standtall Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 Bryan...don't take the bait...get outta here for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BryanMar Posted July 22, 2016 Author Share Posted July 22, 2016 Thank you for everyone's advice. I'll take standtalls advice and sign out for now. Thanks again Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 "She said she didn't realize he was being flirtatious till the night he texted her to invite her to his room." this sounds pretty believable to me. She probably had no thoughts at all about flirting or cheating, and all his subtle advances went right over her head. Only when he asks her up to his room, THEN the lightbulb goes off over her head, and she realizes this is heading in a bad direction. I would give her a pass on this one. No polygraph, no third degree. You could keep watching, just in case, but I think you are in the clear. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 "She said she didn't realize he was being flirtatious till the night he texted her to invite her to his room." this sounds pretty believable to me. She probably had no thoughts at all about flirting or cheating, and all his subtle advances went right over her head. Only when he asks her up to his room, THEN the lightbulb goes off over her head, and she realizes this is heading in a bad direction. I would give her a pass on this one. No polygraph, no third degree. You could keep watching, just in case, but I think you are in the clear. Yeah, but the problem is, it was after the lightbulb that she reached out to this guy and invited him to a third dinner date. I get the sense that op is wanting to just get this buried and move on...there are some real issues here with her behavior. I'm one who believes that infidelity is never an isolated incident, rather a culmination of a series of actions or events that end with betrayal. Meaning the cheating happens after these other lesser issues or events are not dealt with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 It going over head would be believable IF she hadn't planned to meet him for dinner again AFTER she realized he intended to have her up to his room and also realized he was flirting. But she planned to meet him. And she kept it a secret from her husband. This WW can not claim innocence for she knew that the OM wanted to bed her. This WW allowed the OM to continue to pursue her knowing the OM's intentions. It was to much of an ego boost for her to stop the OM stroking her ego. WW's wind up in bed with the OM because they get hooked on having their ego stroked by the OM. So to continue the ego stroking they eventually decide to let the OM bed them. This is how patient player/OM work. Like a moth to a flame are the WW's. Play with fire and you eventually get burnt. Next trip, or the trip after the WW remembers how much fun it was to get her ego stroked an continues to do so with new OM. Until she meets an OM that is skilled enough to get her in bed and "stroke" her for real. This was a trial run for the WW. Without the BH not intervening and stopping the last date no one will ever know if his WW would of crossed the line. Standard WW response, only admit to want the BH can prove or knows. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
standtall Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 And now - no consequences. Indicative that she can do it again. Is there supposed to be a punishment? Why is everyone egging this guy on to burn his marriage to the ground by over reacting? Not everyone's spouse has followed the 12 step program to having an affair...she made a mistake and lied about it...who here has not done that? Bitterness is like a cancer..it eats upon the host. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted July 22, 2016 Share Posted July 22, 2016 With the thread starter saying he is done with the thread for now I think we will close this up so it doesn't turn into something negative, if the thread starter would like to re-open this thread in the future then alert on my post and we will do so. Thanks all who participated in this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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