[I really do like this girl just don't know what to do]

[Junior23]

So I've been talking to this girl for about a month now, at first we talked all day everyday (she initiated all the time) and we instantly felt a connection. Keep in mind she's in Vegas I'm in Colorado. So we set out for her to fly out and stay for a couple days. I picked her up and we hit it off just fine I showed her around Colorado but we did fight a bit while she was here lol (she couldn't handle the altitude and was a bit moody) so we kinda just relaxed at my house for the remainder of her stay. She said she was happy just to be with me and even contacted me afterwards. We have been texting a lot less and don't even talk on the phone anymore. (Apparently her phone is not working) but some days well text very minimal and I think she's not intrested and then afterwards she will message me how much she misses me and will blow my Facebook up with sweet things a lot of the times. Thing is I'm not used to being sweet or clingy so when she doesn't text I kind of just wait for her to initiate and in some weird way it seems to keep us interested. If she wasn't intrested I would assume she would tell me or stop talkin to me all together I just don't know what to do at this point because I think me not trying to initiate contact kind of gets to her because she is always the one to text me first, and at rare times I'll message first. I really do like this girl just don't know what to do to be honest ?

Edited July 20, 2016 by Junior23

[TMichaels]

TBH, I think you've been reluctant to initiate much communication because you got mixed signals from her, and want her to affirm she's interested by letting her reach out to you. IOW, you're afraid she's going to cut you loose.

 

All well and good, but if she never wanted to talk to you again, she wouldn't, let alone be the lead person initiating contact.

 

If you like her and want to see her again, you're not going to get that by sitting idly by. You don't have to send her "mushy and sweet" messages, emails, or FB posts, especially if that's not "your style."

 

But, how hard is it to send a "Wassup" text, a link to a YouTube video you think is funny, a link to a new song you heard that you like and wonder if she's heard it yet, or ask if she has plans for the weekend, and if not, propose you watch a movie together online?

 

Point is, it's possible to show your interest in her in other ways than endless "I miss you, too-s" (which get old and boring fast), that don't take a whole lot of effort. But if you leave it up to her to initiate contact all the time, she's going to get tired of doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship, and you're going to drive yourself nuts wondering how things are between you when she doesn't respond right away or her communication lessens even for a legitimate reason.

 

Of course, if she doesn't reciprocate when you step up initiating more contact, then that's a different scenario. But why don't you try reaching out a couple times a week and see what happens. Like a lot of things in life, you get out of what you put into a relationship.

 

HTH,

TMichaels

[Junior23]

So I did contact her she did seem a bit distant lol so I gave her some space for a day..I just get really confused. She messaged me today and was really affectionate saying she really misses me and wants me to go see her already were planning a trip to la in 9 days. Maybe she's just busy? I believe it because she never posts on her fb or snapchat guess time will tell im not too stressed (yet) because obviously she does care in some way