moimeme Posted July 4, 2005 Share Posted July 4, 2005 There is definitely something with your Juliet that has turned *reluctant*Romeo to 'Poetic'*mellowed* Romeo. Yeah but he's borrowing Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Yeah but he's borrowing Since the original Romeo said that, I feel entitled to. Link to post Share on other sites
sammi_jay Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 i'd like to believe that, my first boyf cheated on me and then 3yrs later tried to come creeping back. My latest boyfriend (now x) thinks i cheated on him as i invited a male friend over who i'd not seen in quite along time and stupidly the guy decided to get into my bed and fall asleep when i was already in the land of nod. I didnt notice him there until the morning when my boyf walked in and truly believes i cheated on him regardless of me being totally innocent of any wrong doing, now he finished it. i'd like to think this will happen to him one day or a friend of his and he will realise i was being truthful all along and he threw away a perfectly happy relationship for somethin he wanted to believe was true. . . me cheating! I loved him and would never hurt him like that as i've been cheated on but clearly that wasnt enough for him. I hope he realises he made a mistake in giving up on me for somethin that didnt actually happen. I truly believe he will one day because i know that i have told him the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Everyone gets what is coming to them. But life is not fair, and whatever is in store for us - is something we ultimately can't change. In the case of dumpers and dumpees things are a bit obscured because of the emotional investments that were made once. In the process of coming to accept that the relationship is over, it is hard to accept that the dumper threw away what you believed to be both your happiness. But the dumper did not do that. There were issues in the relationship that led to that. Issues both the dumper and the dumpee may not have been aware of. When being dumped, the world does not end. It is a time to "reinvent" oneself. To learn. To see your past mistakes - and prepare for a better future. If the dumping process / relationship has been a very cruel one, chances are high that the dumper will not improve his ways. Until the dumper is confronted with their shortcomings, and flaws - most likely on the receiving end in a relationship. That might never happen. Link to post Share on other sites
cleebie Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 I don't think the dumper should be punished. It's not thier fault that they are still in the immature stage where they still feel love is some magical feeling (that infatuation you feel only at the beginning of the relationship) and as soon as that's gone, they feel they have to end the relationship. Once they mature a little more, they will realize that love is a decision that one makes, a choice. Love is a choice to commit and is all those other things the Bible says. Jesus gave us very clear instructions on what love is, and none if involved "feelings". But until the person realizes this, they will go through relationship after relationship thinking the love diappeared each time. I feel sorry for them I agree with the general gist of this but how long does it take for them to mature enough to realise that you cannot have the 'honeymoon' phase all the time and that love becomes a much deeper, stronger feeling and not, as much as we would like it to, forever the 'first flush of love', excitment stage. My ex is 38 and still hasn't learnt this. I am 34 and I am running out of time to find a man mature enough at this age to realise what love really is and not just dump me again 3 or 4 years in and have wasted more of what little 'long term relationship' time I have left. It is sad because I had found the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with but after 4.5 years together, he walks. I now feel that at 34, it is too late for me to find someone to settle down with and have children now. Sorry, hijacked this thread there for a moment......on the subject of 'what goes around, comes around' - I am not sure that people get what is coming to them - my ex left me for someone else and wasn't very nice about it but he always lands on his feet, he always gets everything he wants and life always goes his way no matter what he does or how he treats people - guess he is just lucky or just doesn't give a s**t. Maybe that is the way to be in life...if you don't care about anything or anyone , nothing or no-one can hurt you. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 5, 2005 Share Posted July 5, 2005 Originally posted by cleebie he always lands on his feet, he always gets everything he wants and life always goes his way no matter what he does It may appear this way. IME it's probably not true or won't be forever. Link to post Share on other sites
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