, I would get one in a heartbeat :-) or a matchmaker. I've asked one guy that I've liked to take me out and he kept saying things about going over his house. I told him people were lying to me about him being a good guy/nice because he keeps trying to get me over his house late! ? I have once given other hints, I asked one for his number, another to take me out and smiled at another... I don't know how long I'm suposed to keep the hints up because after a few monthsI, if they don't say anything, I feel like I'm wasting my time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author circlesinfinity Posted July 18, 2016 Author Share Posted July 18, 2016 I just really need someone special *crying* Link to post Share on other sites
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